Any Other LGBT Gamers Here?

[snowfi6916]

Well, I'm still new to the Escapist, and I've come out of the closet recently as transgendered. It always helps, I find, to make friends with like minded people. Nice to have support, aye?

So, just of out curiosity, any other trans gamers on the Escapist? I'd hate to be alone here.

You're not alone. I'm not trans, but bisexuality is a thing.

Also, I made a poll a while ago to assess the sexualities of the Escapist. I couldn't assess gender differences beyond male/female due to a limited number of choices available, but here it is [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.398724-Poll-SCIENCE-DEMANDS-ANSWER-Who-do-you-have-sexytimes-with?page=1].

Just so you can get an idea of the Lgbtqiiaaqwtfbbq population in the Escapist.

For future reference, you can either say LGBT, or say "quiltbag".

Queer/questioning
Undecided
Intersex
Lesbian
Transgender/Transsexual
Bisexual
Asexual
Gay

What exactly does "quiltbag" mean? I've never heard the term and I'm wondering if it's newer.

It's an acronym, like LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender). It stands for what I listed in the earlier post.

 

[Cowabungaa]

*raises hand* Non-straight (probably bisexual in some way) a-gender gamer here, and generally queer as hell. I'm new to it and I haven't really 'come out' yet. Not sure when or how I will do that.

I'm still not sure on how I want to express it either, or if I want to express it at all. I do know that I want to experiment with more feminine looks but for now that'd just be in private with my partner whom I completely trust with this. Hell she even likes it.

What I do know is that I don't identify myself as really male or female. I have traits of both and I don't think either side is really dominant in anything but my actual genitals. I've only been exploring all this for the past two months or so, so it's all new and shiny for me. Slightly frightening and intimidating as well.

What exactly does "quiltbag" mean? I've never heard the term and I'm wondering if it's newer.

A quiltbag:

Yeah okay, that one was too easy.

But seriously it says what the acronym means right in the post you quoted. And it's funny because it fits as well; a quiltbag is made out of patches of all kinds of colours. Just like the QUILTBAG/LGBTQ community!

 

[Miss Layton]

*raises hand* Non-straight (probably bisexual) a-gender gamer here, and generally queer as hell. I'm new to it and I haven't really 'come out' yet. Not sure when or how I will do that.

I'm still not sure on how I want to express it either, or if I want to express it at all. I do know that I want to experiment with more feminine looks but for now that'd just be in private with my partner whom I completely trust with this. Hell she even likes it.

What I do know is that I don't identify myself as really male or female. I have traits of both and I don't think either side is really dominant in anything but my actual genitals. I've only been exploring all this for the past two months or so, so it's all new and shiny for me. Slightly frightening and intimidating as well.

What exactly does "quiltbag" mean? I've never heard the term and I'm wondering if it's newer.

A quiltbag:

Yeah okay, that one was too easy.

But seriously it says what the acronym means right in the post you quoted. And it's funny because it fits as well; a quiltbag is made out of patches of all kinds of colours. Just like the QUILTBAG/LGBTQ community!

There actually are a few terms for people who identify neither as male or female. For some, bigendered. For others, genderqueer.

Trust me, I'm still sort of in your shoes. I may have only just come out of the closet, but I still get all sorts of butterflies in my stomach whenever I just want to take a walk outside as, well, myself.

It is a bit frightening and intimidating. It's a world of all sorts of possibilities, and sadly we still live in a time when a good portion of the population scorns anyone who deviates from social norms. It only makes sense you'd want to start out in private with trusted friends or loved ones, I know I did!

Experiment, try out what look suits you if you feel it's the best way of expressing who you are... for example, I like to be as overly feminine as possible to express the gender I identify with. If that's not your bag, you can always go for a more androgynous look.

 

[Darken12]

*snip*

Ah, I see what you mean. Welp, guess that thread (and chart) sounds awesome.

 

[Miss Layton]

Not sure if I should identify as LGBT or quiltbag or whatever you want to call it. I've always been straight but now leaning bicurious. As in I would like to try it once with a dude to see if I really can identify myself as bisexual.

snip

Hey there, welcome to the Escapist forum, as you can see you definitively aren't alone here. I hope you'll like it here.

Looking at your profile, you're in the same province as me (Québec) and I'm curious to know how things works here for transsexuals. I've heard that the operation is free if you identify yourself as a transsexual for two years. Don't know if it's true.

Also I've read that you moved to the big city, are you in Montreal or perhaps Québec city ? If you're in Montreal there's a couple places I would recommend you to go if you haven't been there before.
I don't know for Québec city though !
Also, are you a francophone (as in able to speak French fluently) ?

Anyway good luck my friend !

*Squee's*

Well, what were the odds?

*GLOMPS*

Well, to answer your questions in order.

- Well, as far as I know, Montreal's better than most major cities in regards to its attitude towards transsexuals and transgenders.
- Montreal. LOVE this town.
- Anglophone. My French is awful... and I come from a French family. I'm the black sheep in this case.

 

[Raspbryl]

*raises hand* Non-straight (probably bisexual) a-gender gamer here, and generally queer as hell. I'm new to it and I haven't really 'come out' yet. Not sure when or how I will do that.

I'm still not sure on how I want to express it either, or if I want to express it at all. I do know that I want to experiment with more feminine looks but for now that'd just be in private with my partner whom I completely trust with this. Hell she even likes it.

What I do know is that I don't identify myself as really male or female. I have traits of both and I don't think either side is really dominant in anything but my actual genitals. I've only been exploring all this for the past two months or so, so it's all new and shiny for me. Slightly frightening and intimidating as well.

What exactly does "quiltbag" mean? I've never heard the term and I'm wondering if it's newer.

A quiltbag:

Yeah okay, that one was too easy.

But seriously it says what the acronym means right in the post you quoted. And it's funny because it fits as well; a quiltbag is made out of patches of all kinds of colours. Just like the QUILTBAG/LGBTQ community!

There actually are a few terms for people who identify neither as male or female. For some, bigendered. For others, genderqueer.

Trust me, I'm still sort of in your shoes. I may have only just come out of the closet, but I still get all sorts of butterflies in my stomach whenever I just want to take a walk outside as, well, myself.

It is a bit frightening and intimidating. It's a world of all sorts of possibilities, and sadly we still live in a time when a good portion of the population scorns anyone who deviates from social norms. It only makes sense you'd want to start out in private with trusted friends or loved ones, I know I did!

Experiment, try out what look suits you if you feel it's the best way of expressing who you are... for example, I like to be as overly feminine as possible to express the gender I identify with. If that's not your bag, you can always go for a more androgynous look.

I actually never could identify one way or the other so I gave up on it. "I am myself, and if you don't like it you can go find a nice big lake to jump in mister!"

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

*snip*

Ah, I see what you mean. Welp, guess that thread (and chart) sounds awesome.

Here's the link to it:

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.402977-Gender-is-not-a-social-construct?page=1

Don't let the name fool you (I think it was named to get attention), it's a very positive thread. The chart is pretty prominent on the first page.

Enjoy. ^^

 

[Miss Layton]

*raises hand* Non-straight (probably bisexual) a-gender gamer here, and generally queer as hell. I'm new to it and I haven't really 'come out' yet. Not sure when or how I will do that.

I'm still not sure on how I want to express it either, or if I want to express it at all. I do know that I want to experiment with more feminine looks but for now that'd just be in private with my partner whom I completely trust with this. Hell she even likes it.

What I do know is that I don't identify myself as really male or female. I have traits of both and I don't think either side is really dominant in anything but my actual genitals. I've only been exploring all this for the past two months or so, so it's all new and shiny for me. Slightly frightening and intimidating as well.

What exactly does "quiltbag" mean? I've never heard the term and I'm wondering if it's newer.

A quiltbag:

Yeah okay, that one was too easy.

But seriously it says what the acronym means right in the post you quoted. And it's funny because it fits as well; a quiltbag is made out of patches of all kinds of colours. Just like the QUILTBAG/LGBTQ community!

There actually are a few terms for people who identify neither as male or female. For some, bigendered. For others, genderqueer.

Trust me, I'm still sort of in your shoes. I may have only just come out of the closet, but I still get all sorts of butterflies in my stomach whenever I just want to take a walk outside as, well, myself.

It is a bit frightening and intimidating. It's a world of all sorts of possibilities, and sadly we still live in a time when a good portion of the population scorns anyone who deviates from social norms. It only makes sense you'd want to start out in private with trusted friends or loved ones, I know I did!

Experiment, try out what look suits you if you feel it's the best way of expressing who you are... for example, I like to be as overly feminine as possible to express the gender I identify with. If that's not your bag, you can always go for a more androgynous look.

I actually never could identify one way or the other so I gave up on it. "I am myself, and if you don't like it you can go find a nice big lake to jump in mister!"

... I love you and your attitude. You're awesome.

 

[omicron1]

Not meaning any offence here, but it certainly is fascinating to see just how many transgendered people we have in this community. It's nice to have some diversity.

I'm not LGBT, although I guess I'm a little bicurious.

Is it surprising that those who eventually partake in the biggest escapism in existence tended towards escapism even prior to this? I mean, where else can a gal-to-be look and act like a gal without anyone saying "No"?

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Queer/questioning
Undecided
Intersex
Lesbian
Transgender/Transsexual
Bisexual
Asexual
Gay

What exactly does "quiltbag" mean? I've never heard the term and I'm wondering if it's newer.

The answer was in the post you quoted. Note the snowfi6916 quote above. Each word is one of the letters in QUILTBAG.

It is more inclusive than LGBT, and it is also easier to pronounce (plus a Quiltbag is an actual thing - a bag full of different kinds of cloth that are then sewn together, as noted by another poster).

 

[Raspbryl]

... I love you and your attitude. You're awesome.

Ha, naw I just got sick of people asking when I wasn't sure I really identified one way or the other.
So I just play it light and breezy, its worked so far..

 

[Miss Layton]

... I love you and your attitude. You're awesome.

Ha, naw I just got sick of people asking when I wasn't sure I really identified one way or the other.
So I just play it light and breezy, its worked so far..

Still, it's a great mindset to have, really.

 

[Raspbryl]

... I love you and your attitude. You're awesome.

Ha, naw I just got sick of people asking when I wasn't sure I really identified one way or the other.
So I just play it light and breezy, its worked so far..

Still, it's a great mindset to have, really.

when you're as socially awkward as I am you have a tendency to care quite a bit what people think of you.
loneliness is crushing and all the heat on both sides from these kinds of issues makes it even harder to make friends.

But, at some point you must care about yourself, caring about others is great but everyone needs some level of agency or you're just going to be stuck in an ocean of ever changing tides.

You can't please everyone, so why not choose to be happy yourself?

 

[Miss Layton]

... I love you and your attitude. You're awesome.

Ha, naw I just got sick of people asking when I wasn't sure I really identified one way or the other.
So I just play it light and breezy, its worked so far..

Still, it's a great mindset to have, really.

But, at some point you must care about yourself, caring about others is great but everyone needs some level of agency or you're just going to be stuck in an ocean of ever changing tides.

You can't please everyone, so why not choose to be happy yourself?

Damn right.

 

[TheDoctor455]

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Can an asexual join the party here?

I was mistaken for gay once, and bullied for it. I try not to dwell on it.

 

[The Funslinger]

Before I say what I really want to say, I want to put a little disclaimer. my life philosophy is "as long as you don't hurt other people (unless they want you to) then do or be who you want to be" and I'm not just saying that.

Right, now we got that out the way....

Why do full post op transgender folk hold onto there previous sex? Instead of "hi, I'm a girl/woman" I always find it's "hi, I'm a girl/woman but I was a guy".

Why are you putting that call back to your previous gender on the end? Surely, it's a big risk to yourself ... especially to any perspective partners!

I think it's kind of like admitting you cheated on somebody, you admit your affair/previous gender to make yourself feel better by not keeping a secret but you just hurt the other person, who is now forced to deal with the truth.

I am honestly just asking, if you do leave out your past gender then please don't respond. Thanks peoples!

People who are transgender want to be called the gender they see themselves as. A MtF (male to female) transgender individual wants to be called "she", not "he". It is incredibly rude and insensitive to do otherwise.

Now, if it is an honest mistake, they will let you know "I was born male, but I am female now, so please use female pronouns". Or something along those lines. If you CONTINUE to call her "him", you are being an asshole.

I haven't asked my transgender friends this, but I would imagine if they were to get involved in a serious relationship with someone, they would have to let them know at some point that they are trans.

Example: A friend of mine is MtF trans. If she gets into a relationship with another man, and it starts to get serious, she would have to let him know, regardless of whether she has had SRS surgery or not. Because even if she did have surgery, she wouldn't be able to have children.

At that point, it is up to the other person to decide what to do. Some love their partner so much that they will stay with them, regardless of whether they are trans or not. Some might leave.

See, this is the kind of stuff I mean "A friend of mine is MtF trans" ... no "a friend of mine is a boy" ... I know in this context that would be fucked up 'cos it would make fuck all sense but you get what I mean, hopefully.

I wasn't attacking your post, just using that example from it.

I just think that gender should be left in the past. Make up a lie that you can't have children, "I got tested when I was younger and I'm infertile".

Then again, who the fuck am I? In terms of socially acceptable I'm privileged, I'm a hetro white guy. I'm not saying I'm better than anybody just unfortunately other people get hate for who they are.

(sorry, thinking aloud now)

Well, if I were getting into a serious relationship with someone, I'd want to know about something like that before I made a commitment, so I'd say that's reason enough. It's cool that you're so open minded, but it's an area of discomfort for a lot of people.

I fully support LGBT people, etc, and am good friends with a couple, but that doesn't change what I am and am not comfortable with sexually.

 

[Miss Layton]

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Can an asexual join the party here?

I was mistaken for gay once, and bullied for it. I try not to dwell on it.

Sure!

*hugs*