Any reason one would NOT get bullied?

[Misterian]

here's something that baffled me for years, it's been months since I graduated from High School and I noticed something:

I've almost never been bullied in my life.

Afew people go out of their way to annoy or tease me, but the closest to bullying that after happened to me i think was my junior or senior year in High school, there was this one guy that sits in the seat just behind where I usually sit, who, I guess for shallow giggles, keeps trying to flick the back of my head, and that's very late in my school years, and even then the last I heard from that guy was that he was eventually expelled.

Other than that, no one has ever beaten be to a pulp, 'persuaded' me into giving them money, nothing of the sort.

I asked people about it in the past who knew about me, some said it might be because I don't stick out enough to be a qualifiable bully target, some said with the way I'm built that most potential bullies would think I look like I'd be too hard to overpower. On top of that, I live in Spokane, Washington State, US, which I do know has a decent police force and is overall somewhat safer than the average American city, the fact I've never even seen any gang bangers in my life might also have something to do with it.

But can anyone here come up with reasons why certain people would be safe from bullying? even if a school has had some amount of bullying activity?

 

[thiosk]

haha, gang bangers.

I was a target of torment in middle school, but I've never had a swirly and was never beat down.
The sub humans who populated my hometown weren't all bad -

 

[MassiveGeek]

I don't know.

I personally don't have a lot of close friends, I do have friends, but yeah. During my younger school years I had at most like 5 friends, and only one of them I'd spend a significant amount of time with.
I wasn't exactly bullied - I was ridiculed sometimes, squabbled with people and I certainly didn't get along with everyone(still don't). But it stopped rather soon after I realised that I was capable of actually defending myself, which was like three years ago. I'd say I'm good at arguing as well as making a case for myself(or have become good at it), even though I can lose my cool if people don't pay attention or ignore me.

So, well, I don't know why people wouldn't get bullied.

 

[Soviet Heavy]

Size. You wouldn't believe how little I was bothered in High School, stemming from the fact that I'm 6'3 and built like a brick shithouse.

 

[Daystar Clarion]

I was never bullied either.

I think I can attribute this to three things.

1: I was a funny guy. Humour is the quickest way to make someone like you (in my experience anyway).

2: Whenever I was confronted by someone physically, I held my own and gave as good as I got, if not more.

3: If I was ever confronted physically by more than one person, I had enough good friends who had my back that I was never in a situation to be outnumbered.

Also, I have mad ninja skills. All my enemies lie in shallow graves dotted across the landscape.

 

[The Funslinger]

Well, three reasons I could think of are:

A) Built in such a way as to come off too intimidating (as you said you seem to be)
B) Friends in high places, including (but not limited to) siblings/friends of siblings in years above. (Although unless you're in a very tight knit community, this protection would be temporary.)
C) Disarmingly charming/entertaining. However, in school a friend of mine sort of had this going for him in terms of wit. With the rest of his personality though, he just ended up being the equivalent of that thing on Jabba the Hutt's lap. He was entertaining, but nobody respected him. Not sure where he's at in college though.

I was only ever beaten up in early primary school. From then on, I just got into fights, which isn't really being bullied. There was some verbal stuff that really got to me and shattered me emotionally for a while in late primary school/early secondary school though. Those were an unstable few years...

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I was something of an anti-bully. I hunted down the bullies that bothered my friends and made sure they didn't anymore, even if they were bigger than me.

I've never really been bullied though. Other than the occasional annoyance here and there, anyway. I guess that when I hit puberty, I grew enough to be as big or bigger than some of the bullies that bothered my friends, and that stopped pretty quick.

Never really thought about why some people don't get bullied, but my guess is that those are the ones that either don't catch their interest, or stick up for themselves when they do ger annoyed.

 

[SwimmingRock]

Size. You wouldn't believe how little I was bothered in High School, stemming from the fact that I'm 6'3 and built like a brick shithouse.

This does seem to be a good deterrent. I hit puberty at 11 and was 6'2 by the time I turned 12. Add shoulders too wide to pass through some doors and it becomes clear why absolutely nobody ever messed with me. At age 14 I once pissed off and 18-year-old (by clumsy accident, I might add) and he turned around angry, saw me and sat back down quietly. So, yeah, looking like you can fuck the other dude up seems like a reason to not get bullied.

 

[Woodsey]

I've never been bullied either. Its kinda weird seeing how many people go on about it on the forums.

 

[repeating integers]

I was verbally bullied for years by loads of people, but it suddenly disappeared when my GCSEs started for some reason. No idea why. Maybe everyone just grew up enough by then to realise what idiots they'd been.

You're lucky, mate. Bullying's irritating.

 

[Garret866]

There are two types of bullies: the ones that want something and those not qualified to exist and should die while being shot repeatedly in the stomach..
You have avoided the first type because: you dont have the money(that they want to steal), or A+ grades in everything(that they want to have),or they dont percieve you as a threat to their false leadership of a gang/group of lackies.
and the second type is more rare, either you didnt encounter one or you got lucky you dont stand out.

 

[Rawne1980]

Never been bullied myself either.

Helped that I was a well built lad and I could fight.

Only once did someone attempt to bully me and he was very rapidly put in his place.

I had a few friends that were pretty quick with the wit aswell and they were left alone. The times people tried to verbally abuse them they made them look like absolute morons which was hilarious. Nobody physically tried anything because they were funny and likeable they made friends like me and a few others that wouldn't let anyone beat them.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

I imagine it has to do with confidence. You probably carry yourself with a fair degree of self-confidence and are usually surrounded by at least 2 or 3 good friends. Bullies always prey on those they perceive to be weaker/less confident then themselves so if you go around giving the impression of huge confidence then you're not going to be a viable target.

 

[Jodah]

I was the...nice bully (if it even works that way) in high school. I would never bully anyone unprovoked, nor would I bully females or disabled people, but I did have a short temper. So every annoying kid ended up feeling my wrath. I remember one time some idiot was mouthing off to me as I was opening my locker. When I got my combination in he was standing right by it, so I opened it really fast...gave him a nice goose egg on his forehead.

Most of the time, though I was the anti-bully. All the true bullies knew I could punch their teeth out their ass if I wanted to so they left me, and my friends, alone.

 

[GrimTuesday]

I think a lot of it was because I had older brothers who were well regarded and had a lot of friends who could wreck up your day if you pissed them off. Also I'm built like a tank (a fat tank, but still a tank) and I was well know for my strength.

The closest thing that ever happened to me was there was a guy who laughed at me when I took my shirt off in the locker room after football practice and started calling me names, he promply got dome rocked by my older brother.

 

[gazumped]

I thought I wasn't bullied because I'd help my classmates out with work (I was very clever for a kid, in a booksmart way not a smartarse way), but there were a lot of girls at my school that weren't in my classes that could have roughed me up.
One day I bumped into a few of them, they were aggressive at first. I stammered and stuttered a non-antagonising response and immediately their faces softened and they went "Awwww, she's so cute!"

I was neither smaller nor younger than them, but I guess I just give off the air of harmlessness. As one of my meaner friends said at the time "I can't pick on you, that would be like kicking a puppy."

Also, the captcha contains... Hebrew. Wut. *refresh*

 

[Mrmac23]

There are two types of bullies: the ones that want something and those not qualified to exist and should die while being shot repeatedly in the stomach..

Just being shot in the stomach? Are you sure about that? I'm thinking more along the lines of doing unspeakable things with a medieval flail. Also leeches.


OT: I generally do what The Valet does, only they are literally so idiotic they can't understand 2 words that come out of my mouth. They also think i have an overly posh accent because i'm British. ...Hang on, no, it's not British, i think they're looking for a word more along the lines of "coherent". I tend to attract a lot of hate from them. The best part? I've adapted to the point where i enjoy the verbal hatred because i like to see what insults they can come up with. I usually tend to laugh in their faces at their woeful inadequacy in verbal education.

Yes, i am a bit of a bastard thanks for asking.

 

[Keepeas]

Probably height and girth...those factors probably determine who is targeted by a bully...
and for that matter it probably determines who successfully bullies...