Anybody else still live at home?
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I'm 20 and I still live with my parents.
There is nothing I want more than to move out. Unfortunately, that's probably not going to happen for quite some time.
To be honest it feels kind of painful to watch as my friends move out of their own parent's homes to live on their own while I'm still stuck here.
Hopefully this year I can find a paying job so I can actually save up for an apartment or something.
There is nothing I want more than to move out. Unfortunately, that's probably not going to happen for quite some time.
To be honest it feels kind of painful to watch as my friends move out of their own parent's homes to live on their own while I'm still stuck here.
Hopefully this year I can find a paying job so I can actually save up for an apartment or something.
21, living with grandparents.
Used to live at boyfriends house with his parents, had to move due to severe allergy to pet bird.
Job market is rubbish at the moment, worse still for someone who has spent the last two years in and out of hospital, so until me and my boyfriend can find something, I'm here and he's there.
Used to live at boyfriends house with his parents, had to move due to severe allergy to pet bird.
Job market is rubbish at the moment, worse still for someone who has spent the last two years in and out of hospital, so until me and my boyfriend can find something, I'm here and he's there.
I'm 23, and still live at home. I have no problem with it.
I'll move out once my university is complete and I actually have a steady job. Then, I will get out post haste.
I'll move out once my university is complete and I actually have a steady job. Then, I will get out post haste.
I'm 24 now and have only been living on my own (although with roomates who are my siblings or half-siblings) for about 6 months now. Hell technically the apartment is still under my mothers name since I used to live here with her until she moved out. Essentially I stayed with one of my parents through my undergrad because I couldn't afford rent and tuition at the same time. Granted I'm doing another degree now but I was able to get a mre substantial government bursary this time round so I'm able to live nicely despite spending most of my time studying and being relatively poor.
There is no shame being in your early 20s and still at home. Seriously. Also my rent is 890$ a month for a pretty nice apartment in the suburbs, split 3 ways my rent is dirt cheap.
There is no shame being in your early 20s and still at home. Seriously. Also my rent is 890$ a month for a pretty nice apartment in the suburbs, split 3 ways my rent is dirt cheap.
My mom and I both left the province when I went to university, but I'm now living with family friends who don't make me pay rent so it's the same thing really, and I'm 23. It's not exactly rare, and for a lot of people it's smarter to get as many other things as possible stable before they run out into the world. Occasionally people who have been more fortunate or more focused are going to get high and mighty about it, but honestly what works for them doesn't work for everyone. My mom moved out when she was 17, and spent years barely surviving, but she's always been a lot tougher than me.
Still, if I can make a couple of suggestions (as someone who's planning to move out in may, since I finally found a service industry job, partly due to a great interview and largely due to help from a friend), it's this: prepare properly. Don't move out with no savings, find out who you can count on support from if things go wrong, move in with other people if possible (it's safer, better for you socially, and cheaper to have roommates you trust than to have a whole apartment to yourself), and be employed before you go anywhere. For one thing, no landlord will take you if you don't have a job, unless you're a full-time student and even then it's iffy. Poverty is self-sustaining. If you have no savings, the first big unexpected cost is going to drop you into debt and that's a hole you don't want to fall into. living with the family may be annoying and demoralizing (though seriously, in this economy people who think someone's a failure because they haven't moved out at 20 need to shut the hell up) but it's better than having to live off handouts or come crawling back because you couldn't pay rent. Pride and frustration are not good enough reasons to make rash financial decisions.
Still, if I can make a couple of suggestions (as someone who's planning to move out in may, since I finally found a service industry job, partly due to a great interview and largely due to help from a friend), it's this: prepare properly. Don't move out with no savings, find out who you can count on support from if things go wrong, move in with other people if possible (it's safer, better for you socially, and cheaper to have roommates you trust than to have a whole apartment to yourself), and be employed before you go anywhere. For one thing, no landlord will take you if you don't have a job, unless you're a full-time student and even then it's iffy. Poverty is self-sustaining. If you have no savings, the first big unexpected cost is going to drop you into debt and that's a hole you don't want to fall into. living with the family may be annoying and demoralizing (though seriously, in this economy people who think someone's a failure because they haven't moved out at 20 need to shut the hell up) but it's better than having to live off handouts or come crawling back because you couldn't pay rent. Pride and frustration are not good enough reasons to make rash financial decisions.
I live my parents yes. I also go to college and work but there is a plan to move out, just working on the apartment.
My mom and I both left the province when I went to university, but I'm now living with family friends who don't make me pay rent so it's the same thing really, and I'm 23. It's not exactly rare, and for a lot of people it's smarter to get as many other things as possible stable before they run out into the world. Occasionally people who have been more fortunate or more focused are going to get high and mighty about it, but honestly what works for them doesn't work for everyone. My mom moved out when she was 17, and spent years barely surviving, but she's always been a lot tougher than me.
Still, if I can make a couple of suggestions (as someone who's planning to move out in may, since I finally found a service industry job, partly due to a great interview and largely due to help from a friend), it's this: prepare properly. Don't move out with no savings, find out who you can count on support from if things go wrong, move in with other people if possible (it's safer, better for you socially, and cheaper to have roommates you trust than to have a whole apartment to yourself), and be employed before you go anywhere. For one thing, no landlord will take you if you don't have a job, unless you're a full-time student and even then it's iffy. Poverty is self-sustaining. If you have no savings, the first big unexpected cost is going to drop you into debt and that's a hole you don't want to fall into. living with the family may be annoying and demoralizing (though seriously, in this economy people who think someone's a failure because they haven't moved out at 20 need to shut the hell up) but it's better than having to live off handouts or come crawling back because you couldn't pay rent. Pride and frustration are not good enough reasons to make rash financial decisions.
(edit: sorry, repost due to internet weirdness)
Still, if I can make a couple of suggestions (as someone who's planning to move out in may, since I finally found a service industry job, partly due to a great interview and largely due to help from a friend), it's this: prepare properly. Don't move out with no savings, find out who you can count on support from if things go wrong, move in with other people if possible (it's safer, better for you socially, and cheaper to have roommates you trust than to have a whole apartment to yourself), and be employed before you go anywhere. For one thing, no landlord will take you if you don't have a job, unless you're a full-time student and even then it's iffy. Poverty is self-sustaining. If you have no savings, the first big unexpected cost is going to drop you into debt and that's a hole you don't want to fall into. living with the family may be annoying and demoralizing (though seriously, in this economy people who think someone's a failure because they haven't moved out at 20 need to shut the hell up) but it's better than having to live off handouts or come crawling back because you couldn't pay rent. Pride and frustration are not good enough reasons to make rash financial decisions.
(edit: sorry, repost due to internet weirdness)
28 living with my parents as I finish up college. I get financial aid but it is not enough for me to live on my own so sadly I am living with them.
I'm 21 and I still live with my Dad, mostly because college is only a half-hour commute away, so leaving and renting a place would be a waste of money. I do plan to leave when I (hopefully) enter employment after my course is finished in the summer, however.
22 and still living at home... due to um... personal reasons. But I'm doing part-time community college, and plan to get a job soon, so there's that.
I briefly moved out for a semester but couldn't find a job or make enough income to stay in my apartment, and I wasn't willing to get a loan. I moved back and have been saving money every day to get ready for next semester while I attend a sh*tty community college.
I'm 24 and still live at home, but only to help save up for my wedding in June and for an apartment for my fiance and me to live in while we eventually save for a house.
I wouldn't worry too much about living at home. It might feel like a restricted freedom, but there is a lot less responsibility included. I worked in a different city last year so I had an apartment. It was a nice apartment and I loved the freedom, but there was a lot of extra responsibilities. After I was laid off and came back home, I moved back in with my parents to start saving for June.
So my advice is this: suck it up for now. A lot of 21-year-olds still live at home for a number of reasons. Live at home while you go back to school, find a good job, and then find a good place to live. With the times like they are, I don't think there many bad reasons to still be living with your parents. You should not be ashamed, just use it as motivation.
I wouldn't worry too much about living at home. It might feel like a restricted freedom, but there is a lot less responsibility included. I worked in a different city last year so I had an apartment. It was a nice apartment and I loved the freedom, but there was a lot of extra responsibilities. After I was laid off and came back home, I moved back in with my parents to start saving for June.
So my advice is this: suck it up for now. A lot of 21-year-olds still live at home for a number of reasons. Live at home while you go back to school, find a good job, and then find a good place to live. With the times like they are, I don't think there many bad reasons to still be living with your parents. You should not be ashamed, just use it as motivation.
23, living with my maman, ran out of money before I could finish college. it's a weird place in between adult and child that is...uncomfortable to say the least.
...how exactly is it shameful to still be living in your parents house? What, is it some unspoken taboo for your parents to love and respect you enough to let you live in the house for as long as you want? When did it become a misconception for a young adult to still live at home?
Some of us are not financially secure enough to live on our own. Don't feel sorry for yourself.
I'm 21 and I still live at home with my Mom and Step-dad. They don't charge me rent and they enjoy my company because I take care of the house and my aging dog. I wouldn't dream of moving out until I am ready. I follow the rules, I do what I am supposed to do, and I am able to live there scot/guilt free. Until I graduate college, I'm perfectly happy where I am, as old as I am.
[sub]I'm just lucky enough to have a well-paying job, I guess.[/sub]
Some of us are not financially secure enough to live on our own. Don't feel sorry for yourself.
I'm 21 and I still live at home with my Mom and Step-dad. They don't charge me rent and they enjoy my company because I take care of the house and my aging dog. I wouldn't dream of moving out until I am ready. I follow the rules, I do what I am supposed to do, and I am able to live there scot/guilt free. Until I graduate college, I'm perfectly happy where I am, as old as I am.
[sub]I'm just lucky enough to have a well-paying job, I guess.[/sub]
I wouldn't complain in your situation, I was living at home til I was 24, of course I had no money even though i was working cuz guess what, I had to pay a big chunk of the rent and I paid for cable, hydro, internet, phone and half the food... you have the oppertunity to continue your education, you have a vehicle that is far from shitty, you can obviouslt afford to drive it, and your parents havent kicked your ass out or made you pay for like everything so count it a blessing mate...Gorilla Gunk said:
on the other hand, life on your own offers greater freedom, but you have to do all the work around the house alone, and depending on how big a place you live in, it can be like a second job, so if you're going to school and working, don't move out, stay there til you're clear of school and get your arse into a job securely that can pay your bills while you career hunt.