conflictofinterests said:
Kpt._Rob said:
What is it with this website and fetishes? It seems like every day I see a new thread devoted to discussing fetishes. Also, props to the OP for asking for ours and not listing his own.
Anyways, I would say that I don't really even find the idea of fetishes valid, so while I probably do have some strange (in a relative sense) sexual predilections, I don't consider them fetishes, and I don't really find myself bound to them by any means.
I don't understand what you mean by "you don't find the idea of fetishes valid." Could you please elaborate?
OT: I'm into hypnosis, vore (if you don't know, you probably don't want to know), bukake, being dominated, and occasionally being humiliated. I'm also vaguely asexual in that I don't become aroused by the human form (or form in general) so these fetishes and paraphilias are pretty much the only ways I can get off. EDIT: Oh right, I get turned on by intelligence too. Can't forget that one.
We assign a certain set of things as having "sexual values," and all other things to which people find themselves sexually attracted are considered fetishes. Sexual predilections drawn from the first category (T&A, youth, boyish good looks, beauty or handsomeness, etc...) are called "normal" and sexual predilections derived from the second category, those we call fetishes, abnormal. But it just seems too arbitrary to me, normal and abnormal are relative terms, one meaningless without the other, and there isn't some spot where one can go to read the magical universal laws written by whatever the divine powers that be are which state decisively what is or is not normal to find sexually attractive. At best, we can say that these things occur across a continuum, with more commonly held desires at one end, and less commonly held desires at the other, but if this is the case then we face the classic logic class problem, "the problem of the heap," here this means that there are no clear cut rules for how to decide what is or is not a fetish, and since my personal take on the issue is that it does more harm than good to even bother differentiating I do not look at the term fetish as having validity.