Palindromemordnilap said:
"Oh well I personally never see any examples of discrimination so it clearly must not exist" -Kerg39726
That's not my position. I believe it certainly exists, but I think some people exaggerate how often it actually occurs.
Agema said:
On the other hand, people really can be verbally bullied into suicide. If it is possible to make someone prefer to destroy themselves rather than face more words, then words surely have considerable capacity for harm. Thus why I object to the saying "Sticks and stones...", because it's patently untrue.
I don't have a problem with someone facing criminal prosecution if their words coerce someone into suicide. That's measurable harm that can be reasonably proven in court. For example, the Conrad Roy case [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Conrad_Roy]. What she did was wrong, and I think it's good that she had to face consequences for it.
What I don't like is people pushing for laws that say that "these words" are illegal, across the board, no matter the context, no matter the harm actually created, which as I said is hard to measure in most cases. It's too vague and subjective.
Agema said:
I would say in a general sense there are surely are ways of measuring outputs from words. For instance, we could make the ask a lot of people how upset they'd be if certain things were said to them. The population average would therefore indicate the likely distress to any individual of something said.
Interesting idea, but I still don't think that would be a good measurement of harm.
We can't protect everyone from every negative emotion elicited by words. That's part of life. So maybe "sticks and stones" is not true in all cases, but I think it works most of the time, and it's a very healthy motto. Trying to be tough and not let mere words ruin your day is a very healthy practice. I consider toughness to be a virtue. I know some would disagree, and I can't understand that line of thinking.
trunkage said:
If you going to claim the Freedom of Speech is good, please also makes sure you cover every unintended consequences. You list only includes minor negative issues - there are way bigger problems with FoS.
Fair enough. I would add that I don't just think freedom of speech is good. I think it's the primary difference between the U.S. and countries like Russia and China. The idea of not having freedom of speech terrifies me. Yet billions live without that freedom every day. I maintain that the unintended consequences that we live with are far better than the alternative.
Saelune said:
I would say He is a bigot and a white supremacist.
I disagree. I just don't see any evidence of that. I think he fully believes that Nazism is bad, which is
exactly why he used it as a prank on his girlfriend. If I'm driving in my car and let out a fart, and laugh when my wife bitches and tells me to roll a window down, it doesn't mean that I think my farts smell wonderful. It means exactly the opposite, actually.
Saelune said:
... I do think we need to protect the freedom to disagree with others, but within reason.
To me that sounds like you want to protect the freedom to disagree only if it's a disagreement that
you agree with. And that's precisely why it's a dangerous idea.
Saelune said:
The right however are full of straight up white supremacists who murder people with cars and chant 'Jews will not replace us' with Tiki torches.
Really? Full of people like that? I'm certainly no defender of the right, but that's a straight up whopper. It's a tiny fringe of the right.
Something Amyss said:
Kerg3927 said:
I have never heard anyone say that women or LGBT people tend to be poor. I think now you're just making shit up.
You have a point. Typing "LGBT poverty" into Google got me nearly 10 million hits including scholarly articles, multiple studies, and dozens of ways to address it, but
you've never heard of it, which is a good indicator Saelune is making shit up.
I saw those. Do you know what "tend to" means? It means more likely than not. And in the first page or two of google results that I scanned over, I didn't see any that said that more than half of LGBT people are poor. And yes, I've never heard anyone say that, until this thread.
Something Amyss said:
Black people, I agree, and I'm sympathetic to the plight of poor black people, as I am to all poor people, regardless of the color of their skin.
ALL lives matter!
Yes, unless you're a racist.
Something Amyss said:
Saelune said:
No. Were you? If so, maybe you should sue, because I'm pretty sure that's illegal in most states.
19 states--less than half--protect you from being fired for sexuality, fewer for gender identity. That's not even close to most states, and just on a single issue. It's barely more than a third.
I assumed it was far more than that. I was wrong. Thanks for the correction. The number I just saw was 22 [https://www.rollingstone.com/politics/politics-news/how-is-it-still-legal-to-fire-someone-for-being-gay-253661/]. I hope the rest of the states soon incorporate it.
Something Amyss said:
More importantly, though, "you should sue" is a pretty tone deaf response. Not only is there a propensity towards homelessness and poverty in LGBT populations, something being against the law doesn't mean that you will see justice for it. If you don't believe the LGBT population, why don't you ask the black population, since you believe that they see discrimination.
Lawsuits cost money, and if you're poor and/or homeless, you don't have the luxury of just tossing money at a legal system which has been historically against you in the first place. Firms that take a cut of your winnings are only going to take cases where there's a strong chance of victory, so they tend not to touch LGBT harassment and discrimination cases. There are multiple types of jury nullification used in jury cases regarding LGBT individuals, which, while illegal, do happen.
You say you're not throwing anyone under the bus, but the dismissive way with which you write off the problems facing others really does qualify. Especially when your response to LGBT poverty issues is "oh hey, I found one source that doesn't sound TOO bad...."
I know how the legal system works. It's all about who can afford the best lawyers. Rich people usually get the best results. Poor people often get screwed. It sucks, but it's the best system we have. If you have any ideas about how it can be made more equitable, I'm all ears.
I'm sorry if you feel that I am tone deaf. I acknowledge that there are problems out there. There always will be, but I'm all for improving the plight of people facing actual hardships that are occurring through no fault of their own. I would just like to see the issues discussed logically and practically without exaggerating and sensationalizing the degree of the problem and without calling for punitive reverse discrimination against some imagined boogeyman.