I'm not too good at making new friends, but I'm generally alright with just sort of drifting over to my already friends, and becoming friends with their friends, if that makes sense..
Are You A Loner?
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While I am generally an introvert, I do have a small, close group of friends I'm in regular contact with, my studies tend to make it hard to meet people outside of my research group anyway.
I have an extremely small core group of friends, who I very rarely see.
I love the peace that solitude and loneliness brings,and the feeling that I can think or do anything I want but very quietly.
I lack the proper skill to actually talk to people properly and meet people properly, I talk very quietly, tend to say ''um'' after every second word, and my mind sometimes trails off, leaving me haveing no solid memory of what I was talking about.
I do tend to unqillingly make friends, but with minimal speech, simply by sharing interests, but that's about it.the main core friends I knew for many years only surfaced as they were the freind making type.
I'm not very friendly, and when I do get a decent trail of words going, I tend to...'accidentally' insult everyones intelligence and personality, calling out many flaws in those people,and seem to enjoy, it, and I do.
I just get a rush when critisising things while not randomly ranting and raving pointless bullshit, but using proper facts usually discovered at the spur of the moment.
Basically, I'm a shy,anti-social introverted, jerkwad cynic and I love it.
I love the peace that solitude and loneliness brings,and the feeling that I can think or do anything I want but very quietly.
I lack the proper skill to actually talk to people properly and meet people properly, I talk very quietly, tend to say ''um'' after every second word, and my mind sometimes trails off, leaving me haveing no solid memory of what I was talking about.
I do tend to unqillingly make friends, but with minimal speech, simply by sharing interests, but that's about it.the main core friends I knew for many years only surfaced as they were the freind making type.
I'm not very friendly, and when I do get a decent trail of words going, I tend to...'accidentally' insult everyones intelligence and personality, calling out many flaws in those people,and seem to enjoy, it, and I do.
I just get a rush when critisising things while not randomly ranting and raving pointless bullshit, but using proper facts usually discovered at the spur of the moment.
Basically, I'm a shy,anti-social introverted, jerkwad cynic and I love it.
Man I find it terrible that I find this thread amusing. There has always been gamers who claim that the stereotype of gamers being loners is not accurate, and then one of these threads pops up. It's kind of depressing in a way.
This is one of the reasons I don't define myself as a gamer, the definition of a gamer is so sad but true so I'm glad that I don't fit into the description.
OT: Nah, I got a whole bunch of friends, I live in a house far out of town but whenever I'm in town I try to spend as much time as I can there with my friends. When I think about it, almost everyone I have ever met has liked me and the few who did dislike me later got to know me so they realized that I'm a pretty nice guy.
It's not hard getting friends, you just have to take the first step.
Oh, and I love hanging out with strangers too, it's kind of mysterious, kind of like Skyrim, you never know what will be hiding behind the next hill.
This is one of the reasons I don't define myself as a gamer, the definition of a gamer is so sad but true so I'm glad that I don't fit into the description.
OT: Nah, I got a whole bunch of friends, I live in a house far out of town but whenever I'm in town I try to spend as much time as I can there with my friends. When I think about it, almost everyone I have ever met has liked me and the few who did dislike me later got to know me so they realized that I'm a pretty nice guy.
It's not hard getting friends, you just have to take the first step.
Oh, and I love hanging out with strangers too, it's kind of mysterious, kind of like Skyrim, you never know what will be hiding behind the next hill.
Loner is sort of a derogatory, or negative term. Introvert is better and as someone familiar with Jung's view on introversion and extroversion to some degree can say, I'd fit the bill.
I have no problems socializing, it is just that doing so is physically exhausting for me, the social gathering I've had to spend most effort in, AKA I got a lot of attention lasted about 30 minutes to an hour or so, then I went outside to relax for a bit and ended up falling asleep for a good 10 - 30 minutes only to be found and shook out of my sleep. Being an introvert usually brands me cold, anti-social, shy, and more. But the simple fact is, being alone with my thoughts, a book or some other entertainment is usually more relaxing, fun and generally better than being with other people.
I have no problems socializing, it is just that doing so is physically exhausting for me, the social gathering I've had to spend most effort in, AKA I got a lot of attention lasted about 30 minutes to an hour or so, then I went outside to relax for a bit and ended up falling asleep for a good 10 - 30 minutes only to be found and shook out of my sleep. Being an introvert usually brands me cold, anti-social, shy, and more. But the simple fact is, being alone with my thoughts, a book or some other entertainment is usually more relaxing, fun and generally better than being with other people.
See I was going to say that since I'm in a band I can't really be a loner since I'm part of a group but when there isn't a gig I prefer to sit in the basement and play video games. I suppose the fact that I choose video games over actually interacting with people makes me a loner in some aspect.Parkway91 said:
So yes, I am a loner. Kinda.
I was a loner for most my life. I was beaten both mentally and physically in grade school so I kept away from others. I recall a time when someone tried to shake my hand and I backed away from them scared out of my mind. I thought for sure it was a trick and they were going to hurt me the second they grabbed my hand.
I also was a science fanatic my peers except for 1 couldn't even keep up with the most general of subject I knew. Even worse they couldn't even begin to comprehend it so they thought I was a stupid idiot.
Honestly it wasn't until high school that I really had any friends and understanding to go with it. Ever since then I've always held on to those friendships.
Don't understand why anyone would choose to be a loner. I hated it. I felt like an alien from another world and spent most of my childhood bedtime crying into my pillow. It sucked. No one should choose to feel that painfully alone.
Just boggles my mind how anyone could enjoy that.
I also was a science fanatic my peers except for 1 couldn't even keep up with the most general of subject I knew. Even worse they couldn't even begin to comprehend it so they thought I was a stupid idiot.
Honestly it wasn't until high school that I really had any friends and understanding to go with it. Ever since then I've always held on to those friendships.
Don't understand why anyone would choose to be a loner. I hated it. I felt like an alien from another world and spent most of my childhood bedtime crying into my pillow. It sucked. No one should choose to feel that painfully alone.
Just boggles my mind how anyone could enjoy that.
Yes, very much so. I hate being around other people. I despise social contact. Were I the last man on Earth, I'd be nothing if not content. To say I'm antisocial is putting it mildly.
And this all stems from my crippling social anxiety disorder. Being around even one stranger makes me feel ill. Actually having to interact with said stranger makes me want to commit acts of violence. Social interaction for me is pure torture.
And this all stems from my crippling social anxiety disorder. Being around even one stranger makes me feel ill. Actually having to interact with said stranger makes me want to commit acts of violence. Social interaction for me is pure torture.
I think that summarizes it for me as well. I don't actually like being alone, not at all actually. I want to share my geeky hobbies with others, makes them so much more fun. But sadly all my geeky friends live kinda far away and they have their own pre-college friend groups they still hang out with.EeveeElectro said:
I'm really happy that I actually made friends this year. Makes me wonder how I survived those two hermit-like years. But I sure would like to hang out with them more often.
I used to be, but at some point in the last year or so, something snapped in my brain and I don't want to be anymore. I've bitched about it in various threads and it's really tricky to break out of the funk this late in the game. I remember having friends and putting myself into self imposed exile because they were so utterly irritating. I don't know why it didn't occur to me to just make new friends, but they certainly weren't my path to doing so.
Biweekly? What are you, Hugh Hefner?Creator002 said:
I prefer sticking to myself, however I do like socializing too. I think I am a bit like George Carlin in that I like people but prefer them in short bursts. Close friends and famliy are obviously exempt from this, for the sake of practicality.
But, if I do not get a certain degree of alone time per day, my patience for people quickly runs thin.
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But, if I do not get a certain degree of alone time per day, my patience for people quickly runs thin.
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I used to be, and not always by choice. For a long time I had some pretty crappy 'friends'. Now it's pretty different, I've got an awesome circle of friends and we get out quite a bit. I still need my own time and space on a regular basis, but I've found a balance that works for me for the most part.
I am an introvert... meaning that I gather my energy and motivation from inside. I don't need people around me, and rarely feel truely lonely, but I do have to limit my hiding away, and keep it in moderation. I am quite a social person, and I get on with practically everyone I meet, and I do quite well in smaller social gatherings...