Are You A Loner?
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I'm the same way.
There is a calmness that I feel when I am alone, there are no human voices to bother me. For instance if I was outside the world would seem deep to me, mysterious with wonders that I cannot comprehend and I am the main observer. When another person is present the moment feels "contaminated" to me. When I am home alone there is nothing to bother my thoughts, I feel calmer when I am alone and feel like myself. There is also nothing i'd rather do than to sit in my chair in front of my core i7 computer which I spent three years to build and just do stuff I like (no not porn, seriously for whatever reason it's never watching that stuff that I do) it is where I feel like I have truly found my center and I feel at peace and full of calmness. Sometimes I wonder if I am wasting my life away in front of my computer, if I am wasting time I could have spent with loved ones while they are still alive and will regret it once they are gone, if there are better things I could be spending my time on but when I look back and ask myself "am I happy?" I answer yes, I am.
I really enjoy being alone and the idea of going dancing to a club to meet new people sounds extremely unfun. Whenever someone says that they'v got a girlfriend I cringe inside, the thought of having to spend time with another instead of being alone to yourself....How do you get any pleasure from that? Is it about sex? I also disapprove of any act done for the sake of getting a euphoric reaction, we are all in a way slaves to our own bodies. It rewards us with "feel good" chemicals when we do what it wants and "feel bad" chemicals when we do not. Doing drugs, having sex, smoking and drinking are habits that make me think less of a person and all for the same reason you'd think less of a junky. It's not healthy and you are giving in to a will that is not your own. You aren't really doing what you want to do, you are either doing what your peers want to or what your body wants to and not doing what I want to do sounds horrid.
There is a calmness that I feel when I am alone, there are no human voices to bother me. For instance if I was outside the world would seem deep to me, mysterious with wonders that I cannot comprehend and I am the main observer. When another person is present the moment feels "contaminated" to me. When I am home alone there is nothing to bother my thoughts, I feel calmer when I am alone and feel like myself. There is also nothing i'd rather do than to sit in my chair in front of my core i7 computer which I spent three years to build and just do stuff I like (no not porn, seriously for whatever reason it's never watching that stuff that I do) it is where I feel like I have truly found my center and I feel at peace and full of calmness. Sometimes I wonder if I am wasting my life away in front of my computer, if I am wasting time I could have spent with loved ones while they are still alive and will regret it once they are gone, if there are better things I could be spending my time on but when I look back and ask myself "am I happy?" I answer yes, I am.
I really enjoy being alone and the idea of going dancing to a club to meet new people sounds extremely unfun. Whenever someone says that they'v got a girlfriend I cringe inside, the thought of having to spend time with another instead of being alone to yourself....How do you get any pleasure from that? Is it about sex? I also disapprove of any act done for the sake of getting a euphoric reaction, we are all in a way slaves to our own bodies. It rewards us with "feel good" chemicals when we do what it wants and "feel bad" chemicals when we do not. Doing drugs, having sex, smoking and drinking are habits that make me think less of a person and all for the same reason you'd think less of a junky. It's not healthy and you are giving in to a will that is not your own. You aren't really doing what you want to do, you are either doing what your peers want to or what your body wants to and not doing what I want to do sounds horrid.
That sounds a tad harsh.Kevlar Eater said:
My "situation" is not identical to the poster you quoted, but I am too almost always the one who seeks his friends out or makes the contact first. Does that make my friends "strangers with names", as you put it? I'd argue "no". It is a far stronger likelihood that my friends simply see this as the way things are, and are content with that.
If I broke off with them, they would very much care. To the extent that they would actually seek me out and make the contact first.
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OT: Yes, i do prefer solitude - and ive no mental condition (That im aware of!)
But yeah, it's alright. I do like the peace and quiet
I'm a bit of a loner, but no where near as much as I used to be. Now, I'd rather hang out with friends than be alone, but I'm still perfectly comfortable being alone.
Consider that I lived in the middle of nowhere and have no friend over here, I can't help to be a loner. Well ok I can still try to make friend over here so I am a loner out of my choice.
You're not the only one OP as I do prefer solitude and my family whink I'm weird for not socializing enough.
Granted I am not truely alone as I do got close friends who I met from University who I had kept in touch to this day. I make alot of effort to meet up with my best friend (he lived far away so I take a train ride which last for two hours but it had always been worth it just to see and talked to my mate. Yes we talked vis msn but face to face is better).
You're not the only one OP as I do prefer solitude and my family whink I'm weird for not socializing enough.
Granted I am not truely alone as I do got close friends who I met from University who I had kept in touch to this day. I make alot of effort to meet up with my best friend (he lived far away so I take a train ride which last for two hours but it had always been worth it just to see and talked to my mate. Yes we talked vis msn but face to face is better).
I'm an introvert. I find too much social interaction exhausting, and I need time to myself to recharge my batteries.
Yes and no.
In social occasions I prefer not take the initiative and will be content with simply hanging back. I also enjoy my own company.
But don't get me wrong, I do like to see my friends, I just prefer the quiet and solitude.
In social occasions I prefer not take the initiative and will be content with simply hanging back. I also enjoy my own company.
But don't get me wrong, I do like to see my friends, I just prefer the quiet and solitude.
I would have to say the same. I think it is that I like having a lot of personal time to pursue my own interests, and it seems like too many people think friendship means you have to stay in contact practically every day and know what friends are doing every day.Matthew94 said:
My core friends and I understand that we have our own lives and time schedules, so we really only meet up in person a couple times a month and then a few times over Xbox Live.
My mom never seems to understand it. Because there are times that I and one of my friends are both busy, and we don't speak for a week or more, and during those times, my mom always asks if I got into a fight with my friends since we haven't been in contact much or at all for that time.
Nope, not that being alone bothers me too much over a few days but if I don't have social contact for a few weeks I get depressed... I have reasons for getting that way though, I was trapped for what seemed like hundreds of years in a dream where I was the only living thing on the planet that wasn't a plant, not even bugs... and everything was still... and I couldn't wake up, like, I'd "wake up" into the dream again, over and over again, think of the movie groundhog day, but waaaaaaaaay freakier, due to there being nobody and nothing around that's alive, and instead of being that town from groundhog day it's the city in which I live.
That and I spent a hint over 6 years pretty much completely alone... So yeah, I'm totally over being by myself, I'd far rather be hangin with my buddies than sitting by myself in my house alone, or sitting anywhere else alone.
That and I spent a hint over 6 years pretty much completely alone... So yeah, I'm totally over being by myself, I'd far rather be hangin with my buddies than sitting by myself in my house alone, or sitting anywhere else alone.
I like seeing my friends and having nights on the town etc but I can only have a good chat once about once a week and a good NotT about once a month. Also I have random days where having to speak to anyone at all fills me with rage. Good job I don't work in the service industry.
Likely. I need a lot of time to recharge after even small outings with friends. I keep my world small because it's safer and easier, and I really do envy people who have a lot of tact when it comes to socializing. I regret not engaging with more people in High School, because it really is like a boot camp for all of those kinds of important skills. Now I'm someone who is afraid of men and needs four weeks of emotional prep in order to call the bank.
Yeah.
I have a few friends and hang with them every now and again when the planets align or I undergo frontal lobotomy but I generally keep to myself and relax in my inner sanctum away from the noise and abuse. I think it's mainly to do with being mistreated by my peers not that long ago when I tried to socialize and never having seen the "use" of friends and just generally finding it easier not to worry about birthdays or sharing or being able to tell when they are sad. I guess I just find it easier this way.
I have a few friends and hang with them every now and again when the planets align or I undergo frontal lobotomy but I generally keep to myself and relax in my inner sanctum away from the noise and abuse. I think it's mainly to do with being mistreated by my peers not that long ago when I tried to socialize and never having seen the "use" of friends and just generally finding it easier not to worry about birthdays or sharing or being able to tell when they are sad. I guess I just find it easier this way.
no i am not. been living with my gf for 3 years now and i don't want to think about living alone.
I'm a loner, except for being with my other half. I never used to be, I used to have solid friends and was always up for a party or to hang out.
I don't mind, I like being by myself a lot of the time but I do occasionally long for a bit of company with friends.
I don't mind, I like being by myself a lot of the time but I do occasionally long for a bit of company with friends.
When I was in my early teens, I wanted to be friends with everyone.
When I was a bit older, I wanted to be alone.
Very recently, I'm stuck on the fence.
When I was a bit older, I wanted to be alone.
Very recently, I'm stuck on the fence.
I like being on my own as well. I don't actually have any 'friends' because they always believed I wasn't a good friend because I didn't want to hang out every other day, and I don't really see family for months on end - most of the time.
My husband is my best friend and where most of my social interaction comes from. I just managed to find another person I felt was comforting and understanding and not over-bearing and smothering. We both have our alone time and together time. His presence in the house is comforting, but we don't always have to be in the same room at the same time, all the time. Having our own personal space is absolutely essential. Finding a house where we were both able to have our own office was at the top of our priority list,..and will always be.
We've had a long-term house guest with us and let me just say, it's been very uncomfortable. >_>. Especially since he's extremely sociable and likes people to come over to the house. Sometimes I'll hang out for an hour or two if I feel obligated, but then I just slink away and hide in my office to read or play video games. I'm thinking about getting an armchair or something for in here, then it would just be perfect.
My husband is my best friend and where most of my social interaction comes from. I just managed to find another person I felt was comforting and understanding and not over-bearing and smothering. We both have our alone time and together time. His presence in the house is comforting, but we don't always have to be in the same room at the same time, all the time. Having our own personal space is absolutely essential. Finding a house where we were both able to have our own office was at the top of our priority list,..and will always be.
We've had a long-term house guest with us and let me just say, it's been very uncomfortable. >_>. Especially since he's extremely sociable and likes people to come over to the house. Sometimes I'll hang out for an hour or two if I feel obligated, but then I just slink away and hide in my office to read or play video games. I'm thinking about getting an armchair or something for in here, then it would just be perfect.
Generally, yes. I go out with friends sometimes, but most of my socialization is limited to work (Where I answer phones 8 hours a day, 40 hours a week) and with co-workers. But beyond that, it's on mumble with my game buddies as we hide from zombies in Day-Z and kill other people in Tribes.