Are you comfortable around people of the opposite sex?

[Whateveralot]

This will probably not help with my overall coolness , but i am a 22 year old male and i am uncomfortable around women . By not means do i discriminate nor think less of them , i mean i get really nervous when women are around me. And when i have to speak to anyone of the oposite sex other than family of course i can/will say the dumbest things.

Well let's discuss your mindset for a bit first. Why is it awkward? It's obviously a gender issue, so it probably because you think woman are much different and always expect you to be a some sort of stereotype and/or sexual tension. Because you believe in this so thoroughly, it gets worse and you start noticing it even whilst it's not there.

Now people would have probably told you that you should be more confident about yourself and that it's not all that bad. Some may have even said it can be quite cute, but that's not the deal here. You just want to get rid of it. Telling someone to be more confident only makes it worse.

What I advice you do is talk to your girlfriend about it. If she's a good girlfriend, she'll want to help you solve it with you. See if you can just hang around with her and her ladyfriends. You are forced to talk to them. Learn that it's not THEIR expectations of YOU that are bothering you, but YOUR expectations of THEM. Women appreciate not being hit on by a guy massively. If you're not afraid to have to hit on them, and/or feel sexual tension / pressure (the stereotype thing included), then you'll start realise that woman are much less female and much more human.

But like I said, talk about it, with girls that you trust.

 

[Vault101]

nah...never gave it much thourght

though after a stint in an all girls school I was a bit. but not anymore

 

[Leg End]

Comfortable with them? I feel that I prefer their company to that of Males. >.>
As long as the Females are not snobby shits that is.

 

[Realitycrash]

Don't see why you would be nervous around women. They're just people, not demons form the moon.

Spoiler: I don't know... It looks kinda feminine...

Although hilarious, try to avoid posting just a single image. It's forbidden and the mods can be a bit harsh about it.

OT: No, I don't feel that way. I'm way too self-centered to react to anyone around me (hurr hurr).

 

[redeemer09]

yes im quite terrified of woman and their big globes that i hide my face in . to avoid their evil stare

 

[Wuggy]

Not really.

I am confortable around people I know, regardless of gender. And vice versa, I'm unconfortable around people I don't know, regardless of gender. The gender of the person I'm with only comes to play if I'm attracted to them. Then I get kind of awkward.

 

[Leg End]

Don't see why you would be nervous around women. They're just people, not demons form the moon.

Spoiler: I don't know... It looks kinda feminine...

Although hilarious, try to avoid posting just a single image. It's forbidden and the mods can be a bit harsh about it.

Actually, since it is within a spoiler that is a part of discussion, it should(keyword) be fine.

 

[Daniel Ferguson]

At least a girl liked you. It's worse for me: I'm uncomfortable around everyone (due to Asperger's Syndrome), regardless of gender, and can't approach anyone to start conversation, so I have to wait for girls to approach me, which might happen once a year if I'm lucky, and only then on free dating sites, as I've been scammed on paid ones.

The few girls who've asked me out have left me misogynistic and cynical. I'd give anything to be adorably awkward again - like I was before these dating nightmares scorned me. I'm not an approachable person.

As for uncomfortable... not any more. I've met enough people (I mean, they've met me) through work and stuff (and common interest groups) that it's not an issue any more. But my personality is not a friendly, outgoing, people-meeting one.

 

[Ir0n Squid]

This will probably not help with my overall coolness , but i am a 22 year old male and i am uncomfortable around women . By not means do i discriminate nor think less of them , i mean i get really nervous when women are around me. And when i have to speak to anyone of the oposite sex other than family of course i can/will say the dumbest things . I was wondering if anyone on the escapist have the same problem? I do have a girlfriend but she had to make the first move and thw first month of us seeing each other was really awkward . I don't have any self confidence so i know thats why i have this problem . I even have trouble speaking to my boss at work , i will say the bare minimum and try to avoid her when i can. ( oh god i'm such a loser hahaha)

So what about you? Are you uncomfortable around people of the opposite sex? Or is it just me and i'm doomed?

^this. This is I. Though I don't have a girlfriend. Don't worry, your not alone. (No pun intended)

 

[Yuno Gasai]

I'm generally more comfortable around people of the opposite sex, if anything.

Some may find it strange to learn that I find it easier to trust people of the same sex, though I feel less comfortable around them.

 

[Lost Cause]

I'm not comfortable around anyone. Period.

 

[Yopaz]

No, but if I am in a crowd with all girls I tend to get a little uneasy. Like a crowd of 5 girls and only me then I tend to be a little quiet. This might be partially because I don't fit into the conversation and I am not much of a talker.

 

[The Hero Killer]

It depends, if I'm attracted to the female in any way I get nervous.

 

[smithy_2045]

Nope, but I'm not comfortable around anyone.

 

[Bernzz]

My three best friends (not including my girlfriend) that I talk to all the time are women.

So yeah, I'd say I'm pretty comfortable around them.

 

[Nouw]

Not at all. The only reason I'd be uncomfortable if I liked said person or found them attractive. Although sometimes I am a bit too comfortable.

 

[lRookiel]

Mmm, aadly if there is a woman who is attractive and a complete stranger, id probably go rosy cheeked in the situation.

 

[Jandau]

I'm more comfortable around women than I am around men, and I'm male. It probably has something to do with the fact that my best friends in high school were girls. Sure, I had male friends, but the ones closest to me were female. As a result, I've come to be more comfortable around women and I have an easier time connecting with them than I do with men.

 

[Malaclemys]

I basically tend to treat girls like little children, shooing them away or giving them dead eyes and a fake smile, until I see something worthy about them and start treating them like human beings.