Are you comfortable around people of the opposite sex?

[stygN]

24 year old male here. Yeah, I'm not super comfy around them, but some of them are ok. I live with 3 others and share kitchen and bathrooms with them, we're 3 guys and 1 girl. I never speak to her because she's sort of.. Too close.. She's probably a lovely girl, and pretty attractive too, but.. As with your problem, I just freak out..

 

[w1ndscar]

Im not nervous around women, but I do get nervous when a bunch of shady ghetto people come into my store and are all cluttered around the register hoopin' and hollerin' while waiting to buy their stuff. It gets pretty nerve racking when your the only white guy in the entire store for 98% of the day.

 

[Arrrgh_Bruce]

yeah i have trouble talking to them if iv dont have a connection to them but all my friends and co workers of the opposite sex im fine with.

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

I'm comofortable around people I know.
Their sex doesn't factor into it. That is, unless I'm interested in them, romantically or sexually.

Ditto!

 

[Alcamonic]

I find no problem speaking of engaging in activities with either gender (not in a sexual way, you dirty person).
I do feel uncomfortable around larger masses or being around some people for too long.

This guy summed it up pretty well:

If the woman in question is fun to talk to and listening to them doesn't make me want to stab a pen into my eardrums then yeah I'm fine with it. Of course this goes for guys too..

Edit: Basically it's not about someone being the opposite sex as it is them being someone who is interesting to talk to. I don't like pointless small talk about the weather.

 

[thylasos]

It's quite a lot easier when you start thinking of women as people.

There's a fair basis for that, I'd say.

 

[GeneWard]

Doesn't even depend on the person's gender. The only time I get nervous around anyone is when I feel threatened in some way.

 

[Raddra]

I'm comfortable around any gender.

Its certain personalities that are not exclusive to either gender I am uncomfortable around.

 

[cainx10a]

I'm a stereotypical nerd, and no, hell, I can barely interact with my own "kind".

 

[XHolySmokesX]

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whether you're aware of this or not, this is a surprisingly common thing, i think it's something like 70-80% of men are uncomfortable around women, especially super hot women.

I myself find it hard to get comfortable. If i know the girl well, or i have something fun to talk about then i'm fine, but i can't just go up to a woman and start up a random conversation.

It's annoying becasue i know that "knowing the right thing to say" isn't even what counts, you could talk about the most random boring thing to a woman but if it comes from a confident source she'll have fun with it. I've seen people doing this before but i just can't get to grips with the idea of being playful, like playing hard to get i suppose.

I've descided i'm just going to go with it and just chat to women like the normal human beings they are, you gotta start somewhere right.

 

[Custard_Angel]

I'm comfortable around friends.

I'm not comfortable around peers.

 

[krazykidd]

Im not nervous around women, but I do get nervous when a bunch of shady ghetto people come into my store and are all cluttered around the register hoopin' and hollerin' while waiting to buy their stuff. It gets pretty nerve racking when your the only white guy in the entire store for 98% of the day.

This is highly offensive ! And racist ... Shame on you.

 

[GestaltEsper]

Nah I'm fine if it's one on one. It's when I'm speaking to 5+ people at the same time is when I freak out.

Pretty much where I'm at unless I already know the 5+ people.

 

[LuckyClover95]

I'm bi and I feel fine around both women and men. In fact I feel more confident around those I'm attracted to. Sorry to be such a dick by pointing this out on your thread

 

[Nazz3]

Yeah. I used to feel somewhat uncomfortable but not anymore

 

[Henkie36]

I'm fine talking to women. Fortunatly, women are also fine with talking to me. Maybe that's because a lot of guys I know, tend to have difficulty making eyecontact because breasts don't have eyes. But anyway, as I said before, they're just women. You're not eight years old anymore, come on guys...

 

[Brandon237]

Nah I'm fine if it's one on one. It's when I'm speaking to 5+ people at the same time is when I freak out.

This.
In fact, for a 1 one 1 conversation, I prefer talking to a girl most of the time. But groups of either gender are equally problematic for me unless a good friend is in there somewhere. I have a girlfriend, and many female friends and acquaintances. And yet I am, to a very high degree, a nerd. A nerd who can be confident, has a girlfriend, enjoys life, has friends of both genders and knows how to be charismatic. Take that you F**king stereotypes!

 

[Brandon237]

Double post... my stupid... it shows.

 

[immortalfrieza]

So what about you? Are you uncomfortable around people of the opposite sex? Or is it just me and i'm doomed?

I don't have any issues around women, this is because I don't see people in terms of Gender, what I see people as would basically boil down to "are you a prick or not?" This is something Gender has nothing to do with, so I don't have any issues. Having said that, I seem to be drawn to women more often than not, most of the few (I'm pretty selective) friends that I've had have been women.

When it comes to relationships women are my best friends long before I've start dating them, under my belief that you should know a person before you begin dating them, knowing they're perfect before there's any strings attached. However, as a result I've only had one girlfriend before and that ended because of her personal issues (she left me, not the other way around BTW).

You're neither alone nor doomed, you'll get over you're issues eventually, of that I have no doubt.

Wow, I rambled on for a LOT longer than I thought I would.

 

[beniki]

Once, when I was but a lad, the mere thought of talking to women would make me blush up a storm, and send my tongue into a meaty version of the Gordian Knot. To be honest, I wasn't much better around male strangers either.

Then I became a teacher. My first class blasted all the nervousness out of me. With my teacher's hat on, I lost all the self conciousness that held me back. Naturally, this spilled over into my personal life.

Still have trouble calling people on the telephone though. Not sure why. I think it might be the disembodied voice... I might rely on body language too much.