Are you comfortable with public displays of affection?
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This.Vault101 said:
Why all the snigly cutsy fluffy dislpays of affection?
What's wrong with just sitting on the couch next to each other all night?
The entire idea of romantics is lost on me, what's so nice about giving flowers? Flowers are useless, I'd rather give something that you can use. Why candlelight, what's wrong with my TL lighting, it gives more and purer light. I could go on about this, but I'm straying off topic.
OT: People can do whatever they want, as long as I'm either not there to see it, or it's not more then holding hads or something like it to symbolise that they're together. I myself however don't like doing even that, but she always insists on it...
Well i personally like it to a degree, a couple holding hands or sneaking a quick peck in public makes me smile, im happy for them. They are not doing it to boast or publisize their relationship, they are only focussed on eachother.
However i have a friend who is very public about his relationship. Sometimes it is like the above, sometimes when he is on facebook he posts soppy love posts to her on his wall. This annoys me. You could IM her or text her or MSN her, but for some reason you felt the need, the URGE to make sure EVERYONE can see your relationship, to validate it. This sickens me. I always comment undernieth them something innappropriate to show how much i dislike them. Why is there a need? This pisses me off.
However i have a friend who is very public about his relationship. Sometimes it is like the above, sometimes when he is on facebook he posts soppy love posts to her on his wall. This annoys me. You could IM her or text her or MSN her, but for some reason you felt the need, the URGE to make sure EVERYONE can see your relationship, to validate it. This sickens me. I always comment undernieth them something innappropriate to show how much i dislike them. Why is there a need? This pisses me off.
Sadly enough, I do hate it when random strangers start making out and stuff in my eyesight. Like in public transport or stuff.
But there is a simple reason for that: I am too old, too jealous, too cynical, and it has been a loooonngg time since I felt the touch of the opposite sex x] so we all have our own reasons for hating or not caring...
But there is a simple reason for that: I am too old, too jealous, too cynical, and it has been a loooonngg time since I felt the touch of the opposite sex x] so we all have our own reasons for hating or not caring...
I'm fine with it as long as it is kept at a reasonable level,
Reasonable
hugging
cuddling
short kisses
Not Reasonable
Prolonged kissing
playing tonsil hockey
groping
dry humping
baby talk
As long as they don't do anything that falls into the second category I'm fine, unless I'm feeling particularly lonely that day, then I just hate them for having someone and being happy.
Reasonable
hugging
cuddling
short kisses
Not Reasonable
Prolonged kissing
playing tonsil hockey
groping
dry humping
baby talk
As long as they don't do anything that falls into the second category I'm fine, unless I'm feeling particularly lonely that day, then I just hate them for having someone and being happy.
Depends. If it's just a couple kissing or whatever in the street, I don't give a crap. If it bothers anyone, they can just not look and be on their way.
If it's in a confined area, like on a bus or train or whatever, I can understand why people would be annoyed by it since simply moving along isn't an option. Even if you brought a book or portable game, it would probably get distracting.
If it's in a confined area, like on a bus or train or whatever, I can understand why people would be annoyed by it since simply moving along isn't an option. Even if you brought a book or portable game, it would probably get distracting.
Seems most of us are in agreement, just don't spend half an hour tonguing each other in public and we're fine, we don't want to stop anyone showing love, but damn, show a little restraint in public, and I don't mean furry handcuffs.
Hugs, hand holding, cuddling up in a corner, and kissing, it's all fine, but tongue deep snogging combined with full on groping...that's a bit much.
Hugs, hand holding, cuddling up in a corner, and kissing, it's all fine, but tongue deep snogging combined with full on groping...that's a bit much.
Hell, i'm not effeminate in the slightest (ok, maybe long hair, but i also have the facial hair to back it up) and I tend to give people i've just met goodbye hugs if they're comfortable with it.mew1234321 said:
Also, short kissing, etc, completely fine.
Exhibitionism? Eh, if the couples doing it I assume they're also completely fine with me scoring them out of 10, loudly, when I walk by.
Hah, I am the same, and am happy simply spending time in her company. I see no need to be all over her, and what have you. She understands, which is nice. Everyone else doesn't, and I wish my friends would shut up and move on when they realise that just because I do not meet a social norm, does not mean I am worthy of ridicule...vehystrix said:
Eh, sometimes it's off-putting, sometimes it's cute. Depends on the people.
I'm not sure if I'd be totally comfortable doing them, but I'd give it a shot. Especially just to see some people's reactions.
I'm not sure if I'd be totally comfortable doing them, but I'd give it a shot. Especially just to see some people's reactions.
Well, being in 8th grade, I don't see a lot of that. At this point it's either hugs or "EWWW! Girls are gross!"
I haven't seen much beyond that. My sister wasn't really into it with her last boyfriend.
I guess I'll have to go with the majority here and say that it's fine in moderation.
I haven't seen much beyond that. My sister wasn't really into it with her last boyfriend.
I guess I'll have to go with the majority here and say that it's fine in moderation.
I have never been able to tolerate romantic stuff, and public displays of affection. I probably never will.
Love NEVER bothers me. I think it's really cute to see couples being affectionate. Others people disagreement... it's their problem.
I'll add this story that once happened to me. We were walking in a park, a couple was being affectionate there. I saw them and that put a smile on my face, thinking how wonderful thing it is they love each other. My friend starts talking how rude and inappropriate is. We talk a bit on the subject, and my friend in the end ends up stating that now, that she is thinking about it, it's not them the problem, but the inner complete dissatisfaction that she is unhappy in her love life (and those people there are the ugly reminder of what she doesn't have).
I always say that when one has disapproval on something, the roots are deeply in that persons dissatisfaction, and those frustrations are masked with moral codex's. That's my opinion on the matter.
I'll add this story that once happened to me. We were walking in a park, a couple was being affectionate there. I saw them and that put a smile on my face, thinking how wonderful thing it is they love each other. My friend starts talking how rude and inappropriate is. We talk a bit on the subject, and my friend in the end ends up stating that now, that she is thinking about it, it's not them the problem, but the inner complete dissatisfaction that she is unhappy in her love life (and those people there are the ugly reminder of what she doesn't have).
I always say that when one has disapproval on something, the roots are deeply in that persons dissatisfaction, and those frustrations are masked with moral codex's. That's my opinion on the matter.
I'm alright with it. In fact, I like to make a little game out of it and determine how long they'll remain together by judging the body language.
Yes I'm evil, what of it?
Yes I'm evil, what of it?
As long as it doesn't somehow hinder the ongoings around them (i.e. couple that's making out, holding up a line), then I don't give a damn. I'm not one for anything crazy, just holding hands or quick kisses in public. Anything else can wait til we're back at one of our places and are free to continue, not having to suppress any stronger urges because we're in public.
