Are you drawn particularly to certain features in romantic interests?
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Green eyes. Always green eyes. Because mine are green, thus fate. I care not whether man or woman.
I like a man's chin, his bare clean shaven chin. I like clean shaven men with kissable lips and chin without it feeling like sand paper so I can really enjoy tasting them, I love the chin neck ears and chest. Particularly chins shaped like Matt Damons. I also find eyes attractive, but not necessarily particular colors but moreso " the look", although I tend to have dated more men with Blue eyes. Eyes are very telling. Muscular athletic builds, I have usually dated " buff" men, not fond of bony too skinny men, but more muscular " stout" athletic build instead. The most attractive thing about a man by far though is his scent. I can tell immediately when I smell a man if I want to tear his clothes off and ravish him by the way he smells.
Tattoos, facial hair, piercings, weird hair colors, bad cologne are all major turn offs. I want my lips on skin not all that crap in the wayI like a man who shaves well and not just his face, who the hell wants a mouthful of hair?! yuck.. I am most turned on by clean skin and good smelling man that has a good personality and bedroom eyes.
Tattoos, facial hair, piercings, weird hair colors, bad cologne are all major turn offs. I want my lips on skin not all that crap in the wayI like a man who shaves well and not just his face, who the hell wants a mouthful of hair?! yuck.. I am most turned on by clean skin and good smelling man that has a good personality and bedroom eyes.
Physically? Two things.
First, health and athleticism. Which is unfortunate given that I'm a couch potato.
-Calves are my thing, for reasons I've never understood. I like to see hard, diamond-shaped runner's calves that create shadows when flexed. Drives me mad!
-Tight waist
-Thighs that show distinct musculature when running
-Developed shoulders and triceps
-A figure that is firm and strong throughout
-Impressive stature. Should be 5'8 or taller -- I'd love a woman who could look me level in the eye, not easy as I'm 6'2"
Second, a clean, natural, unadulterated look.
-Clear skin is a must. Freckles and moles are a turn-off.
-Hair can be short, even crew cut is fine, but should not be longer than the shoulder blades. Natural color is preferable. Dyed hair is acceptable as long as it's a color humans actually have.
-Tattoos are gross, with tats of whole sentences or song lyrics particularly repellent.
-And can facial piercings please just DIE already?
-Clothes should be practical, I actually prefer flats over high heels and find sweatpants and t-shirt at least as sexy as strappy lingerie.
-She can be any heritage or color but it's better if she's not pretending to be a different one (white girl with dreadlocks, for example -- eek!).
Mentally/Socially? As Henry Rollins says, 'I want a woman who can sit me down, shut me up, and tell me ten things I don't already know.'
-She reads, probably more than I do.
-Smart, 90th percentile at least.
-Honest to a fault, which I don't consider a fault at all.
-Able to resolve disagreements like an adult, without screaming or diverting into something I did wrong six months ago.
-Can't be a chatterbox. Real conversation is great but nattering drives me up the wall. Can't interrupt constantly.
-Low maintenance. If I have to text her twenty times a day, or regularly drive to her house at 3am because she's having another nervous breakdown, it ain't gonna work.
-Gets at least 1/4 of my movie/show references. Bonus points if she can deliver the next line.
-Makes me laugh at least once every time I see her.
-Never agrees just to pacify me.
-Never disagrees just to wind me up.
-Doesn't give half a shit for trends.
-Isn't extremely political. Or at least doesn't try to involve me in it.
-Not religious. I feel like eventually this would become a problem. I probably know people who are religious and don't say anything about it, but the talkers kind of make up for that. Can't have a conversation with my uncle -- an intelligent, well-read man -- on the subject of evolution. Just can't do it. My mother lost her best friend because everything this friend said, did, or thought had to be about god, all day, every day.
-Understands that I'm a depressed introvert with a bit of a temper. She has to be okay with the fact that I don't always want company, she can't always help, there isn't always a good reason, and it's not her fault.
First, health and athleticism. Which is unfortunate given that I'm a couch potato.
-Calves are my thing, for reasons I've never understood. I like to see hard, diamond-shaped runner's calves that create shadows when flexed. Drives me mad!
-Tight waist
-Thighs that show distinct musculature when running
-Developed shoulders and triceps
-A figure that is firm and strong throughout
-Impressive stature. Should be 5'8 or taller -- I'd love a woman who could look me level in the eye, not easy as I'm 6'2"
Second, a clean, natural, unadulterated look.
-Clear skin is a must. Freckles and moles are a turn-off.
-Hair can be short, even crew cut is fine, but should not be longer than the shoulder blades. Natural color is preferable. Dyed hair is acceptable as long as it's a color humans actually have.
-Tattoos are gross, with tats of whole sentences or song lyrics particularly repellent.
-And can facial piercings please just DIE already?
-Clothes should be practical, I actually prefer flats over high heels and find sweatpants and t-shirt at least as sexy as strappy lingerie.
-She can be any heritage or color but it's better if she's not pretending to be a different one (white girl with dreadlocks, for example -- eek!).
Mentally/Socially? As Henry Rollins says, 'I want a woman who can sit me down, shut me up, and tell me ten things I don't already know.'
-She reads, probably more than I do.
-Smart, 90th percentile at least.
-Honest to a fault, which I don't consider a fault at all.
-Able to resolve disagreements like an adult, without screaming or diverting into something I did wrong six months ago.
-Can't be a chatterbox. Real conversation is great but nattering drives me up the wall. Can't interrupt constantly.
-Low maintenance. If I have to text her twenty times a day, or regularly drive to her house at 3am because she's having another nervous breakdown, it ain't gonna work.
-Gets at least 1/4 of my movie/show references. Bonus points if she can deliver the next line.
-Makes me laugh at least once every time I see her.
-Never agrees just to pacify me.
-Never disagrees just to wind me up.
-Doesn't give half a shit for trends.
-Isn't extremely political. Or at least doesn't try to involve me in it.
-Not religious. I feel like eventually this would become a problem. I probably know people who are religious and don't say anything about it, but the talkers kind of make up for that. Can't have a conversation with my uncle -- an intelligent, well-read man -- on the subject of evolution. Just can't do it. My mother lost her best friend because everything this friend said, did, or thought had to be about god, all day, every day.
-Understands that I'm a depressed introvert with a bit of a temper. She has to be okay with the fact that I don't always want company, she can't always help, there isn't always a good reason, and it's not her fault.
A little on the short side but not so short that I'd have to kneel to kiss them. She would have dark hair, large eyes, musical talent, and be someone who understands loss, chronic pain &/or addiction.
Unfortunately, the women this has applied to are generally just about as damaged as I seem to be, so it doesn't tend to work out.
The strange part is, I used to find myself exclusively attracted to green eyed blonds, then one day I inexplicably fell for a brunette who was something of a tragedy in progress and I never quite recovered.
Unfortunately, the women this has applied to are generally just about as damaged as I seem to be, so it doesn't tend to work out.
The strange part is, I used to find myself exclusively attracted to green eyed blonds, then one day I inexplicably fell for a brunette who was something of a tragedy in progress and I never quite recovered.
Can't say I'm all that picky in the female form.
I find myself attracted to all sorts of body types, shapes, hair styles, and faces.
In general, I prefer longer hair on someone whose got some meat on their bones and who looks 'normal' (read imperfect and mostly natural with minimal or no makeup). I've been so overly exposed to the dramatic model/celebrity type in everyday life that it's long since become boring.
Course that's just physical attraction/lust which is meaningless in the context of a romantic relationship. I can't say that I've been in a position where I've been wonderfully compatible with someone mentally and yet didn't find them physically attractive as a result of that bond.
I find myself attracted to all sorts of body types, shapes, hair styles, and faces.
In general, I prefer longer hair on someone whose got some meat on their bones and who looks 'normal' (read imperfect and mostly natural with minimal or no makeup). I've been so overly exposed to the dramatic model/celebrity type in everyday life that it's long since become boring.
Course that's just physical attraction/lust which is meaningless in the context of a romantic relationship. I can't say that I've been in a position where I've been wonderfully compatible with someone mentally and yet didn't find them physically attractive as a result of that bond.
Mentally:
If she's really passionate about things and willing try new stuff, it's almost a guaranteed crush. Also?Honesty is a biiiiiiig plus
Physically:
She doesn't need to be an athletic beauty, but she I really don't want a couch potato that does nothing.
If she's really passionate about things and willing try new stuff, it's almost a guaranteed crush. Also?Honesty is a biiiiiiig plus
Physically:
She doesn't need to be an athletic beauty, but she I really don't want a couch potato that does nothing.
There's something adorable about a hair-covered forehead. Fringes are good and I prefer long hair.
I kind of like tall(er than me) girls...but I'm a 5'5 manlet so that's kind of awkward. Although that measurement is a rough guess.
I'm more picky about personality, though.
I kind of like tall(er than me) girls...but I'm a 5'5 manlet so that's kind of awkward. Although that measurement is a rough guess.
I'm more picky about personality, though.
Eastern european is a massive plus for me, no idea why. Skin tone and accent maybe?
Otherwise, all about dem eyes.
Only real criteria though is if they look after themselves. If a girls stick thin or overweight then I won;t. Shallow? Incredibly. Do I care that much at the minute? No.
Otherwise, all about dem eyes.
Only real criteria though is if they look after themselves. If a girls stick thin or overweight then I won;t. Shallow? Incredibly. Do I care that much at the minute? No.
Johnny Impact said:
Oh baby
A friend of mine does ballet, and as a result has calf muscles that look almost like biceps. I take it those aren't the sort of calves you're referring to? It's kind of close to the back leg here:
OT:
Physical
I'm a big fan of muscular women. Not big bulky working out muscles, but the leaner "I actually do something with these" muscles. Particularly in the back and shoulders.
Androgynous, sort of cute faces are also great. That alongside shorter hair (although not too short and not gelled up).
I also have a thing for tattoos, particularly sleeves and backs.
Essentially I like tough looking women with a bit of cute.
Personality
Some sort of moral alignment is important to me. We don't need to agree on everything, but we should have similar core principles. Actually, I am more drawn to people who have stronger principles than me and inspire me to be a better person.
Funny is probably the most important here. Especially if they have a clever, witty sense of humor. Joking around is the basis of having fun together, if we can't make each other laugh then it'd be depressingly dull.
Similar hobbies, or hobbies that we can both get on board with. Same reason as funny, we should have fun together.
Last thing is I need to respect them. If I don't think highly of them, or respect their intelligence then things will go to hell quickly
Accents are a big thing for me. The big ones for me are Irish, German, Swedish and Polish. Not sure why, but they always sound exotic and mysterious while still being relatively understandable. On the other hand, I live in the north east at the moment and all the local women's voices really turn me off. People from Newcastle are downright unintelligable, and they have the cheek to tell me I talk funny.
I'm not too picky bodywise - I can't be since I'm chronically unlucky with women. Again exotic faces are a big thing, people who look just a little different whether it be eyes, face shape, hair or something else.
I'm not too picky bodywise - I can't be since I'm chronically unlucky with women. Again exotic faces are a big thing, people who look just a little different whether it be eyes, face shape, hair or something else.
Gotta break it to ya, Johnny. You will die alone.Johnny Impact said:
OT: An unwillingness to report sexual assault.
Alright, for real. I bet in order for a relationship to last long we'd have to have a common "sporty" hobby (excluding jogging because fuck jogging). Tennis, floorball, swimming, kayaking, skiing, cycling... something like that which we'd both enjoy.
I'm not too picky in theory, but in practice I'm either interested or I'm not. One detail that will guarantee a double-check from me is a symmetrical haircut with those cartoony sidelocks in front of her ears. I say cartoony because it's more common in cartoons than irl (I guess it must be impractical or something). For instance, "Erin Dies Alone" Erin (Critical Miss Erin's hair looks like pudding) and Sonata Dusk have hairstyles like that.
Nothing... because I'm not a romantic...
With that said, glasses, nipples, and-oops! I seem to be going into "fetish" territory... So, let's leave it with "a phonetically pleasing personality" and just go with that... [in tandem with glasses, of course...]
With that said, glasses, nipples, and-oops! I seem to be going into "fetish" territory... So, let's leave it with "a phonetically pleasing personality" and just go with that... [in tandem with glasses, of course...]
I like how you made an account solely to post that. Kudos to you.Cold Shiny said:
OT: Legs. I like nice legs. You can have small breasts, big breasts, long hair, short hair, you can be black or white, 20 or 40, chances are, you still have nice legs.
Otherwise, I find pleasing things about almost anything and anybody. I like short hair, long hair, brown, blonde, ginger, glasses or no glasses, I can pretty much go along with anything, and at this point, I am pretty sure that I would.
Oh, I figured that out years ago. OP asked what features we're drawn to. I did not read that as "what features could you realistically expect in a partner" or "what type of person is drawn to you." I read it as "what are you drawn to." I thought we were just fantasizing here. If you want the realistic take on what I would be drawn to, let's start with "When I say hello, she says hello back, instead of twisting her mouth like she just spotted a new species of cockroach." Is that better?McElroy said:
I was just kidding. Over the years I've gone through so many fantasy girlfriends (not gonna elaborate on that) that a Manic Pixie Dream Girl doesn't even cut it anymore. You simply reminded me of that Chicago columnist lady who made that long-ass list of things she was looking for in a man which naturally got a bajillion comments telling her she would stay single for a good while.Johnny Impact said:
The funny thing is though that someone who meets all of the criteria on ones long list for what they are looking for most likely would not want to date someone who makes long lists like that in the first place since that would put the listmaker into "the too many expectations and demanding category" among others.. XDMcElroy said:
I'm gonna be the odd man out here and say that i don't really have a type or at least haven't found it yet. The girls that i have been the most attracted to were wildly diverse. Some were small, some were tall, some had blonde hair, brown hair or black hair, some had straight hair, long hair, short hair or bushy hair, some had blue eyes, green eyes or brown eyes, some had large breasts, some had small breasts.
To me the only things that matters is the whole package, so to speak. The seperate features aren't important as long as everything fits together to a pleasant appearance.
What i absolutly dislike and find not attractive at all is hair that is colored in an unnatural color. Blue hair, green hair or something like that. No thanks.
Oh, i do prefer when girls are thin, does that count. Or relatively thin, there always seems to be someone who thinks you're talking about annorexic women when you use that word. I don't need an hourglass figure though, as long as it's not round, i am all right.
To me the only things that matters is the whole package, so to speak. The seperate features aren't important as long as everything fits together to a pleasant appearance.
What i absolutly dislike and find not attractive at all is hair that is colored in an unnatural color. Blue hair, green hair or something like that. No thanks.
Oh, i do prefer when girls are thin, does that count. Or relatively thin, there always seems to be someone who thinks you're talking about annorexic women when you use that word. I don't need an hourglass figure though, as long as it's not round, i am all right.
I honestly don't have a type, though I do seem to attract the single mothers. About all I really care about is that she tries to be healthy, not overweight or too skinny. Oh & she has to have some kind of ambition, I refuse to be a meal ticket. Sadly a lot of the women I know only want some man to support them while they have half a dozen kids & sit around doing nothing.