Are you single or not ?

[Souther Thorn]

No, I am most certainly not single.
Wife, two girlfriends and a boyfriend. Lovely poly-cule we've got

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

Single, fairly recently out of a relationship.
It's complicated.

I'm fine with being single, it doesn't bother me,
I don't think I could devote proper time or care to a serious relationship at the moment anyway.

 

[Lilani]

23, and I've had a boyfriend for a little more than a year and a half now. He's my second boyfriend, I had my first when I was 20.

 

[Mr Fixit]

Very painfully single & not loving it. I always get the "you're a great guy, but...", it's mildly annoying anymore. Problem is none of them ever really explain what that "but" is.

I have noticed that what I like in a woman is hard to find in the area I live in. I'm not talking about looks, but their personalities, interests & what they want out of life are worlds apart from me. I wouldn't mind trying some dating sites(& this is going to make me sound very cheap, I promise I'm not) but most of those are quite expensive & money is very tight right now.

Last girl I had anything to do with lives 2000 miles away & was just visiting for awhile, there was no real relationship, just having some fun while we could.

The last woman I actually tried a relationship with wasn't over the guy she just broke up with, even though he beat the shit out of her, so that didn't last long. I knew she wasn't over him & ready for something new yet, so I never got real serious with her. I wasn't going to get hurt because she wanted to rush things.

 

[Dedtoo]

I'm 21, and currently I might be heading into my second relationship. We spent quite the great weekend together, and we're still talking, so I'm hoping that it won't be just that one weekend.

 

[giles]

I'm athletic, smart, funny and handsome. And single. In hindsight I always notice the cute girls were totally flirting with me, but I'm too reserved about such things to notice. They probably see it as disinterest.
I tell myself this is because I'm in a weird place in my life and I don't want to drag anyone into this, like I want to be able to offer my partner something. Probably just don't care enough, though.

Society thinks this is weird. I'm starting to wonder if I'm just dysfunctional, like I can't feel romantic love or something. I don't think I've ever felt love for someone other than my family and friends.
*sigh* now I got all serious and depressed

 

[DisasterSoiree]

So let me ask all of you unhappily single fellows:

Why not prostitution?

As the holy book [http://www.rotten.com/library/sex/prostitution/] relates, you'd be in great company.

People who lost their virginity to a prostitute:

serial killer David Berkowitz (19) in Korea
emperor Napoleon Bonaparte (18)
biographer James Boswell (20) with London prostitute Sally Forrester
comedian David Cross (18) near Times Square
Gabriele D'Annunzio (16) in Florence
pornographer Al Goldstein (16)
author James Joyce (14) in Dublin
President John F. Kennedy (17) in Harlem
comedian Jerry Lewis (11)
fascist dictator Benito Mussolini (16)
author Leo Tolstoi (16)
author H.G. Wells (25)
author Thomas Wolfe (16)

 

[Eliam_Dar]

Recently married, almost 4 months now. Though we were already living together for two years before that.

 

[Verlander]

The sentiment is appreciated nonetheless. London is both close and far away. Closer than most places in America, but then, pretty far away when you're in Sheffield and you just want to hit the pub for a drink. ;-)

Aye, and the British internal rail system is obscenely expensive. I used to live up north, I enjoy visiting, but it's a holiday in itself

 

[Verlander]

So let me ask all of you unhappily single fellows:

Why not prostitution?

As the holy book [http://www.rotten.com/library/sex/prostitution/] relates, you'd be in great company.

People who lost their virginity to a prostitute:

serial killer David Berkowitz (19) in Korea
emperor Napoleon Bonaparte (18)
biographer James Boswell (20) with London prostitute Sally Forrester
comedian David Cross (18) near Times Square
Gabriele D'Annunzio (16) in Florence
pornographer Al Goldstein (16)
author James Joyce (14) in Dublin
President John F. Kennedy (17) in Harlem
comedian Jerry Lewis (11)
fascist dictator Benito Mussolini (16)
author Leo Tolstoi (16)
author H.G. Wells (25)
author Thomas Wolfe (16)

I'd imagine the price of the service (when for most sex is available free of charge), alongside the risks of engaging in an activity that is largely unregulated and linked to serious crime. That, and the criminalisation of prostitution in many places can make it difficult to find a provider.

I'm of the camp that it should be legalised and taxed, if for nothing more than ethical reasons, but as someone who is more "liberal" with their own sex life, I find the company of women who are sexually attracted to you to be a better experience.

 

[EeveeElectro]

What a strange way to phrase this question...

Anyway, recently taken! He makes me very happy (so far, he might be a secret pain in the arse after a while!) *throws sparkles* I had been dicking around for a good six months and decided it was about time to settle down. That was the longest I've been single though in the past few years.

I met him on here funnily enough. I've known him since I was about 17(?), I know he's always had feelings for me [sub]and about 20 other girls lel[/sub] and I never returned them so I just always thought we will just be friends and nothing more. I was having man troubles a while ago and I remember texting him in a right state, he stayed up late despite being up early for work to make me feel better. After that, I started developing feelings for him realising that he was my ideal boyfriend. Things happened (while drunk, then sober, sorry to those who I made things awkward with...!) and I saw him again a couple of weeks after.

Was weird as fuck for a while, kissing and being intimate with someone I had considered a platonic friend for so long. We're super happy now though, and I'm glad I've found someone like him. *u*

 

[Mezahmay]

Single. Never in a relationship. Probably never will be. I came to terms with that a while ago.

 

[DisasterSoiree]

I'd imagine the price of the service (when for most sex is available free of charge), alongside the risks of engaging in an activity that is largely unregulated and linked to serious crime. That, and the criminalisation of prostitution in many places can make it difficult to find a provider.

I'm of the camp that it should be legalised and taxed, if for nothing more than ethical reasons, but as someone who is more "liberal" with their own sex life, I find the company of women who are sexually attracted to you to be a better experience.

Here's a hypothetical story that may or may not have happened.

A certain main had a crush on a high school classmate of his. She was the most gorgeous thing he'd ever seen - petit to the point of being palm-sized; long brown hair; big doe eyes. She was a raver girl, a free-spirited young lady in tye-dye leg warmers and wristbands.

She had a crush on him, also - among many, many other boys - but for whatever reason it was never consummated. They fell out of contact for a few years, until he worked up the nerve to message her one day on a social media site.

The girl had fallen on hard times. Her boyfriend was a junkie, and she may have been too, for all he knew. She needed money, and badly. He felt bad for her and gave her fifty dollars and some food.

She wanted to thank him for it, and she had sex with him, fulfilling a long-held dream of his: that this girl, untouchable, unapproachable, would one day share his bed. It hadn't been agreed on in advance; she suggested it.

And for the better part of the year their relationship continued in this matter, she seeing him through the dark times when the one who should have been there refused. The relationship was affective without being encumbered by mutual obligation.

The moral of this fairy tale: you don't always have to look on street corners, and the price isn't always great.

 

[DisasterSoiree]

*double post*

 

[Guy_of_wonder]

I've been single forever, except for an almost girlfriend that moved to a different state weeks later when i was a freshman in high school. i'm not the most outgoing person in the world and i like to keep to myself most of the time. it did not help that i went to a university that had parties every week (i hate parties, it shows the worst humans attributes).

i don't even know which gender i like. i've been debating that question for years and i still don't have an answer.

to be honest, it is starting to get to me. You can only deal with loneliness for so long, before you just breakdown. i might try online dating eventually.

 

[Verlander]

I'd imagine the price of the service (when for most sex is available free of charge), alongside the risks of engaging in an activity that is largely unregulated and linked to serious crime. That, and the criminalisation of prostitution in many places can make it difficult to find a provider.

I'm of the camp that it should be legalised and taxed, if for nothing more than ethical reasons, but as someone who is more "liberal" with their own sex life, I find the company of women who are sexually attracted to you to be a better experience.

Here's a hypothetical story that may or may not have happened.

A certain main had a crush on a high school classmate of his. She was the most gorgeous thing he'd ever seen - petit to the point of being palm-sized; long brown hair; big doe eyes. She was a raver girl, a free-spirited young lady in tye-dye leg warmers and wristbands.

She had a crush on him, also - among many, many other boys - but for whatever reason it was never consummated. They fell out of contact for a few years, until he worked up the nerve to message her one day on a social media site.

The girl had fallen on hard times. Her boyfriend was a junkie, and she may have been too, for all he knew. She needed money, and badly. He felt bad for her and gave her fifty dollars and some food.

She wanted to thank him for it, and she had sex with him, fulfilling a long-held dream of his: that this girl, untouchable, unapproachable, would one day share his bed. It hadn't been agreed on in advance; she suggested it.

And for the better part of the year their relationship continued in this matter, she seeing him through the dark times when the one who should have been there refused. The relationship was affective without being encumbered by mutual obligation.

The moral of this fairy tale: you don't always have to look on street corners, and the price isn't always great.

But situations like this are rare, and I'm sure that's not the same situation that Mussolini or Napoleon experienced.

I'm not criticising the use of prostitutes either, that's a different discussion, but for many it's not a realistic, reasonable or desirable transaction to make.

 

[Pops16]

Divorced. Then hopping from one girl to another (I know it sounds bad, but as long as you are up front and honest about it, then it works out pretty well) and I thought I met the girl I'd always wanted. Funny, attractive, mutual interests and we got along perfectly. I was so enamored by her that I was totally blind to her glaring faults. I finally realized she was a complete #@$&. I realized I dodged a huge bullet there.

So a short time later I met another girl who has all those qualities but is actually a decent person. Still seeing her and I am pretty happy about it.

Funny thing about perception vs. reality. What you may think you want something so bad, only to find out that you were better off without it.