I write. Not for a living. I'm not commercial as yet to say the least. But I write and I focus my work on character. I've had a hell of a time doing fan fiction for Star Trek. I tell ya, it's been a mind bending hell. You see... I'm not happy. I'm so far from happy I don't even mind. In the immortal words of BB King: "Can't miss what ya ain't never had." Star Fleet officers aren't satisfied, but they're happy. Its a rather complex study to say the least.EPIC_MAN_OF_BACON said:The question is:
Are you happy? Is it strange not to find such a simple thread here, one about simply how you feel, and how you are. as a psychologist, i find that many times one just needs to tell some one how they feel. so why not here? so ill ask how are you? Are you happy?
earlier i was on a thread about sex stories, and i looked and realized, i am pretty lucky. Got a hot, sexy, but still thinking and funny wife that loves me utterly (i know cause she will attack any woman she believes looks at me, and flips out if she thinks im looking at another woman), makin all my personal fantasists come true, even when we got a half year old to look after. in that, we love taking care of him, and he doesn't disturb our love making as much as we thought he would (he doesn't cry much). So good wife, good son, and a good steady job as a game developer and part-time psychologist, im gettin paid good (along side with my wifes teaching job). Good job, good wife, good son, im healthy, got good friends that for once, i am having fun with. i got god on my side, shining all my days. So yeah, i am happy.
Now, DO NOT turn this into a religious debate because i mentioned RELIGION as a reason i am happy, its just another reason to me, but it doesn't have to be for you. Another, No telling me how it is all gonna go down hill for me, cause i respond, 'well, better live right now then huh?'
this thread is about you, not me. Are YOU happy?
I've encountered such cases. Its those times I usually focus on keeping them going. Like you, I want them to accomplish something, feel something other than sadness, and move themselves else where, perhaps to find their own contentment. Happiness and content are different levels of the same measure: happiness is the current state of emotions in the range of good such as pleasure, glee, satisfaction. While contentment is more the state of your life, as in: is you life good? A good family, job, friends? Do you think you are in a good place and believe it could be worse. Pain and sorrow are two emotions on the negative side of the scale, and yes are easy, while joy is far harder due to how difficult it is to find and retain. Pain is caused by injury to on's mind or soul, from a family or relationship problem. I believe more of it comes from the doubt one feels, or the actually hurt of how it could happen. Sorrow is a deep sadness brought on by pain, so yes all the same, just different levels and chords on the same piano.Namehere said:I write. Not for a living. I'm not commercial as yet to say the least. But I write and I focus my work on character. I've had a hell of a time doing fan fiction for Star Trek. I tell ya, it's been a mind bending hell. You see... I'm not happy. I'm so far from happy I don't even mind. In the immortal words of BB King: "Can't miss what ya ain't never had." Star Fleet officers aren't satisfied, but they're happy. Its a rather complex study to say the least.EPIC_MAN_OF_BACON said:The question is:
Are you happy? Is it strange not to find such a simple thread here, one about simply how you feel, and how you are. as a psychologist, i find that many times one just needs to tell some one how they feel. so why not here? so ill ask how are you? Are you happy?
earlier i was on a thread about sex stories, and i looked and realized, i am pretty lucky. Got a hot, sexy, but still thinking and funny wife that loves me utterly (i know cause she will attack any woman she believes looks at me, and flips out if she thinks im looking at another woman), makin all my personal fantasists come true, even when we got a half year old to look after. in that, we love taking care of him, and he doesn't disturb our love making as much as we thought he would (he doesn't cry much). So good wife, good son, and a good steady job as a game developer and part-time psychologist, im gettin paid good (along side with my wifes teaching job). Good job, good wife, good son, im healthy, got good friends that for once, i am having fun with. i got god on my side, shining all my days. So yeah, i am happy.
Now, DO NOT turn this into a religious debate because i mentioned RELIGION as a reason i am happy, its just another reason to me, but it doesn't have to be for you. Another, No telling me how it is all gonna go down hill for me, cause i respond, 'well, better live right now then huh?'
this thread is about you, not me. Are YOU happy?
I once read somewhere that a doctor was starting new studies into happiness. He or she had treated a great many patients with depression but found them hung up after the completion of the treatment. They didn't understand or know how to 'be' happy after so many years of depression. Its apparently a large hurdle.
Pain, sorrow, these are one note songs whose pitch merely changes. Happiness is a symphony and far more complex to analyse never mind quantify. There is a reason we say: "One man's heaven is another man's hell." But nobody denies the potency of hell itself. Few embrace the idea of heaven, if you understand what I'm trying to say. It's easy to write off utopia, but nobody would debate the equal ease one can tap into its opposite.
So I'm neither happy nor satisfied. I continue though so I guess I'm something. It ISN'T as though I regularly break out the razor blade box and ponder the future. Hope that helped someone, I'm just more confused.
Oh! And uh, I find the general questions like: "How are you?" "How was your day?" are generally taken as banal banter or pointed probing depending on whose giving them, meaning nobody who asks those specific questions is actually searching for an answer to them. That could be another reason it hasn't come up.