Asking a girl/guy out via txt messaging. Is this good or bad? Acceptable or rude? A good way to avoid awkward rejection or a crap means of conveying your emotions? Basically, I've been txting this girl that I like and found a definite practical issue: she doesn't seem to txt back. What is that? Typical "oh I'll just answer that txt later" syndrome or an outright rejection? Maybe she didn't pick up that I'm not just trying to make friendly banter, I don't know. Your thoughts, please.
Asking a girl/guy out via txt messaging
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Eh, I'm biased against using technology as a major part of any romantic relationship due to a past girlfriend of mine which was a complete train wreck, so I personally say not to because its just so impersonal.
Texting = Friend Zone.
Go talk to her!
Its good to text every once in a while, like "hey do you have the answer to X question in the history guide" (Lame excuse, but it might work), but not too often... And dont let her be part of your circle of friends, if it ends badly, it will be VERY awkward...
Go talk to her!
Its good to text every once in a while, like "hey do you have the answer to X question in the history guide" (Lame excuse, but it might work), but not too often... And dont let her be part of your circle of friends, if it ends badly, it will be VERY awkward...
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Texting someone to ask them out makes you look like a pussy. Women like confidence, and texting to ask someone out does not exude confidence in the slightest.
I suppose nowadays its not, though I'm still one of those guys that likes to right his gf notes or even mail her a letter or two if she's far away.
it certainly adds to it if you say it in person.
it certainly adds to it if you say it in person.
I've done it. I've had it done to me. My advice?
Don't do it. Just do it in person. It may be harder, but it will mean a lot more to the person you're asking out.
Don't do it. Just do it in person. It may be harder, but it will mean a lot more to the person you're asking out.
A girl where I don't care if they say yes or no I txt it just to see if it works. otherwise in person. Or atleast over the dang phone
Never do anything in a relationship via text, besides maybe telling him/her you are going to have to pick up eggs or something from market before you come home.
Firstly, it leaves a huge gap in percieved meaning between you and them which is just a breeding ground for misunderstanding.
Second, it's really impersonal.
Firstly, it leaves a huge gap in percieved meaning between you and them which is just a breeding ground for misunderstanding.
Second, it's really impersonal.
Go talk to her. If you do, it will show that you've seriously got your eye on her. I speak out of experience here : a guy PMed me on facebook asking me to go out with him on Valentine's Day and I felt that if he wasn't interested in me enough to take the risk of asking me directly, maybe he wasn't that serious about it. Of course I may be wrong. The guy simply might be timid, but it's still the feeling I got. On top of that, I only saw the message two days after Valentine's Day, so yup... 
If you are going to use text to convey your feelings at least write it in a letter or card with proper english and effort.
That right there should be enough evidence against the idea. Texting is too impersonal for something that should be very personal.mik hardcore said:
