Asking Out a Stranger

[Soviet Heavy]

I am in University, eighteen years old. At the moment, there is a cute redhead on the floor below me who I'm sorta interested in. I have no clue what her name is, if she's dating or not, or even which room is actually hers.

Thing is, I'm terrible at asking people for things, even when I know them. So not knowing much at all besides what she looks like, I'm kinda stumped for what to do. I don't want to follow her around and try to find out more about her quietly, since that would brand me as a creepy stalker. But I'm still nervous about talking to her whenever I see her around.

 

[Ando85]

Try to just start a casual and non invasive conversation with her when you see her around. Maybe ask her what classes she is taking and what major she is in. Do you have any classes with her? If so you can discuss an assignment or whatever.

Breaking the ice though can still feel awkward but you just have to force yourself. If you never do it however you will be kicking yourself later on as you never knew what could become of it. If you do try and nothing comes of it, at least you will know you tried.

 

[Erana]

I agree with starting a conversation. Just talk to her and get an idea of what she's like.
Yeah, she may be cute, but you should make sure that she's not a blatant jerk before allowing yourself to consider a relationship.

If she's a nice enough person, you could go the blatant route and in a conversation, simply say that you're a bit nervous, but you find her really cute and interesting and would like to get to know her better.
Just offer a casual activity, like going out for coffee or ice cream, or maybe going to some campus event together.

The big thing here, though, is that you've put it out there that you're interested in her, but you're happy to know who she is as a person. That way, it feels like there's a relationship going on and not a guy just going through the motions to get in her pants.

 

[Lvl 64 Klutz]

I know how awkward it can be for some guys to talk to girls they've never talked to before. I used to be the same way. The way I would start conversations before I started to come out of my shell, is I would ask for something mundane, like change for the laundry, the phone number of a building on campus. After that, just make a comment that could spark up small talk, like comment on the weather, or make something up about why you need what you're asking for. Keep working up until you can ask her more about herself and hopefully if she'd like to spend some time together.

 

[Soviet Heavy]

I do have confidence issues, and I'll be the first to admit that. I just feel like I scare people away because I'm so big. Not fat mind you, but just very large in comparison to most people.

 

[Bloedhoest]

If you're going to ask, just do it. Don't stand around laughing and grinning. That will surely put her off. As stated above, try some small talk but keep it light on the subjects. Also, don't try to look desperate, girls smell that. Be confident!
To boost up morale, shower, use deodorant and brush your teeth. You don't want to go in with half a salad between your teeth and smelling of yesterdays soccer match.

 

[Bloedhoest]

I do have confidence issues, and I'll be the first to admit that. I just feel like I scare people away because I'm so big. Not fat mind you, but just very large in comparison to most people.

Large, as in length? Or width?

 

[Soviet Heavy]

I do have confidence issues, and I'll be the first to admit that. I just feel like I scare people away because I'm so big. Not fat mind you, but just very large in comparison to most people.

Large, as in length? Or width?

Height wise. I'm very tall, but not lanky. Built like a brick wall. Broad shoulders, large chest, stuff like that. I feel like I intimidate people.

 

[Bloedhoest]

Chick's dig that. See it as a perk.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Just be up front. Introduce yourself. Take an interest in her. Ask about her classes. Ask about her interests. You're interested, right? Just go ask. You don't need to overtly hit on her, she's not in a bar. But there's no reason for you not to make it clear you find her interesting.

Pussyfooting around won't get you anywhere, unfortunately.

 

[khy]

To boost up morale, shower, use deodorant and brush your teeth. You don't want to go in with half a salad between your teeth and smelling of yesterdays soccer match.

This is great advice, the handful of times that I had approached a complete stranger I tried my best to look professional or at least neat. They say that people make an impression within the first 10 seconds so looking good is a big part of it for some people.

Hell, I would suggest just starting with a smile and introducing yourself. If she's a regular girl she's probably just happy that someone has noticed her. Ask if she would be willing to join you for coffee and a conversation or something. If you get a chance to look around her room, that could tell you about her likes. Lots of athletic shoes mean she might be more interested in heading to the gym for a workout than a coffee bar.