Aversion to Children

[Chemical Alia]

Another woman who, bar some complete and utter disaster, will not be having kids here - I totally get where you're coming from, OP. Especially the pregnancy part. I'm genuinely phobic of pregnancy, I can't even be around pregnant women, and getting pregnant is genuinely my worst nightmare. Needless to say, I take contraception incredibly seriously. At least, being bisexual, I have the option of having same-sex relationships/encounters where that's not an issue.

I also don't like babies at all. They kind of freak me out, actually. I've been avoiding seeing my cousin's new baby for about a year now. As for older kids, there have been a few I've liked well enough, but generally speaking I find them irritating. I'm sure I won't have a problem spending time with any future nieces and nephews, but that's about as far as it goes.

Oh man, same here. I've always had this legit fear of pregnancy to the point where I don't really like seeing pregnant people and my first instinct when a friend gets pregnant is "wow, my sympathies" before it occurs to me that this is what most people actually want.

I'll be 32 soon, and my stance on kids has never wavered since I was a kid myself. I do have a great relationship with my mother, and wouldn't mind having an adult person like me someday to have around, but unless I could make a fully grown human spring out of my head like a Greek god, I really don't see that happening.

I don't mind being around good kids, though. Kids can be cool, as long as I'm not expected to know how to look after them or take care of them. v:

 

[Eamar]

Oh man, same here. I've always had this legit fear of pregnancy to the point where I don't really like seeing pregnant people and my first instinct when a friend gets pregnant is "wow, my sympathies" before it occurs to me that this is what most people actually want.

No joke, when I found out my cousin was pregnant (and saw a scan picture) I actually felt nauseated for the rest of the day. Thank god she didn't tell me in person, that would have been incredibly awkward. At least my friends know about this though, so they'll be prepared for my inappropriate looks of horror when the time comes

 

[Beliyal]

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Same here. I'm 25 and I have never liked or wanted kids, for as long as I can remember.

What irritates me is when everyone dismisses this feeling and says stuff like "You'll probably change your mind", as if it's somehow not legit to not being interested in having kids. And I understood when they dismissed me when I was 13 years old, but I'm not really a child anymore, and my opinion has not changed in the slightest about this issue. I'm not interested in kids, I don't like them, I don't find them engaging in any way. Usually when I see a baby, I just don't want to have any contact with it and nothing they do is endearing to me. Especially when they eat. When I see a baby eating, I get the urge to leave the room because I can't stand the mess they're making. It's simply disgusting, for the lack of a less dramatic word.

Recently I made a half-joke about wanting to be sterilized and everyone just lost their shit and started saying how I'm still too young and that I'll change my opinion soon. Why is this such a huge issue? Some people don't want to have kids, I think that's hardly the most incredible opinion in the world. It's always been like that, some people just don't procreate.

If I ever think about a child, I'd rather adopt one, slightly older. I really dislike babies, but I guess a kid that's like... 3-5 years old would be alright. All in all, I find it more appealing for many reasons; not going through pregnancy myself being one of them and the other being that I'll help a child that already exists in this world and has no family.

 

[Chemical Alia]

No joke, when I found out my cousin was pregnant (and saw a scan picture) I actually felt nauseated for the rest of the day. Thank god she didn't tell me in person, that would have been incredibly awkward. At least my friends know about this though, so they'll be prepared for my inappropriate looks of horror when the time comes

Oh wow. My two cousins both got pregnant within two months of each other, and their babies recently turned one. They're well behaved boys, and pretty cute and smart (as far as babies go, haha), and I'm super happy that they get to have that experience of raising their kids together, with their own parents there to help out and all that. But when they announced it, I was so glad I had heard it through the grapevine ahead of time and was able to practice my WOW THAT'S SO AWESOME response. It just takes me a while to grasp the idea of it being a good thing, even when I know it is, because of my own personal aversions.

Same here. I'm 25 and I have never liked or wanted kids, for as long as I can remember.

What irritates me is when everyone dismisses this feeling and says stuff like "You'll probably change your mind", as if it's somehow not legit to not being interested in having kids. And I understood when they dismissed me when I was 13 years old, but I'm not really a child anymore, and my opinion has not changed in the slightest about this issue. I'm not interested in kids, I don't like them, I don't find them engaging in any way. Usually when I see a baby, I just don't want to have any contact with it and nothing they do is endearing to me. Especially when they eat. When I see a baby eating, I get the urge to leave the room because I can't stand the mess they're making. It's simply disgusting, for the lack of a less dramatic word.

Yeah, some of us just grow up with different ideals of what we want in life. I don't like the idea that it's everyone's duty to sacrifice things that are important to a person to have kids, who I guess then will grow up to have to do the same, and so on. I went to the doctor for my yearly physical last month, and I got my first "well you know, you're getting to that age where you realllllllllly need to be thinking about having some kids" lecture, and I felt almost embarrassed to respond.

 

[purf]

Spoiler: Storytime:

I seem to be some exceptional Ninja hero in my spacial and soundwise behaviour in public spaces. I move the shopping cart to the side when looking at shelves, I understand when someone walking behind me is faster, so I can make room. With other people around me, I don't abruptly stop in narrow spots because something's on the phone. When the ATM has just given me money, I don't keep standing around to r...e....a.....d the recipe, which I had printed for some reason. I even understand queues; I mean, crazy shit! Somehow, I never roam the streets bawling ugly songs!

I will hand on these powers to my daughter. Those mysterious traits of what I've named "Decency" and "Common Sense". But for now, I'm quite cool with her screaming and laughing, running up and down a train compartment's aisle, having happy fun.

This is where I get angry. I mean... how do you people actually maintain your thinking here? To every few weeks vehemently single out children as THE source of annoyance when there's a world of obnoxious pricks out there WHO, and this is important SHOULD FUCKING KNOW BETTER than to be a whatever_adjective_fits_here_that_relates_to_childlike_behaviour idiot

Seriously.[footnote]thefuck?[/footnote]