Being shy/anti-social one of the biggest disadvantages in life?

[Vault101]

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You're 19. If you were really as ambitious as you want us to believe, you would probably still be in school. So forgive me, but I dare to say that it's probably about what you know not who you know.

ambitious? I never said I was and maybe thats my problem...not being ambitious enough

I might look back one day and regrett not being better because being ambitious was too "hard"

its Just I find the whole "youll never live up to your dreams" and "its not abotu what you know but who you know" very depressing and it puts me off really trying to avoid getting hurt I supose

But what is it exactly that you know that not being friends with certain people will prevent you from sharing with the world? Or is it just a phrase you went along with to justify yourself?

Spoiler: also

Im sorry I dont quite understand what you mean, I mean that it just somones times feels like not being good at building up connections with people is a disadvantage, I mean I know we wont completley fail at life but...it just seems hard somtimes

nice picture...I guess some of us tend to be cynacal to avoid hurt and disapointment

 

[Space Spoons]

I'm not some wizened, super-experienced guru on the human condition or anything, but it's been my experience that this is true. If you can't openly communicate and network, you won't find life nearly as easy people who can. It's kind of depressing, sure, but there's a bright side to it; being shy and anti-social are things about yourself that you can change, if you work hard enough at it.

It won't be easy, and yeah, you'll probably pick up a few bumps and bruises along , but hey, that's life. The darkest depths of our failures just make the heights of our triumphs that much brighter.

 

[Midnight Crossroads]

No, there's knowing people, and then there's being a social butterfly. I'm pretty quiet, but most people know me as being competent, intelligent, and ambitious. All that takes is a firm handshake, self awareness, and a few words. "Hello, my name is X. It's a pleasure to meet you. I work in Y, and I'm studying in Z. I'm interested in your studies in the field of Z. Could you answer a few questions about your field?"

In your lifetime, you'll be forced to meet people for various reasons. They might know other people. For instance, one of my principals from High School has a daughter married to an Army doctor. There's a link right there. I know this because I talked to my chemistry teacher. I'm now talking to an air surgeon in the field through e-mail. Another friend of mine is the son of a very successful heart surgeon in private practice. He knows doctors all over the area, including two of the six neurosurgeons practicing here. We only know each other because we were in the same hall during our freshman year.

 

[viranimus]

Well my take on this would be focused on the "Follow your dreams" "you cant follow your dreams" and "Whats the point"

You can try to follow your dreams. With enough hard work and talent you might be able to realize them. However not everyone is cut out to do so. (Or we would be a world of Astronaut firemen, Cowboy rock stars, or Supermodel princesses.. or what ever dreams and ambitions people have, wouldnt know, Lack ambition and the ability to care for it)

The point is, that just because you were not able to follow your dreams does not mean there is not a role for you in this world. Its sort of like the difference between being happy and content. You strive to be happy, but you really cant always be happy. So you work to be content for those times when you cannot be happy.