Best way to get over someone

[JamminOz07]

Shag her hotter, younger, sister

 

[Johnmw]

Spoiler: Truth, shat out in easily digestible lumps.

Think how lucky you are for finding out now what a piece of trash she is, rather than 10 years down the track. I'm 32 and very happily married, so without boasting too much I've got a bit more experience in these matters than a lot of the teenagers that post on web forums (in some matters - I wouldn't, for example, expect to give better advice than them on how to pick up someone that age, as I'd be culturally out of touch). I'm also from a country where we're pretty liberal about sex, and so I've had several multi-year relationships prior to my marriage, and a fair few short-term flings as well.

I know that right now you'll struggle to see things this way, but it's the truth: you got very very lucky. There's millions of guys out there whose WIVES left them under similar circumstances. Not g/f's, but WIVES, and that means them taking half the house and all the kids, after taking off with some guy they met while you thought that they were having quiet drinks at one of their g/f's houses, or while they were on a business trip. You found out the best possible way: when there is nothing long term that can really get fucked over by it.

It always sucks to find out that the person you care about is shallow, but it happens, and the sooner you realise that's what happened, the sooner you can realise that you got it lucky and that you can do better than that. If you're all revved up for revenge, don't do anything stupid like prank call her phone, or stalk her or anything shite like that - she'll be her own punishment. The world is full of women who used to be hot when they were younger, but were shallow as hell, cheated on guys better than they deserved, and are now 38 and single and suddenly wrist-slittingly miserable because no guy even looks at them anymore, and they don't exactly have the personality to make up for it. Whereas nice, sweet people never struggle for relationships as an adult (unless they are truly obese, in which case they can work on that via exercise or lapband surgery if desperate - and even the fattest folk I know have had awesome marriages so long as they're looking to marry someone who's sweet rather than a cliched model look) - both guys and girls tend to fall over themselves trying to get the 'nice/sweet' folk once they hit a certain age and start thinking long-term.

If she's the kind of b**** that breaks up by text over the phone and immediately hooks up with someone else (and hate to break it to you, but she was probably already cheating on you with him), then you can place money that at around 35 she'll be crying 'why aren't there any decent men out there' (it's because you burnt them when they were young enough not to recognise you for what you are, b****, and now they know better than to go near someone like you!).


I don't know how old you are, but if you're anywhere in the teenage years, maybe up to 20ish even, you're going to have feelings for her anyway, but they'll go soon enough, so long as you keep reminding yourself that she aint worth having feelings for.

Go out with friends is good advice - take it. DON'T try to rush into a new relationship. Rebound flings are great when you're older (like late 20s onwards) when both parties know exactly what it is, you both know it isn't going to last past a bit of sex until both of you feel better about the person that dumped each of you last, and you can then move on without having hurt anyone's feelings. Rebound relationships before then just mean that you're going to hurt whoever you're with in the same way that you got hurt. Get used to being single again first. Then, once you've stopped having the urge to constantly look for a new partner, THEN start thinking about dating again.

The biggest 'warning, b**** ahead!' sign is the fact that she TOLD you that she is looking to go out on a date with some guy she met in a club, and how crazy she is over him. Sorry, but if you've only met in a club, that means she's hardly talked to the guy - he might be hot, but unless she's the most shallow person on earth, she couldn't possibly be 'crazy' over him. She's specifically saying that to make you feel jealous so that she can get more attention from you, so she can then get the powertrip of turning you down even more. Don't fall for it. Just take it as further evidence that she isn't worth it, and that you got lucky when you got out of that relationship. If I had just broken up with an ex, even a short-term relationship, and I was about to go out with someone else, I'd keep extremely quiet about it until I knew for sure the relationship was going to last, and I certainly wouldn't rave to the person I dumped about how great the new one was. That's because I'm not utterly shallow and selfish, and hence I would care about my ex's feelings and wouldn't want to hurt her by making her feel inadequate compared to the new g/f. ANY decent person would think that way. Your ex is quite clearly NOT a decent person.

You've done very very well to be free of her. You're now free to use your experience to find someone who is actually worth spending your time with. But take the time to enjoy being single for a bit first. Then use your experience to avoid the same mistake happening again. Don't expect to find a serious g/f in clubs or somewhere where you can barely talk - meet them through uni/college, common hobbies, friends, work and so on. You've dodged a bullet by leaving that relationship. It doesn't feel like it right now, I know. But in a few years time, you'll look back and think about how lucky you were not to still be stuck with that girl.

That is all, no need for more. Just listen to this man and know that time is a great healer.

P.S She dumped you by text, on NO ACCOUNT take her back, even if/when she turns on the emotionally blackmailing waterworks. Seriously, dumping via text shows how little she thought of you to start with. She couldn't even interrupt her night with a phone call, fuck her,or on second thoughts DON'T .

Peace to all (except your ex, she's a *****).

 

[Zeroroxas]

Well, the best method is to do what would intially make you happy to get your mind off of the ex. Especially after the way she broke up with you. Which brings me to my next subject: I wouldn't recommend doing this per say, but anything to get sweet revenge is always highly encouraged. Something compelled me to send this to you. Hope you get inspiration out of it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nb0s1AePP2g

 

[Shru1kan]

Get on top of someone else.

Have fun.

 

[duchaked]

Just rationalize, and remember that love is but a chemical reaction.

Also, dumped you via text? What a *****! That's a horrible thing to do. Believe me, that's not someone you want to chase after.

no, love is the promise and commitment

feelings, emotions, infatuation are the chemical reactions

attachment...well it's more mental

but yeah dumping you by text for some random guy met in such a short period of time? uhhh hopefully you're one who deserves better

 

[RatRace123]

My advice is to put it out of your mind, my friends have been dumped and they've shut down for a few weeks, made them very awkward to be around. It did teach me to not keep it in, talk it out and justify that it's for the best, especially in your case, it's best to close off the relationship for good, do not persue her and do not let her manipulate you into going back. Someone who breaks up through a text, is a coward, or an idiot, you could do better.

 

[Normalgamer]

She sounds like an STD-ridden hoe in my opinion.
Lol dumps you at 2AM and then goes to date another guy? Hoe.
I suggest you call a sex line and complain to the lady on the other line. And then make sure you demand a refund.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

If she decided to break up with you like that, she's a coward, a bad person, and you deserve much better than that. I'd say that the best way to keep yourself from going crazy is a combination of thinking it through, and keeping your mind occupied. Hang with friends, listen to music, anything to keep your mind shut for a while first. Then when you're over it a bit more, you can start rationalizing and realize that she ain't worth the trouble.

 

[Beartrucci]

Above all, make sure to abandon this thread once you find a successful technique, this thread will only remind you of her.

Wouldn't that mean that if he finds a successful technique from this thread, he can't use it because it would remind him of her or something? Correct me if I'm wrong, I only woke up recently.

 

[The Kangaroo]

I'm still waiting for that number...

 

[userwhoquitthesite]

Invading the French.

That's your answer for everything!

 

[bluepilot]

Easy easy easy

Invite your friends around for a movie marathon night/game night, in particular horror films, and while doing makeup and painting toenails (optional), eat pizza and icecream and cake, everything that is bad for you (not option), if old enough include alcohol. If you have no friends, by yourself is okay too (more pizza, icecream and beer for you ha ha)

Coplain about everything you have while high on sugar, cheese and /or alcohol, while killing things or watching people be killed.

You will feel better in no-time.

 

[Earthmonger]

Go gay. lol

Then tell everyone she was such a bad girlfriend that she turned you gay. If the cliche holds true, all kinds of women should flock to you, and attempt to 'undo' her wrongs.

Not likely. But hey, I've not tried it, so I can't say it doesn't work.

 

[demoman_chaos]

I prefer the Monster Truck Method. Grab something with big wheels and run over them. Smaller wheeled vehicles have a ahrder time getting over the body than something with bigger wheels. Speed helps if you are looking to ramp over them instead.

To be serious though, take what you learned from that relationship and start preparing for the next one.

 

[Lord of Maggots]

Well I was recently dumped for some pretty crappy reasons. The girl then tried to humiliate me, BAD move. I'm going to have sex with her cousin and send her the pictures. I know it is in NO way the right way to deal with it... But it'll feel better than crying about it.

 

[Kathinka]

Well I was recently dumped for some pretty crappy reasons. The girl then tried to humiliate me, BAD move. I'm going to have sex with her cousin and send her the pictures. I know it is in NO way the right way to deal with it... But it'll feel better than crying about it.

if she's smart she will forward them to your and her parents^^
who takes pictures of himself during sex anayway

on toppic though: a girl that dumped you via textmessage is not the one to mayke you happy anyway. might be hard to accept when you are still feeling for her, and you probably do. but if she didn't have the guts to talk it over with you in person and jumps the next guy in some bar instantly she apearently didn't take that whole relationship-thingie to serious to begin with.

 

[Xette]

Revenge. She's just trying to smear it all over your face that she's with someone else.

Date her sister. Or her best friend

 

[Lord of Maggots]

Well I was recently dumped for some pretty crappy reasons. The girl then tried to humiliate me, BAD move. I'm going to have sex with her cousin and send her the pictures. I know it is in NO way the right way to deal with it... But it'll feel better than crying about it.

if she's smart she will forward them to your and her parents^^
who takes pictures of himself during sex anayway

Well by leaving me for a pot head who couldnt get a job if he wanted to due to his criminal record pretty much shows that shes a moron.

Also I don't normaly take pictures or videos or have beautiful hand painted stills drawn durring my sexual adventures... I can only imagine the look on her face when she sees me "helms deep" (as I refer to it instead of balls deep) in her cousin.

 

[Nickolai77]

I would first devote some time to thinking of her, or indeed talking to some of your close friends about it, so to get it out of your system. THEN start the process of getting over her by listening to your favourite music say, do lots of social activities with your friends, even confort eating or video gaming etc.