Better to be single or in a relationship?
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Completely all depends on the relationship. And how you are being alone, I suppose.
I'm rubbish at having close friendships, so have in the past relied on boyfriends to fill the social hole in my life. I would have been more miserable and lonely without them even if the relationship was a bit crap.
I hung on to my last boyfriend for two years despite it being a bit crap for most of that time because I'd developed a fear of being alone. Then he finally dumped me... and I realised how liberating being single is, and how good it is to be away from someone who treats you kinda crappily. By this point I had a circle of relatively good friends, so all was well.
So I decided I'd stay single until I graduated so I could concentrate on studies. Then one of my best friends who I've fancied forever but never thought would be interested in me as a girlfriend... turned out to be interested in me as a girlfriend. And I went "Well, tough, I'll just have to hope he's still interested in a year's time but what if he's not and what if he has a girlfriend by then oh God that's a horrible thought I really really like him I AM GOING TO BE WITH THIS MAN, UNI BE DAMNED."
And now my friends are all commenting on how I'm happier than I've been in years, so... there ya go.
/lifestory
I'm rubbish at having close friendships, so have in the past relied on boyfriends to fill the social hole in my life. I would have been more miserable and lonely without them even if the relationship was a bit crap.
I hung on to my last boyfriend for two years despite it being a bit crap for most of that time because I'd developed a fear of being alone. Then he finally dumped me... and I realised how liberating being single is, and how good it is to be away from someone who treats you kinda crappily. By this point I had a circle of relatively good friends, so all was well.
So I decided I'd stay single until I graduated so I could concentrate on studies. Then one of my best friends who I've fancied forever but never thought would be interested in me as a girlfriend... turned out to be interested in me as a girlfriend. And I went "Well, tough, I'll just have to hope he's still interested in a year's time but what if he's not and what if he has a girlfriend by then oh God that's a horrible thought I really really like him I AM GOING TO BE WITH THIS MAN, UNI BE DAMNED."
And now my friends are all commenting on how I'm happier than I've been in years, so... there ya go.
/lifestory
This is amazing hahaWolfThomas said:
I like being in a relationship, hence why it's been going on for more than three years (in my basement)
Well, seeing as I'm in a relationship, and my partner is a member on this site, I'm hardly gonna say single now am I?
But yeah, I adore the companionship that only a girlfriend/boyfriend can bring. Otherwise I tend to get lonely, and produce copious amounts of awful, awful poetry.
But yeah, I adore the companionship that only a girlfriend/boyfriend can bring. Otherwise I tend to get lonely, and produce copious amounts of awful, awful poetry.
I have never been in a relationship, and don't expect to be in the foreseeable future.
Them's the breaks when you're an antisocial introvert.
But I have a brother to hang with, so I'm good.
Them's the breaks when you're an antisocial introvert.
But I have a brother to hang with, so I'm good.
Advantage to both, like others have said. I'm perfectly happy being single at the moment having had a girlfriend from 2007-2008. Wouldn't mind giving it another crack with someone different, but I'm not going to go searching.
In depends on the person which is better, and you can't let one experience deter you from a romantic relationship with an entire gender, unless your problems are inherent of a relationship.
I'd like to be in a relationship, at least to know for myself. I'm mostly attracted to the idea since I feel lonely, and have never been someone's favourite, and I'd like to feel like someone properly understands me, and am not particularly attracted to the idea of being snuffed out of the genepool. Alas, I cannot find a lass I'm attracted to.
I'd like to be in a relationship, at least to know for myself. I'm mostly attracted to the idea since I feel lonely, and have never been someone's favourite, and I'd like to feel like someone properly understands me, and am not particularly attracted to the idea of being snuffed out of the genepool. Alas, I cannot find a lass I'm attracted to.
I'm too busy with my own interests & hobbies. I like my friends, but seeing them more than once a week is just too much. I need my alone time, lots of it. Of course if I can find someone who likes comic books, video games, manga, anime, foreign music, & landscape photography, watches the same internet shows as me, has a weird interest in medical anomalies, & loves my cooking, that might be different.
It would depend on your work rate, finances, time schedule, social circle, personal hobbies, current health etc etc.
Well since we are here we might as well make this a gaming related thing.
Bing single is like playing Bubble Pop, very easy, no obligations, no work, you are completely free to do with your time what you want, but at the same time you don't overcome any adversity and no reward other then rest comes from it.
Meanwhile a serious relationship is like playing Faster Then Light(rougelike space sim), it is a constant strain on you, you need to put in hard work to keep it going, if you get lazy and drop the ball shit will come back to haunt you, and once it goes really bad it's all over and you go right back to the beginning, however the seesaw journey is very entertaining with a huge payoff when you do things right.
Well the difference being FTL does have a win point relationships don't...
Bing single is like playing Bubble Pop, very easy, no obligations, no work, you are completely free to do with your time what you want, but at the same time you don't overcome any adversity and no reward other then rest comes from it.
Meanwhile a serious relationship is like playing Faster Then Light(rougelike space sim), it is a constant strain on you, you need to put in hard work to keep it going, if you get lazy and drop the ball shit will come back to haunt you, and once it goes really bad it's all over and you go right back to the beginning, however the seesaw journey is very entertaining with a huge payoff when you do things right.
Well the difference being FTL does have a win point relationships don't...
I never had a "good" relationship. Any attempt to get one either finished in a very miserable place or I realized that the girl wasn't someone good for me. I still want a good relationship and I'd be happy to invest my time in one.
Being single, at this time in my life, isn't the greatness of what it used to be. All my friends have girlfriends. A few of those girls think that I'm a bad influence on their boyfriends since I'm the single guy and that means I invite my friends to party only. Others alway tried to do some matchmaking with their friends with attitudes matching their faces. (Yeah, it's mean, but it's also fitting).
Being single, at this time in my life, isn't the greatness of what it used to be. All my friends have girlfriends. A few of those girls think that I'm a bad influence on their boyfriends since I'm the single guy and that means I invite my friends to party only. Others alway tried to do some matchmaking with their friends with attitudes matching their faces. (Yeah, it's mean, but it's also fitting).
I would like to try relationships again at some point soon, but I am not sure they will last. I am quite particular about having my own space, time to myself and not being bothered when I am doing other things (I will not answer the phone if I am busy gaming and so on). I can see that causing problems, so I may have to say something along the lines of "this is who I am, if you can't handle it be on your merry way".
I like having a girlfriend and I'm happy when single. I don't focus me being happy on whether or not I'm in a relationship.
I find the OPs lack of punctuation disturbing...
Anyway on to the topic at hand! I've been single for long periods of time and, I've been involved in more than one serious relationship and I think it all depends on who you are and, who you're in a relationship with. Personally, I can't fully enjoy myself if I have to deal with myself and only myself. I've always had some friends around but I can't really function well if I don't have a significant other of some kind. I did and, still do enjoy moments of solitude Hell, everybody does but I wouldn't want to live without my girlfriend.
Anyway on to the topic at hand! I've been single for long periods of time and, I've been involved in more than one serious relationship and I think it all depends on who you are and, who you're in a relationship with. Personally, I can't fully enjoy myself if I have to deal with myself and only myself. I've always had some friends around but I can't really function well if I don't have a significant other of some kind. I did and, still do enjoy moments of solitude Hell, everybody does but I wouldn't want to live without my girlfriend.
I'm crazy for my girlfriend so relationship. My single life was just fine as well so no complaints there. Played vidya, go to parties, get sex, rinse repeat. Got a little dull to be honest so I enjoy being in a relationship and being able to just sit and simmer down and not be on the look out all the time.