Grass is always greener on the other side. When I'd been in a relationship for a while, I wanted it to end because it had got boring. Now that I've been single for a while, I really want another girlfriend. So y'know, depends.
Better to be single or in a relationship?
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Contrary to popular belief, relationships aren't for everyone. I know it simply doesn't work out for me because of my personality. Obviously it does work for others. I think the reason why so many relationships fail is because it's the "cool thing" to be with someone. There are so many retards in the world shouting: "But there's somebody for EVERYONE!!"
Bullshit.
This is the talk of some overweight, naïve otaku. Somebody in my class said something: "Well, with a girlfriend, there's no need for pr0n anymore." I don't necessarily agree with it, but he pretty much pointed out what I said.
Bullshit.
This is the talk of some overweight, naïve otaku. Somebody in my class said something: "Well, with a girlfriend, there's no need for pr0n anymore." I don't necessarily agree with it, but he pretty much pointed out what I said.
I have been turned down, stood up, ignored, laughed at, lied to, lied about, and made into the butt of a number of extremely unfunny practical jokes. For all that, I have never known one second of companionship, affection, or any of the good things that are supposed to be sprinkled in there.
I have concluded women see me as a punching bag: someone upon whom they can safely unload all their frustrations and inadequacies without the need to give anything back because there is simply no way they could ever get desperate enough to want to cross *this* bridge.
The constant dull ache of loneliness is a healing balm compared to that kind of attention.
It depends greatly on your personality, how much of your identity and self-worth is tied up in other people's opinions and willingness to be around you. I do very well on my own because I am a natural introvert who thinks the majority of people are fools. Others' need for relationships may be far greater than my own.
It also depends greatly on the other person, what kind of couple you make. A buddy of mine who is a pretty good guy had an on-again, off-again shitstorm of a relationship with this psychotic gymnast. They'd screw like bunnies for two weeks, then they'd remember they hated each other, fill the next two months with lies and recriminations, fail to make it work, and have a bad breakup. After two months alone, they'd be lonely enough to get back together. This went on for years. Not healthy. Eventually he got smart. She didn't; she still calls him thinking she can get back into his life.
I have concluded women see me as a punching bag: someone upon whom they can safely unload all their frustrations and inadequacies without the need to give anything back because there is simply no way they could ever get desperate enough to want to cross *this* bridge.
The constant dull ache of loneliness is a healing balm compared to that kind of attention.
It depends greatly on your personality, how much of your identity and self-worth is tied up in other people's opinions and willingness to be around you. I do very well on my own because I am a natural introvert who thinks the majority of people are fools. Others' need for relationships may be far greater than my own.
It also depends greatly on the other person, what kind of couple you make. A buddy of mine who is a pretty good guy had an on-again, off-again shitstorm of a relationship with this psychotic gymnast. They'd screw like bunnies for two weeks, then they'd remember they hated each other, fill the next two months with lies and recriminations, fail to make it work, and have a bad breakup. After two months alone, they'd be lonely enough to get back together. This went on for years. Not healthy. Eventually he got smart. She didn't; she still calls him thinking she can get back into his life.
Going by the first week and a half of my first relationship...relationship.
Being single is fine, but i'm happier now than i've been in quite a while.
Being single is fine, but i'm happier now than i've been in quite a while.
I think you are my long lost other self. Our opinions on things are uncannily similar.Johnny Impact said:
And the first reply answers the thread.Leighcakes said:
Having said that I'm generally happier in a relationship but as Leighcakes pointed out, that's only good and worthwhile if both partners are happy.
I award you a gold star for the day for referencing two awesome things in making your point. I came here to make a reference of my own in favor of being in a relationship: that's when you get to do the weird stuff. Heh.thaluikhain said:
I personally am tired of being alone, I want someone so bad, I know people will say it takes time but I'm sick of waiting, I need someone now.
It entirely depends on one's circumstances: sometimes its good to have the moral boost from having a girlfriend, sometimes the financial and time commitments are too much. 
Hai Vault! How're you?Vault101 said:
OT: Singleness is good, because relationships can be complicated. Relationshipness can be good, because sex and companionship. In the end, it partly depends on your preference, but it seems to me that being in a "good relationship" is best.
We do the weird stuff!Nalgas D. Lemur said:
Entirely off topic: I'm going as Dr. Horrible for Halloween this year! Costume's a touch pricy though. -.-
Honestly it comes down to personal preference. If you're in a relationship purely to have sex... you're a tool. I'm sorry but that mentality is bat-shit stupid.
However if you enjoy being single, go with that. You shouldn't be in a relationship because society or your friends decide its the best thing for you. Then you'll be miserable while the other person thinks it's their fault. It's better to be happy with yourself first before you try to make someone else happy.
I love being married, and i was in a miserable relationship before i met my wife. I had been single for 4 years when i met her and it was pretty much the point where i wasn't looking for anything, and we worked together, and boom, a few years later (2, to be exact) we were married.
So if that's too long to read, basically go with what makes you happy.
However if you enjoy being single, go with that. You shouldn't be in a relationship because society or your friends decide its the best thing for you. Then you'll be miserable while the other person thinks it's their fault. It's better to be happy with yourself first before you try to make someone else happy.
I love being married, and i was in a miserable relationship before i met my wife. I had been single for 4 years when i met her and it was pretty much the point where i wasn't looking for anything, and we worked together, and boom, a few years later (2, to be exact) we were married.
So if that's too long to read, basically go with what makes you happy.
I've been happy in both situations but I'm kind of a hopeless romantic at heart so eventually I want to get into a relationship again after being single. I want a family someday!
This is one of those things that is incredibly dependent on the person. For me, being in a relationship makes me happy. Some of my friends are completely happy being bachelors. It just depends on personality and what you want out of life.
This, pretty much. They're different things, one is not "better" than the other inherently. Of course single life beats a failing relationship any day, there's that.Aylaine said:I like both equally. My own happiness is different from the happiness I would get from a relationship. The difference is, I need my happiness while I do not necessarily need the happiness of being taken with someone. This allows me to become independent entirely on my own. So while I would like a new relationship eventually., I don't need one either.
I've never been in a relationship so I can't say which would be better.
But I figure both are equally awesome in their own ways.
But I figure both are equally awesome in their own ways.
Both have their advantages.
Being single is "fun", it's sustained by a greater degree of excitement and suspense, there is a game-like aspect to just being able to flirt at your leisure.
A relationship, though, gives you security and affection, someone to rely on and who supports you. I can say in good conscience that my girlfriend is also my best friend in that we share a similar outlook on life, the universe and everything, as well as pretty much all hobbies, sense of humour etc.
Being single is "fun", it's sustained by a greater degree of excitement and suspense, there is a game-like aspect to just being able to flirt at your leisure.
A relationship, though, gives you security and affection, someone to rely on and who supports you. I can say in good conscience that my girlfriend is also my best friend in that we share a similar outlook on life, the universe and everything, as well as pretty much all hobbies, sense of humour etc.