Bi The Way

[TheIceQueen]

Kinsey tells us we're all a little bisexual, nobody's 100% straight or gay. It's entirely up to you to figure out just how much of anything you are.

That's just as stupid as saying no one is gay.

I am in my mid twenties. I have never once, in my entire life, felt a sexual thought about a female. Not once. I am being completely honest here. This is why I can't swallow the idea that no one is 100% straight. I feel I am.

Sexuality is incredibly vast. Some people are completely asexual. Some people are completely gay, straight, whatever. Some people lie in the middle. Some people are straight but have, at times, been turned on by the thought of their own gender. There are no rules that say "it is impossible to be X or Y".

I haven't had sexual thoughts about a male either, but I'm ready to believe that we all have bisexual tendencies, however deeply rooted. To say someone is straight or gay is really just a way of saying you're mostly one thing or another. Even in the Kinsey Scale, exclusive heterosexuality and homosexuality aren't 100%.

Except in the Kinsey scale, exclusive heterosexuality and homosexuality -are- 100%. The Kinsey scale does place a lot of emphasis on stating that the exclusivity of one's sexuality towards one gender alone is a rare thing, it at least acknowledges that it is possible for that to be the case. It's not an 'everyone's somewhere in between' case. It's simply a 'most everyone's somewhere in between' case. Hell, some people aren't even on the scale. This might be a lot more rare than those who are exclusive, but it happens. That's the beautiful thing about sexuality. Anything and everything is possible, from someone who's dead center in the middle, to those who are exclusive, to those who aren't even there.

Another emphasis of the Kinsey scale that's very important is that its sliding scale can change depending on the different periods in people's lives.

 

[TeamDei]

Why limit yourself to a box?
Stay fluid, my friend.

 

[Starik20X6]

I think this panel from this Subnormality comic [http://www.viruscomix.com/page528.html] sums it up pretty perfectly:

 

[Sandjube]

I'm not actually sure what you want me to say. Yes, you could, conceivably, maybe, possibly, be bi? Does it matter? I can't wait 'till this become a thing that people don't care about, at all. It's already kind of that way on the internet but real life experience says otherwise, for me. MEH. Enjoy having sex/not having sex/masturbating to gay porn, at some point if you want to, maybe. Or not. Doesn't matter.

 

[DarklordKyo]

I've felt that I might be bi for a while now (or at least bicurious). The thing is, I've found some dudes appealing, but plenty of straight dudes have mancrushes due to GAR factor (on top of the fact that I've never been in a relationship with another dude). I know I'm not gay because I've been genuinely attracted to women (and am in a happy relationship with my girlfriend Ashley). Point is, how do I know if I'm straight, bi, or somewhere inbetween?

Take a protractor and measure the angle of your penis while watching regular porn, then divide that by the angle of your penis while watching gay porn. Then multiply that by the square root of the circumference of your biceps while fully flexed (in cm) Square that, then subtract the number of men you've had sex with. If you get a number less than 3, congratulations, YOUR GAY!

Is that what you wanted? Sorry it doesn't really work that way.

The best advice I can give is to not jump to conclusions, I'm pretty sure there's a large difference between having a "mancrush" and being sexually attracted to men.

LMAO, at this point I don't care if I get nothing but trolls, this post made the whole thread worth it.

 

[maxben]

I've felt that I might be bi for a while now (or at least bicurious). The thing is, I've found some dudes appealing, but plenty of straight dudes have mancrushes due to GAR factor (on top of the fact that I've never been in a relationship with another dude). I know I'm not gay because I've been genuinely attracted to women (and am in a happy relationship with my girlfriend Ashley). Point is, how do I know if I'm straight, bi, or somewhere inbetween?

TL;DR If I think I might be bi, am I bi?

Honestly, just be truthful with yourself. Do you like penis? I mean, it's one thing to find a man attractive, its quite another interacting with a penis. My girlfriend for example can find girls attractive but finds the idea of playing with a vagina that is not her own to be terrifying and not sexy at all. She really is the most hetero person I know. For guys its a little different because it is less appropriate today to appreciate the male form, so you immediately jump to the "am I gay?" thing.

One way to check is to watch gay porn, sure, but for those on the more hetero side of the spectrum with some bi tendencies a good test is just watching straight porn and focusing on the penis. Are you fascinated by it? Do you want to do the things you see the girls do with it? Great, you are bi. Of course you ought to try that a couple of times because maybe that guy or that penis was just particularly not arousing to you, but still. Unlike the other people in this thread, I am getting faaaar away from the question of whether you like girls or guys as a package or as specific individuals, and focusing purely on the sexual organ and actual sex.

The question of "if you were bi, what can of bi would you be?" is the one I think is unnecessary to answer though you can dissect it, but you can certainly tell if you are or are not.