Hmm... well the debate is already into the quote stacks stage, so I'm sure this will be ignored. But I thought that peoples beef with her was that she didn't like video games, and yet wrote stories for them.
I think this might be a problem, and lead to a disconnect between plot lines and mechanics... which you could certainly feel in Dragon Age. I have to admit I wasn't at all invested in the combat, and I can only attribute that to it being too heavily game orientated. You could easily see what combat puzzles the devs wanted you to work through, and the puzzles didn't have relevance to the story... beyond kill these guys to get to the next part.
I kind of think a game writer needs to be involved in the level design as well... and to be interested in how the game plays as a whole, so they can tailor their plot lines accordingly. A story about beating the odds would have hordes of low level guys, and a desperate struggle might only feature one or two heavy hitting mobs.
So I think she probably is in the wrong business, or at least the wrong company. Maybe a turn based JRPG would suit her better, or dating sims.
That said, she certainly doesn't deserve a hate campaign, since really it's the fault of the person who hired her not being discriminating enough with their staff.
And I can see a gay Shepard being okay, since, lets face it, the romance in Mass Effect was disconnected from the game play too. So basically, it doesn't really matter at all.