Bit of Advice please
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You're being the voice of an outrageously conservative mindset more like. Realism should be growing up free to develop however you want, not conforming out of fear of being ostracised. You say that a lot of people aren't comfortable with bisexual males - why not? Are they of the similar way of thinking that all gay men are insatiable sex freaks who will jump on any bit of exposed male flesh they encounter? Also, I find your pithy dismissal of what is a very difficult period of some people's lives as "attention whoring" to be a bit too fucking far.[/quote]JonnoStrife said:
People always say things like "oh no, I've no problem with it" or something to the effect of if their friends wouldn't accept it, then they aren't real friends, but I'm wondering how many of those people would react differently if they discovered someone close to them was sexually oriented in a different way than they thought.
I think you shouldn't tell unless it's necessary. It's like carrying a gun around with you; as long as nobody knows about it, it really doesn't affect anything. And is it any of their business anyway?
I think you shouldn't tell unless it's necessary. It's like carrying a gun around with you; as long as nobody knows about it, it really doesn't affect anything. And is it any of their business anyway?
sorry to brag. see, I believe there must be equality of every human being, whether your gay, a lesbian, bisexual, or straight (there's more of course). but I'm homophobic, so I had to mentally train myself to look past my phobias (not arachnophobia, god no).Maxieon said:After reading your post I think you deserve some cookies! Seriously, you stated that you are homophobic but still helped out and were very polite and professional in your response.megaman24681012 said:
[/quote]MaxChaos said:
Sorry, mate, but that what the real general consensus is. While liberal politicians battle it out with the church, man makes up his own mind in the streets. Wishing for an all accepting society? An adolescence we can't afford. As long as something can be labelled it can be hated. Believe me it is labelled and it is hated.
Do what you need to do and deal with the pragmatic consequences afterwards. If you out yourself, you may lose friends and you also might not. But I recognize that one's sexuality and expression of which is a complex identity issue, one that I and a majority of people are fortunate enough to take for granted in our day to day lives.
The people who claim that bisexuals are bi for attention... reek of ignorance. At least according to theorists like Judith Butler. I don't think stereotypes of attention seeking tweens are appropriate to this discussion.
The people who claim that bisexuals are bi for attention... reek of ignorance. At least according to theorists like Judith Butler. I don't think stereotypes of attention seeking tweens are appropriate to this discussion.
I think that mentioning your sexuality in a close or private conversation if you really feel the need is better than remaining quiet. With bad or controversial personal news, I find it's easier to tell each friend, one by one, in private. That way, there's less chance of the group deciding to do something silly about it, like gossip.
But only if it's on-topic, related in some way to what's being talked about. I, personally, would not feel much different about a friend telling me they're bi. I'd be surprised if I didn't know, and then I'd say that's cool.
It doesn't really matter to me, though if they don't know and it's a big emotional reveal, then I might slip in the fact that I'm straight, just in case they have a thing for me. The latter hasn't happened, but I have had friends tell me such news before.
It helps to break the news if your friends are left-wing. If not, you may have some trouble with silly perceptions. Whatever happens, never feel ashamed or awkward about it. It's just a detail that helps define you as an individual, so be proud.
Good luck, anyway.
But only if it's on-topic, related in some way to what's being talked about. I, personally, would not feel much different about a friend telling me they're bi. I'd be surprised if I didn't know, and then I'd say that's cool.
It doesn't really matter to me, though if they don't know and it's a big emotional reveal, then I might slip in the fact that I'm straight, just in case they have a thing for me. The latter hasn't happened, but I have had friends tell me such news before.
It helps to break the news if your friends are left-wing. If not, you may have some trouble with silly perceptions. Whatever happens, never feel ashamed or awkward about it. It's just a detail that helps define you as an individual, so be proud.
Good luck, anyway.
You need to see this as a golden opportunity. This is your chance to weed out those who don't actually care about you. Those who truly love you and are your friend, will accept you no matter what your sexual preference is. Your family will still always love you; there's this thing called unconditional love, and you get it from your parents.
No, the crude stereotypes aren't appropriate, even if the OP's a kid, which isn't likely considering he's moving out of his parent's place.JonnoStrife said:
idk about you but my in my group of friends its pretty much considered cool to be bisexual (like half of my friends are bi) not to mention it seems more and more people these days are announcing that they are bisexual so i think you should be fine among your friends
If they ask you about it and you think they'll stop being your friend if you tell them, don't tell them for a while.
I suppose it really depends on how old you are as well, if you're an adult - it has to come out at some point.
I suppose it really depends on how old you are as well, if you're an adult - it has to come out at some point.