Bit of trouble getting back into this forum

[Hader]

Not everyone will know it, nor notice it, but ever since my friend Kortney passed away, I have found it unbearably difficult to come back to these forums and post at all. This was our main internet hangout, at least for tag teaming debate threads and whatnot, and just in general having a good time when we were bored.

I have tried to get back into it but it still feels strange to be here now, despite the community being the same and a great as ever, that one hole is hard to fill.

I'm generally not at all bad with this kind of stuff, but I guess it's harder the closer to home it hits. I really want to be as active as I can be here, be the same member of the community I was before, but how to get back to that? It's strangely difficult.

 

[Totec]

Time helps all wounds...

It may sounds like a cliche, but it's true. Maybe you should just take a break from the forums. Perhaps check out some other forums, or maybe take up a new hobby for a bit. I'm sure these forms aren't going anywhere.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[Griffolion]

Not everyone will know it, nor notice it, but ever since my friend Kortney passed away, I have found it unbearably difficult to come back to these forums and post at all. This was our main internet hangout, at least for tag teaming debate threads and whatnot, and just in general having a good time when we were bored.

I have tried to get back into it but it still feels strange to be here now, despite the community being the same and a great as ever, that one hole is hard to fill.

I'm generally not at all bad with this kind of stuff, but I guess it's harder the closer to home it hits. I really want to be as active as I can be here, be the same member of the community I was before, but how to get back to that? It's strangely difficult.

It's hard to come back to a thing that reminds you so strongly of a loved one passed away. My granddad had his aneurysm in our favourite restaurant, he died later on that day. We never went back to that restaurant, ever. So I understand your feelings. If you're not comfortable coming back to the forums, then don't do it until you feel ready. The wounds must still be hurting hard, and your mind is trying to avert you from hitting something that brings the memories back. Maybe just post once or twice here and there, visit other forums and progress in a way in which you're comfortable.

I'm very sorry for you losing a friend, it's obvious you two were close. I know we are total strangers but feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk about anything.

 

[Hader]

Time helps all wounds...

It may sounds like a cliche, but it's true. Maybe you should just take a break from the forums. Perhaps check out some other forums, or maybe take up a new hobby for a bit. I'm sure these forms aren't going anywhere.

Just my 2 cents.

I took a bit of a break. I don't feel I need that long.

It's hard to come back to a thing that reminds you so strongly of a loved one passed away. My granddad had his aneurysm in our favourite restaurant, he died later on that day. We never went back to that restaurant, ever. So I understand your feelings. If you're not comfortable coming back to the forums, then don't do it until you feel ready. The wounds must still be hurting hard, and your mind is trying to avert you from hitting something that brings the memories back. Maybe just post once or twice here and there, visit other forums and progress in a way in which you're comfortable.

I'm very sorry for you losing a friend, it's obvious you two were close. I know we are total strangers but feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk about anything.

It is hard to come back here and post much but I feel I shouldn't let this stop me for so long. I've had no trouble accepting all that has happened, and I decided not to try and force her out of my memory in any way. That would be more difficult in the long run and I do her memory no service that way either. So in a sense, I am mostly fine with how I am about it now. But without her here, I just come to these forums and stare at things, wondering what the hell I am to do now.

 

[Jack Rascal]

It is hard to come back here and post much but I feel I shouldn't let this stop me for so long. I've had no trouble accepting all that has happened, and I decided not to try and force her out of my memory in any way. That would be more difficult in the long run and I do her memory no service that way either. So in a sense, I am mostly fine with how I am about it now. But without her here, I just come to these forums and stare at things, wondering what the hell I am to do now.

You're right, don't force her memory away, ever. You may have accepted what happened, but you have memories here. It is hard to come back to a place where you have memories about someone you have lost. It doesn't matter what the place is, it can be a cafe or a bench near a river. In this case a website.

If you spent a lot of time here with her, it is only normal to feel a little lost. I think it's good to visit the site, if not write anything. I don't think this site will ever be the same for you. But that's not necessarily a bad thing.

My aunt died some years ago, too young as well I thought. We are very close in my family so it was devastating. I accepted what happened and I don't think much of it nowadays. But she loved Santana and used to do air guitar during 'Samba Pa Ti'. Every time I hear the song, it reminds me of her. And her air guitar... But I always smile when I think about it.

I know this is not the same thing, and I don't think I'm helping you here... But I don't think you can forget her and your time with her here. This is a place where you came to discuss some of your favourite topics and voice your opinions. This is just a place where you had fun and spent time together. I think it's very normal to have a hard time coming here and starting to reply to posts. After my aunts death I had hard time when I heard 'Samba Pa Ti', the memory was too fresh. But now, I smile thinking of her air guitar solo. I think this site will always remind you of her.

I think you should just read posts and only reply if you really feel like it. If you don't have the energy to hold a conversation, don't reply. Give it some time and reply when you are more familiar with this site again; this site is missing something significant to you after all.

 

[Hader]

I think you should just read posts and only reply if you really feel like it. If you don't have the energy to hold a conversation, don't reply. Give it some time and reply when you are more familiar with this site again; this site is missing something significant to you after all.

It's what I have been doing recently, though even that is hard. I didn't log in for weeks at a time the past few months. It's not going to ever really be the same here again, I still even see her profile on my friends list each time I log on.