inu-kun said:
Also the whole misogynistic angle doesn't work well as he's shown to treat the dwarf girl and Sansa as humans (and generally creeps me out that this is now how people define characters as bad this days).
You're correct in a sense. Penny is interesting in that I get the feeling she's meant to be a turning point in Tyrion's arc. She's literally the first female character other than Cersei whom he manages to treat with any genuine empathy, and even then he sees her as sad and contemptible most of the time. In fact he seems to come close to outright hating her internally even as he can't bring himself to actually hurt her.
While on the surface Penny and Tyrion are totally different (she's naive, he's cynical, she's idealistic, he's pragmatic, she's grieving, he's vengeful) but deep down they're actually quite similar. Specifically, Penny is a lot like the parts of Tyrion which naively believed Shae loved him, which lead him to marry Tysha, which wanted to earn his father's approval, and these are things Tyrion sees as weaknesses. The fact that she's a dwarf makes the comparison doubly obvious. So yes, Tyrions empathy for Penny stems from he fact that she reminds him of himself. Unfortunately, Tyrion kind of hates himself.
Sansa is a lot less ambiguous than you're remembering, and you may be getting confused with the show. In the show, Tyrion's decision not to have sex with Sansa (which would be non-consensual) stems from loyalty towards Shae. In the books, he seriously contemplates it on several occasions, but is put off it not because he respects Sansa but because she makes him sad. Her disgust for him makes him feel bad.
So yeah, all of Tyrion's feelings of apparent empathy towards women stem, ultimately, from his own self-loathing.
As for "bad characters".. umm.. no.. I could not write any of the above about a "bad character". I think what creeps me out, if anything, is the assumption that a "good character" means a likeable character, a character we the audience can morally identify with, when in fact many of the best characters in literature, and especially in fantasy literature, are horrible people by any reasonable standard.
You can have a character who is a horrible person but a good character, it comes down to whether the horrible parts of their personality are explained and given proper narrative reasoning, which in Tyrion's case I think is true. He even remains sympathetic, in an antiheroic sense, despite his horribleness (Littlefinger, I think, is a more explicit example of this because he has no POV chapters and is therefore more recognizable in his horribleness, but his internal justifications are probably very similar). Moral complexity is good, and is a hallmark of ASOIAF as a series, I don't really see why it's so shocking here to point it out.
I don't know, there are certain characters (particularly Tyrion, Stannis and Arya) whom fans seem to have attached to to the point of overlooking that they're actually kind of a bag of dicks.