It seems that somewhere down the line, this thread got misinterpreted. Apparently I'm now a misogynistic computer program that encourages men to be assholes. A nice response from my fellow nerds, I must say ...
I don't think a book can change a person's life, but it can help them see things from an angle they never considered before. Isn't that the function of art?
Here are some books that have helped me immensely:
David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating (also: the Deep Inner Game & Body Language DVD's)
-why? because so much of human interaction is based around how we think. The Deep Inner Game and Body Language DVD's help teach mental awareness and how to look for social cues from people, whereas the "tricks" people keep mentioning are more from the actual DYD book, which is pretty fuckin shallow compared to the rest of his material.
yes, he's a dating guru, so people automatically throw up red flags like crazy. the least you could do if you're looking for help is to give it a chance. a lot of what he has to say is surprising, because it's not just some "lost soul" who found some good techniques and spews them; there's a lot on the psychology of both women and men that shows how both sides can either falter, or prosper.
Dr. Paul Dobronsky - MindOS
-why? back to the above point: so much of what we do is based around how we think. here's a model of human psychology that views it like a computer, and how we can take charge of the data we let in and the data we let out. if this seems too far out for you, just hit the back button: you're in the wrong thread.
Wayne Dyer - How to be a No-Limit Person
Wayne Dyer - Your Erroneous Zones
-why? because these books can help you deal with the negative aspects of your thoughts that can "hold you down" that maybe you weren't sure were present in the first place.
-the same can be said for:
Frank Farrelly & Jeff Brandsma - Provocative Therapy
Michael Hall - Mind-Lines
Robert Moore & Douglas Gillette - King Warrior Magician Lover
FJ Shark - How to be the Jerk Women Love
-i love including this one because people always seem to forget the "that women love" part on the end of the title. this book is by a "former nice guy" who wanted to keep his courtesy and level head, but get just enough into the "jerk" mindset to see why he was always the single one.
So, if anyone feels compelled to put up anything condemning these books, at least put up internal references from the books themselves instead of just lambasting the titles. I'd call you a bunch of shallow-minded twats for that, but that's not very mature, and I'd be over-generalizing.
But the idea was to build a logical resource page, not create a debate on "the ethics of dating gurus", because I know a lot of them are full of shit. that's why actual psychology is key, not just a list of "tricks".
I don't think a book can change a person's life, but it can help them see things from an angle they never considered before. Isn't that the function of art?
Here are some books that have helped me immensely:
David DeAngelo - Double Your Dating (also: the Deep Inner Game & Body Language DVD's)
-why? because so much of human interaction is based around how we think. The Deep Inner Game and Body Language DVD's help teach mental awareness and how to look for social cues from people, whereas the "tricks" people keep mentioning are more from the actual DYD book, which is pretty fuckin shallow compared to the rest of his material.
yes, he's a dating guru, so people automatically throw up red flags like crazy. the least you could do if you're looking for help is to give it a chance. a lot of what he has to say is surprising, because it's not just some "lost soul" who found some good techniques and spews them; there's a lot on the psychology of both women and men that shows how both sides can either falter, or prosper.
Dr. Paul Dobronsky - MindOS
-why? back to the above point: so much of what we do is based around how we think. here's a model of human psychology that views it like a computer, and how we can take charge of the data we let in and the data we let out. if this seems too far out for you, just hit the back button: you're in the wrong thread.
Wayne Dyer - How to be a No-Limit Person
Wayne Dyer - Your Erroneous Zones
-why? because these books can help you deal with the negative aspects of your thoughts that can "hold you down" that maybe you weren't sure were present in the first place.
-the same can be said for:
Frank Farrelly & Jeff Brandsma - Provocative Therapy
Michael Hall - Mind-Lines
Robert Moore & Douglas Gillette - King Warrior Magician Lover
FJ Shark - How to be the Jerk Women Love
-i love including this one because people always seem to forget the "that women love" part on the end of the title. this book is by a "former nice guy" who wanted to keep his courtesy and level head, but get just enough into the "jerk" mindset to see why he was always the single one.
So, if anyone feels compelled to put up anything condemning these books, at least put up internal references from the books themselves instead of just lambasting the titles. I'd call you a bunch of shallow-minded twats for that, but that's not very mature, and I'd be over-generalizing.
But the idea was to build a logical resource page, not create a debate on "the ethics of dating gurus", because I know a lot of them are full of shit. that's why actual psychology is key, not just a list of "tricks".
