Breaking up, and how to deal with it.
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I think giving into your vices helps a lot.
Not in that it's good for you, but it allows you to place control or purpose in something else for a while, so you're not focusing on the regret.
You'll get sick of it after a while and you'll be left fresh as a daisy. Time heals all wounds, so to speak.
Not in that it's good for you, but it allows you to place control or purpose in something else for a while, so you're not focusing on the regret.
You'll get sick of it after a while and you'll be left fresh as a daisy. Time heals all wounds, so to speak.
The Ultrajoe school of breaking up chicks
1) Take a giant lead pipe and...
oh... Breaking up WITH chicks, that could have gotten bad fast
1) Take an absolutely massive lead pipe and brain the sucker all over your wall, bag the remains and make a pie
2) Act as if your broken up, and then when she asks why, tell her 'oh right, you, knew i forgot something, were over'
...oh... oh... After breaking up with chicks
1) clean up
ok, serious now
for guys, tell all your mates, because you know they'll be itching to help you get over her with all the hate they built up towards her over the years/months, no guy likes a friends girlfriend... not even the ones who think they do. Then go out and bag a new one as soon as possible, infuriates the old chick and you get a new one!
For girls, call me, ill make everything alright
1) Take a giant lead pipe and...
oh... Breaking up WITH chicks, that could have gotten bad fast
1) Take an absolutely massive lead pipe and brain the sucker all over your wall, bag the remains and make a pie
2) Act as if your broken up, and then when she asks why, tell her 'oh right, you, knew i forgot something, were over'
...oh... oh... After breaking up with chicks
1) clean up
ok, serious now
for guys, tell all your mates, because you know they'll be itching to help you get over her with all the hate they built up towards her over the years/months, no guy likes a friends girlfriend... not even the ones who think they do. Then go out and bag a new one as soon as possible, infuriates the old chick and you get a new one!
For girls, call me, ill make everything alright
Dang, this server already has a dark humoured funny guy
Oh well, might as well be a 'serious' contributer... <_<
Dude, I know this sounds weird but you know what works? Chainsaw sculpturing, Its like normal sculpturing but faster and much more dangerous
Plus, if you sculpture the asshole that your girlfriend is with, you can cut his minature self up! Seriously, try it.
Oh well, might as well be a 'serious' contributer... <_<
Dude, I know this sounds weird but you know what works? Chainsaw sculpturing, Its like normal sculpturing but faster and much more dangerous
Plus, if you sculpture the asshole that your girlfriend is with, you can cut his minature self up! Seriously, try it.
So far, a breakup has always resulted in a long period of depression and omni-hate with me. I'm a sensitive bloke when it comes to relationships.
My cure for it however, is to hang out a lot with other people, even when not feeling like it (which is all the time), do a lot of gaming and do a bunch of things you wouldn't normally do. Allow yourself to go insane for a bit.
In my experience, excessive drinking only leads to a stronger depression feeling, be it during or afterwards. I wouldn't recommend it.
My cure for it however, is to hang out a lot with other people, even when not feeling like it (which is all the time), do a lot of gaming and do a bunch of things you wouldn't normally do. Allow yourself to go insane for a bit.
In my experience, excessive drinking only leads to a stronger depression feeling, be it during or afterwards. I wouldn't recommend it.
Time for a well constructed wall 'o' text lol.
Funny you should mention break ups TC cause my ex just broke up with me on the 1st May(you could say new month, new start really lol). Anyways straight afterwards she started dating one of my friends, whats even worse is that he was one of those friends i could really talk to about anything so you can imagine how i must've felt.
nom_lah i was in the same position, i was breaking her heart into a billion pieces, i dont know the specifics of your situation but i was insecure about myself, im not exactly the most handsome guy and i never thought someone as beautiful as her could accept me let alone love me like she did. alot of the things i said and did to her(minus physical abuse, im not like that)hurt her alot and wats worse is that i never stopped to think or stepped back and told myself "this is wrong". dont get me wrong i loved her, she was my first gf but the things that happened said otherwise. ive had trust issues of ppl for years(even my parents)but i neednt have not been able to trust her. I was a scared little boy tbh of completely committing myself to the relationship because i always thought she wanted something from me(money etc, anything physical really), that was a selfish thing to think, me being scared of her breaking my heart ended with me breaking her heart.
when she broke up with me she said she couldnt believe she had put up with me all this time(6 months), that was how much she loved me and accepted me, she was willing to put up with all my crap because she loved me, she had never loved anyone as much as she had loved me, i felt like a complete ass, jerk, whatever names you can call me i thought i was. she could never see herself being with me ever again because she thought i could never change who i was.
suffice to say since then ive actually become alot more open and not so closed around ppl(including my parents)and my true friends who were there for me all the time yet who i somewhat ignored when i was with my ex. your friends really are your life line.
my friends have known the guy who shes going out with now for quite a while, well before they started high school, they say it wont last cause hes an ass basically, a bigger one than me which is saying something and that she will come back to me. several of my friends have been in the same situation and their exes have come back, that gives me hope. but i guess what my advice is, how i got over her was to go out with my friends, talk to them, i have loads more friends who listened to me about what had happened, alot more than that guy ever could(the guy my ex is going out with). when you have an ex like that who loved you like that its hard to let things like that go, what i did to her was unforgivable, i wont be able to forgive myself, even if we did get back together but i have learnt from my mistakes. she will see the good times we had and want to have those again. i know it may sound big headed of me but i(and im sure she does too)know that she cant have the same type of fun with him that we had, even if the bad times did outweigh the good, those good times were the best we could have ever had together, she will remember those times and come back.
im not saying she'll come back like crawl back but she will miss me, i miss her too and this time we're apart and not talking to each other(havent said a word to each other since we broke up)she will remember, i guarantee it.
im not sure about you but the way i look at it is to me realistically i must move on, have fun with my friends and grow up abit and that is what im doing, but in fairytale land(in my head)is where we are together. im lucky that i can tell the difference and not get bogged down by the fact that shes not actually with me anymore, i am secure in the knowledge that she will come back but i wont be waiting for her, i will date other women and go out and have a life but there will always be a place for her by my side when she comes back. like my mate put it, "she'll need you way before you need her" and i found that true, i woke up today after two weeks of nothing but thinking of her and i didnt think of her, there just comes a time where you accept it and get on with your life. im not so cynical to say ive forgotten about her, far from it but now i know whats real and whats not and right now i have my education and my degree to focus on.
she only broke up with me about 2 weeks(rounded up)ago and i think ive handled it quite well. been doing alot of talking with my friends, just getting opinions, advice, just help and it has helped a great deal, i cant thank them enough that im not an emotional wreck right now lol. life goes on. another piece of advice my mate told me when i told him about her coming back to me is, "you maybe right and things like that do normally happen but prepare to be wrong", which i am(prepared that is) by not pining over and latching onto memories that are dead and buried right now.
so my final advice to you TC would be talk to your friends, go out and enjoy yourself, show her you dont need her, if anything that'll make her more interested in you. its my exes bday on the 23rd and im gunna send a text to tell her happy bday just so she knows i still care, that im not completely heartless or cut her out of my life harshly, she hasnt done that, her going out with this guy straight after is childish and she will regret it, she has to make her own mistakes, just like i did and learn from them.
addendum: im 19, she is 16, im at uni, her at college, our two groups of friends are quite close together so gossip goes around alot.
Funny you should mention break ups TC cause my ex just broke up with me on the 1st May(you could say new month, new start really lol). Anyways straight afterwards she started dating one of my friends, whats even worse is that he was one of those friends i could really talk to about anything so you can imagine how i must've felt.
nom_lah i was in the same position, i was breaking her heart into a billion pieces, i dont know the specifics of your situation but i was insecure about myself, im not exactly the most handsome guy and i never thought someone as beautiful as her could accept me let alone love me like she did. alot of the things i said and did to her(minus physical abuse, im not like that)hurt her alot and wats worse is that i never stopped to think or stepped back and told myself "this is wrong". dont get me wrong i loved her, she was my first gf but the things that happened said otherwise. ive had trust issues of ppl for years(even my parents)but i neednt have not been able to trust her. I was a scared little boy tbh of completely committing myself to the relationship because i always thought she wanted something from me(money etc, anything physical really), that was a selfish thing to think, me being scared of her breaking my heart ended with me breaking her heart.
when she broke up with me she said she couldnt believe she had put up with me all this time(6 months), that was how much she loved me and accepted me, she was willing to put up with all my crap because she loved me, she had never loved anyone as much as she had loved me, i felt like a complete ass, jerk, whatever names you can call me i thought i was. she could never see herself being with me ever again because she thought i could never change who i was.
suffice to say since then ive actually become alot more open and not so closed around ppl(including my parents)and my true friends who were there for me all the time yet who i somewhat ignored when i was with my ex. your friends really are your life line.
my friends have known the guy who shes going out with now for quite a while, well before they started high school, they say it wont last cause hes an ass basically, a bigger one than me which is saying something and that she will come back to me. several of my friends have been in the same situation and their exes have come back, that gives me hope. but i guess what my advice is, how i got over her was to go out with my friends, talk to them, i have loads more friends who listened to me about what had happened, alot more than that guy ever could(the guy my ex is going out with). when you have an ex like that who loved you like that its hard to let things like that go, what i did to her was unforgivable, i wont be able to forgive myself, even if we did get back together but i have learnt from my mistakes. she will see the good times we had and want to have those again. i know it may sound big headed of me but i(and im sure she does too)know that she cant have the same type of fun with him that we had, even if the bad times did outweigh the good, those good times were the best we could have ever had together, she will remember those times and come back.
im not saying she'll come back like crawl back but she will miss me, i miss her too and this time we're apart and not talking to each other(havent said a word to each other since we broke up)she will remember, i guarantee it.
im not sure about you but the way i look at it is to me realistically i must move on, have fun with my friends and grow up abit and that is what im doing, but in fairytale land(in my head)is where we are together. im lucky that i can tell the difference and not get bogged down by the fact that shes not actually with me anymore, i am secure in the knowledge that she will come back but i wont be waiting for her, i will date other women and go out and have a life but there will always be a place for her by my side when she comes back. like my mate put it, "she'll need you way before you need her" and i found that true, i woke up today after two weeks of nothing but thinking of her and i didnt think of her, there just comes a time where you accept it and get on with your life. im not so cynical to say ive forgotten about her, far from it but now i know whats real and whats not and right now i have my education and my degree to focus on.
she only broke up with me about 2 weeks(rounded up)ago and i think ive handled it quite well. been doing alot of talking with my friends, just getting opinions, advice, just help and it has helped a great deal, i cant thank them enough that im not an emotional wreck right now lol. life goes on. another piece of advice my mate told me when i told him about her coming back to me is, "you maybe right and things like that do normally happen but prepare to be wrong", which i am(prepared that is) by not pining over and latching onto memories that are dead and buried right now.
so my final advice to you TC would be talk to your friends, go out and enjoy yourself, show her you dont need her, if anything that'll make her more interested in you. its my exes bday on the 23rd and im gunna send a text to tell her happy bday just so she knows i still care, that im not completely heartless or cut her out of my life harshly, she hasnt done that, her going out with this guy straight after is childish and she will regret it, she has to make her own mistakes, just like i did and learn from them.
addendum: im 19, she is 16, im at uni, her at college, our two groups of friends are quite close together so gossip goes around alot.
I just do my grieving, longest is a week, and then I just think "alright, it's water under the bridge now, time to cross."
Don't do what I did.
After about 4 years my ex dumped me for a guy she'd only known a week, and after the first shock I knew I still loved her but thought I was cool with it. Then I started feeling lonely, then I started feeling really lonely. Then I started drinking, then I started drinking even more. Then I stopped eating and sleeping, substituting both with alcohol. Then I got really depressed.
Once I realized what I was doing I called some friends, explained what was going on and they dragged me out of it. Then I looked back, and realized it had been a pretty uneven relationship to begin with, with me giving everything for her and her just going along. But we managed to achieve the cliché: We are still friends.
About a year and a half later (summer of 2006) I met another girl, and we've been together ever since.
After about 4 years my ex dumped me for a guy she'd only known a week, and after the first shock I knew I still loved her but thought I was cool with it. Then I started feeling lonely, then I started feeling really lonely. Then I started drinking, then I started drinking even more. Then I stopped eating and sleeping, substituting both with alcohol. Then I got really depressed.
Once I realized what I was doing I called some friends, explained what was going on and they dragged me out of it. Then I looked back, and realized it had been a pretty uneven relationship to begin with, with me giving everything for her and her just going along. But we managed to achieve the cliché: We are still friends.
About a year and a half later (summer of 2006) I met another girl, and we've been together ever since.
Last time I broke up with a girl I just started smoking weed heavily again, now that I look back on it was probably the worst thing to do at the time, at the time it helped me stay happy, but I was left being even more unhappy when I wasn't high. Drugs are the last thing you should use to help your problems, they just make it worse.
It's one of those ha-ha-funny-because-it's-true jokes with me: I date trainwrecks and basket cases. Exclusively. I've slept with some really nice, funny people, but I don't think I've ever actually dated anyone that didn't have an addiction issue or wasn't a something-omaniac at the time. I'm not sure if I'm attracting them, or they attract me, or both. The fact that I ran around for 30-odd years never being completely sane for more than three months at a time (the joy of undiagnosed bipolar!) probably didn't help. I think that, on some level, sane people baffle me a bit. Seriously, I just don't get them. What is is like to know how you will react in any given ordinary situation? Really? Huh, how odd. So, I end up dating crazies because we relate.Saskwach said:
Somewhere on the Internet, someone is telling a story about their crazy ex-girlfriend, and that girlfriend is me.