So let's say I got into the most prestigious university that my country can offer and lets say that I'm studying with the best of the best , but the fact that I'm not number one among them is killing me , bugging me you choose how to name it , worse off becouse I'm strongly entrenched in the middle grade wise makes me feel mediocre . So besides sacrificing my social life as well as free time to get to be number one how could I convince myself to just ignore that ?
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Well, oh great one, I know the addicting nature of success. It's always a great feeling to get rewarded for whatever one has put some time and effort into it - especially if that is well earned. Still, one of the most intricate revelations one has to have in life is that there will always be someone who is better than you in every regard possible; smarter, happier and more accomplished. Always. Because let's face it: the probability of you being the top dog was always insignificant from the start.
However....that was never a reason to despair in the first place. Find accomplishment in the little things. Even if you are just mediocre, haven't you learned so much already? Haven't you faced adversity upon adversity and still pulled through? Didn't you do things that you always wanted to do? Haven't you affected people positively? Don't you now know so many things of beauty that you never knew existed before? You never needed so much success in the first place - there are so many other things abound that can make you happy instead. You just need to find the right balance...
Aside from that, if I read you correctly, you just entered university, right? In this case I'll also wager that you will get better with time as you get more used to the difficulty level and general way that things work at uni. It took me about two semesters to develop a workable system that allowed me to learn better and get much better grades; hence, finding something like that in time will likely mitigate those feelings you have a bit and push your grades up a bit. I'm confident that it will happen sooner or later. Just don't expect to be top dog
However....that was never a reason to despair in the first place. Find accomplishment in the little things. Even if you are just mediocre, haven't you learned so much already? Haven't you faced adversity upon adversity and still pulled through? Didn't you do things that you always wanted to do? Haven't you affected people positively? Don't you now know so many things of beauty that you never knew existed before? You never needed so much success in the first place - there are so many other things abound that can make you happy instead. You just need to find the right balance...
Aside from that, if I read you correctly, you just entered university, right? In this case I'll also wager that you will get better with time as you get more used to the difficulty level and general way that things work at uni. It took me about two semesters to develop a workable system that allowed me to learn better and get much better grades; hence, finding something like that in time will likely mitigate those feelings you have a bit and push your grades up a bit. I'm confident that it will happen sooner or later. Just don't expect to be top dog
I agree with this guy, you just got started, remember your victories,the defeats you overcame, and keep that passion that got you to that amazing school in the first place. University is difficult, but you can't rate everyone on the same scale. If you are comfortable in the rest of your life, i.e. having a social life and still passing then do that. You have to ask yourself if having no social life and just working and working and working is what you want.Chromatic Aberration said:Well, oh great one, I know the addicting nature of success. It's always a great feeling to get rewarded for whatever one has put some time and effort into it - especially if that is well earned. Still, one of the most intricate revelations one has to have in life is that there will always be someone who is better than you in every regard possible; smarter, happier and more accomplished. Always. Because let's face it: the probability of you being the top dog was always insignificant from the start.
However....that was never a reason to despair in the first place. Find accomplishment in the little things. Even if you are just mediocre, haven't you learned so much already? Haven't you faced adversity upon adversity and still pulled through? Didn't you do things that you always wanted to do? Haven't you affected people positively? Don't you now know so many things of beauty that you never knew existed before? You never needed so much success in the first place - there are so many other things abound that can make you happy instead. You just need to find the right balance...
Aside from that, if I read you correctly, you just entered university, right? In this case I'll also wager that you will get better with time as you get more used to the difficulty level and general way that things work at uni. It took me about two semesters to develop a workable system that allowed me to learn better and get much better grades; hence, finding something like that in time will likely mitigate those feelings you have a bit and push your grades up a bit. I'm confident that it will happen sooner or later. Just don't expect to be top dog
Try harder. For either goal.Thegreatone said:
This is pretty routine stuff. You were the tops where you came from and then reached a level where everyone was the tops. You now have to either work to become the top-of-tops or accept that you might not be number one. The first requires more effort. The second is a personal matter and only you can really choose whether you'll be happy there.
Welcome to the ocean, small-ponder.
You might be able to be number one if you tried. But you'll burn out sooner or later. And that's not fun. If you're getting the grades you need to pass/get the program you want/maintain scholarships, you're doing fine. Being the best in the class is useless, because once you get a job, no-one will give a shit. No one gives a shit what you did in college, no one in college gives a shit about high school, no one in high school gives a shit about primary school. The talents you have then and now, and your career history and reputation (Things which are completely unrelated to your grade) will get you where you need to be. In more practical degrees (I'm doing engineering), the degree gets you the job, and the job gets you the next one. That you were accredited somewhere along the line is all that matters.
And don't listen to Amethyst wind. There will be people smarter than you, better educated than you, and you'll probably stand no chance against them. Most people aren't exceptional, and trying to beat those who are better might destroy you. They might already know the course (I've been classmates with people like that), know people who've done it (Also had that), or just be gifted at it (I was this at mathematics). There are going to be those with better attitudes, better backgrounds, and better skills. You're not going to beat the guy who can get a HD without effort without serious effort, and the goal at the end, is worthless. And you'll have multiple classes, and being top in all of them will take some serious effort. Try the best you can, but make sure you gete through.
And don't listen to Amethyst wind. There will be people smarter than you, better educated than you, and you'll probably stand no chance against them. Most people aren't exceptional, and trying to beat those who are better might destroy you. They might already know the course (I've been classmates with people like that), know people who've done it (Also had that), or just be gifted at it (I was this at mathematics). There are going to be those with better attitudes, better backgrounds, and better skills. You're not going to beat the guy who can get a HD without effort without serious effort, and the goal at the end, is worthless. And you'll have multiple classes, and being top in all of them will take some serious effort. Try the best you can, but make sure you gete through.