Bullies

[natster43]

Well I was bullied for pretty much all of middle school, pretty much all verbally. I didn't make many friends during those years. Luckily for me it all ended in high school. I am pretty sure it is why I am terrified of being social and doing stuff with people I don't really know that well just because I think if I will just be rejected and ostracized again. I know I didn't have it extremely bad, but still it did effect me.

 

[PurpleLeafRave]

I feel Shinedown is appropriate.
You've always got people who have got your back against bullies. Bullies are outnumbered.

 

[waj9876]

I was bullied for about a year. Kind of bullied. One school I went to when I was about eight or ten had a group of people who would, while on recess, smack me in the back of the head and then run. I had a very bad temper around that time (I still have a temper, but it's mostly in control.) and so I would ALWAYS chase after and either push them into the pavement, or assault them. Always ended with me in trouble, and the other kids off scott free. The adults other than my guardians didn't care. I was a very stupid kid at the time. I couldn't retaliate with words because I didn't know what to say in response or defense of myself.

I got what I consider justice recently though. I met the guy who first thought to do that to me again, he hadn't changed in the slightest. In fact, he was probably WORSE. First thing he does when he realizes it's me? Make fun of me, insult me, and challenge my mental abilities by calling me retarded, a ******, and all manner of insults.

Now how did I get justice from this situation you may be asking? You see, he had a girlfriend, who thought he was nice, sweet, and a caring guy. I just led him to her, insulting him all the way. Feigning anger to keep him interested. She saw what he was really like, and I then proceeded to lay a verbal beat down on him. Showing that I've grown out of being a "Retarded piece of shit." as he put it.

Now those of you reading this who are genre savvy would assume I then got together with the girl. You would be wrong. As that shit doesn't happen in real life. I don't know what happened after that, as I just left and never saw him again.

 

[TheDrunkNinja]

No one ever admits that they've been a bully or bullied someone at some point. In my opinion, bullying is more of a state of mind rather than a specific class of people. Most cases of bullying I've seen, the "bully" in question would only admit that they were just "horsing around" or "funning with them" not realizing they might have gone too far, not necessarily something malicious. A lot of times, it's just not knowing when to stop.

 

[Total LOLige]

I've never been bullied although I'm nerdy and was obedient in school, my high school was small so bullying was rare. People that got bullied were usually proper dick heads so they kind of deserved it. If someone that was a 'misfit' got bullied someone would step in and stop it.

 

[Broady Brio]

Pretty much my entire life, I've been bullied up til about 3 years ago. I never got physically hit, just laughed at. Didn't help with very much with anything. When I went to college it was a lot better.

I have no idea how old you are, if you are a guy who may be beginning college in the next few years, then I can assure you, it'll be significantly better than your situation right now.

 

[Korolev]

Never been bullied, never bullied anyone. I was the Switzerland of my school - nobody hated me, nobody really liked me. They were cordial enough to me, they didn't avoid me, but no one ever opened up to me and I never opened up to them. People's general opinion of me was "Eh, he's an alright guy". I never got involved with personal disputes, I never discriminated against anyone - I was absolutely, utterly bland. I was the guy everyone pretty much ignored because I stood well out of anyone's way. I behaved normally and I was treated as such. This was mostly because I was a very average person - I look average, I'm of average height and build and I'm about as memorable and personable as wall-paper.

I had a good time at high-school. Nobody was my friend but everyone treated me with courtesy and polite indifference. It was great. I never had to worry about anyone or care about anything other than my studies, and as a result I did very well in school. I treated it as a job and I treated my fellow students as co-workers at best and sort of "just there" at worst.

 

[Don Savik]

Well, been bullied all my life for being a skinny white kid with glasses who likes fiction.

Now look at me! I'm 19, have 2 friends, no job, never had a real conversation with a girl, no idea what I'm going to go to school for because I screw up everything I do, no social skills, afraid to talk to people, afraid to drive a car, and nobody to help me with any of my problems.



Life is good, bro.

 

[lion el jhonson]

Before I start, I was not accurate in saying in saying I was not physically bullied. There was this one time in middle school when this fat irish kid ( who wasn't true irish, just liked to think he was ) just loved to put me down. And it was hard to get away from him because we both hung around the same guy. One day when our mutual reason to act civil around each other wasn't at school he started saying how pathetic I was when I said something that was admittedly poorly worded. we started arguing back and forth but then he said something that just shut me down, cant remember because memory is a ***** like that, but as I was sitting down with people and I was just saying leave me alone he started hitting me over the head with hiss big ass key chain and then I started crying and everyone around me started laughing their asses off. Wasn't until I broke down and started crying again in math class that the teacher pulled me out to ask what was wrong till the fat shit got caught. to this day, I regret fully not going ape shit and stomping that fuckers teeth in.

Now to my point. I am responding to what Mr.esperandote said.
Zangeif kid was kinda one of the reasons I started this thread up because I was on youtube and I saw an interview with the kids from the video because the bully that the big kid smashed on the ground tried to justify himself with some bullshit reason. Now look, if you bullied someone because of some deep personal issue with something in your life or because of some other problem in your life my heart goes out to you but dont try to justify putting down another person for no good reason. you fucked up. you apologize and move on and dont do it again. dont try to make people feel sorry for you because, BIG SHOCK, someone got tired of your shit and decked your ass.

If I wasn't clear on something or you were confused by something or you thought something I said stupid then please ask me to clarify so I can fix what I said or explain it more clearly.

 

[lion el jhonson]

Also, waj9876, dude, I just got to say that is some grade A awesome. That's right, embarrass the fucker and then take his girl. Rare for something like that to happen outside of movies. But a word of warning, I recommend you keep an eye on your self and your girl because some guys really dont know how to handle shit and can just go straight off the deep end. Remember, its not assault if its self defense. But seriously dude you kick ass.

 

[Nikolaz72]

Why are these so many threads on Escapist about bullies?

Because bullying is suddenly some super huge problem that definitely hasn't been around since the dawn of time. And apparently, just giving someone a dirty look makes you a bully.

It's a good thing bullies didn't exist when I was growing up. You know, before the internet was this big thing that caused every tiny problem to be blown way out of proportion. I don't know how we would have survived.

Its a very hot button topic because someone made a post a while back about how bullies were people and many people flipped out. And yes, its still a issue. Does anyone remember the kid who stabbed a kid who was going to physically assault him 11 times. Or the school district that had something like 5 kids commit suicide due to heavy bullying to LGBT members. Then we had a proud member of the 'It Gets Better' commit suicide earlier this year. My point is that there are tons of examples of it being a bad thing, and shouldn't be dropped because its been around for so long.

We shouldn't feel bad about war because its been around forever. We shouldn't be helping those with diseases since they have been around for so long. If a problem has been consistent throughout history it is still a problem.

Because throwing hate at them from behind a computer screen is going to do something about them?

Well at least they aren't systematically hunting down their child hood torturers and killing them. So isn't this a better alternative?

To answer OP. I was bullied for about 4 years from the age of 8 to 12 or so. Mainly verbal but they did try to hit me several times, I very much flinch whenever it happened, they never wanted to bruise me so I would have no proof of what they were doing. Never bothered anyone with what was happening because I mainly hated to bother my parents with any problems of mine, they were already busy with work.

I had a asshole brother that would yell at me for messing something up even in the slightest. So I spent about 8 hours a day in school, 8 hours asleep, and then 5 hours either being yelled at by my brother or doing school work.

I eventually cracked and learned how to tie a hangmans noose, which was rather interesting. Failed to hang myself several times and walked myself out of deep depression which probably hurt myself more then anything else.

You quoted the wrong person dude, I suggest you go change it. Dont think it was on purpose but when you shorten someones quote make sure to put it in the right box.

 

[Aprilgold]

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You quoted the wrong person dude, I suggest you go change it. Dont think it was on purpose but when you shorten someones quote make sure to put it in the right box.[/quote]

Well I fucked that up like it was a sunday in the fun. Sorry about that mr / mrs Nikolaz72. While I'm side tracked nice avatar.

*Let's face it. The current people that have the power to help prevent things from happening don't care, because they went through it without help, and expect todays youth to do the same. It's just like the SOPA thing. The ones in charge aren't entirely educated on the problem, and wouldn't know how to fix it.

I only answered on this site because thats the only one I could really say without there being a few shady sayings in the mix, by this I mean I didn't want to misinform anyone.

I do guess that it picked up heavily in the past few years was a certain type of school shooting, large groups of kids basically dying out because of bullying being the most likely cause and much more. I think kids are starting to tie the noose more because of how backward some of the policies in schools are, when your literally crying for it to stop, it doesn't, and even if its noticeable to everyone, sorta no-safe zone despite the fact that schools supposed to be highly safe environment for learning.

I can't exactly nail down a point but the two closest for media outcry was probably the Virgina Tech Shooting, and the school that lost eight or so kids due to bullying.

 

[Doclector]

I was bullied for years. I grew to see them as one of the worst kind of people on the planet, up there with child molestors and people who talk at the theatre.

I believe them to have no emotions aside from hate and joy at the pain of others, and if they do have other emotions, well, I don't give a s*** about them. Yeah, yeah, bad home life, that sort of thing, whatever. It's no excuse for what they do.

One day I snapped. They all came to me at once and the red mist descended. I beat four of them up, and almost throttled the fifth. They didn't mess with me again. I'd advise anyone being bullied to stand up to them. They don't deserve mercy, they don't even deserve human rights.

 

[Linakrbcs]

I was bullied pretty badly for a few years while I was at school, until I switched to a different school for the last two years. My parents were basically embarrassed about it, because they wanted a perfect child, and clearly one who got picked on in school and had no friends wasn't good enough. I came home one day when I was around 9 having just been beaten up in the playground and my mom's only response was that it was my fault for not being nice to the other kids.
All this just made me hide from the world, I read a lot of books, quite a few of them not entirely age-appropriate, so I ended up being reasonably well-read, but also a complete loner with no social skills whatsoever. Being bullied shaped me as a person, for better or for worse. I still feel like an outcast a lot of the time, and I can't handle big crowds very well. But at the same time, it made me resilient. I survived, studied a subject I love, and found a job that I love. And now, many years later, the emotional scars have become the marks of a battle that was, if not won, then at least also not entirely lost.

As for the being a bully part...I suppose it could be seen that way. I was very vulnerable for a long time, so I started defending myself by being very snarky, quite often to people who hadn't deserved it.