Camping It Up For Kicks

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Hey Gang,

One thing that's been annoying the hell out of me lately is campness being synonymous with being gay. Now by this I mean guys who are gay who feel that because of that they have to be extremely camp and dress like a disco ball. One of my best mates who's gay REALLY hates this. You would never guess he was by the way he acts. He's a Jack Daniel's drinking, trucker hat wearing, hard rock loving, pub fight starting, man's man. Out of the pair of us its actually me who gets mistaken for playing for the other team since I'm well spoken, neatly dressed and slightly fey in the way I move. However, all the time we see gay guys who do the typical "Fabulous!" act, especially round groups of women and it drives us mad.

Now each to their own and I have known gay guys who were just like that, (I don't have a problem with that in the slightest!) but I know that many of them are really just putting it on for appearances sake. One great example would be when I saw a guy from my old University course on the phone in a pub bathroom, smoking a cigarette with a pint, talking to his mate back home being as butch as you can imagine saying "I ruined that fucker's back door like you wouldn't believe mate" but around the students on the course (and the very next week) he would be very fluttery, call smoking "icky", only drinking wine spritzers and calling everyone darling. When he noticed me he looked embarrassed as hell.

So where do you all stand on this? I just think its ridiculous. There are camp blokes and rugged blokes but why does the fact of where a guy wants to stick his dingaling make people put on an entire persona? It just seems tiresome.

 

[Jonluw]

I dunno why people have to perpetuate that stereotype, and I really wish they'd stop, seeing how I'm a camp-ish person myself and it's really awkward for me when gay guys try to test the waters with me.

I guess the case is that people prefer the world to work in the way they think it works, so it ends up ironically being easier for a gay person to be accepted by the rest of society if they act out the wacky camp stereotype.

 

[Fappy]

I hate this act too. I think it stems from, "well if they don't like me I will ensure they hate me!" turning into, "everyone pay attention to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee~~!"

I have no problem with men who prefer sausages over tacos, but I get pissed off when they flaunt it for attention as if it makes them special. No one gives a fuck dude, just be yourself for the love of the gods! You're not impressing anyone with your Frankenfurter impression.

 

[Agent Larkin]

I am person who can at times be quite camp.

Being well spoken, decently dressed and in my early 20's without ever having had a girlfriend means I get accused of being Gay a fair bit. Which I am not.

 

[Skipper zammo]

Or perhaps they just enjoy acting that way and really don't give a shit about whether or not it bothers you. Really don't see why it has to be anything more then that.

 

[Kae]

Wish I could do camp, I have the expressiveness of a potato, which means I get to do tired, bitter and bored guy 24/7 even when I don't want to do that it's the only thing I can do properly, well I can do cynical and sarcastic sometimes, but I can't do jolly or optimist, which is odd because I actually am quite optimistic but everybody always think I'm being sarcastic when I'm being optimistic, people must really think I'm tired and have given up on life, it's just that I barely sleep and can't help but look tired.

 

[Dusty Donuts]

I hate this act too. I think it stems from, "well if they don't like me I will ensure they hate me!" turning into, "everyone pay attention to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee~~!"

I have no problem with men who prefer sausages over tacos, but I get pissed off when they flaunt it for attention as if it makes them special. No one gives a fuck dude.

Agreed. Except for the people who are AGAINST gays or the people who are so desperate to be PROACTIVE FOR THEIR SOCIETY (*angelic fanfare*) that they actively go out and encourage gay people. Those people give a fuck.
(Side note; by saying I don't like the people who try to encourage it, I'm NOT hatin on gay peoples. See that links below for the people that I hate)

I actually hate the "gay best friend" stereotype more. That one really pisses me off, particularly when girls actively acknowledge it.
Never laugh at gay people. They've got it from both sides, the people who support them and the people who hate them.
http://www.google.com.au/search?q=how+can+I+make+my+son+gay%3F&sugexp=chrome,mod=10&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8
http://www.salon.com/2010/07/09/gay_best_friend/

Spoiler: In relation to that salon link

WHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?!!?!?!?!!?!?

Oh yeah, people being all camp. I know someone at school who I swear just does it because "that's what gay people do." He didn't say it, but it is REALLY implied. That episode of the I.T. crowd where they go to see the musical called "Gay!" is where he seems to get all his character traits.

 

[Rellik San]

I have no issues with Gay folks...

BUT SCREAMING QUEENS NEED TO DIE!

Seriously, mega camp, over dramatic, over acting, it's the very things that annoy me, yes we get it you like cock, it's no need to act like one though. Campness in of itself isn't a bad thing, my best friend is incredibly camp, although straight as an arrow (Well... John Barrowman not withstanding), but when people act that way to extremes because it's what is expected of them it drives me nuts.

You can be gay without being camp, you can be camp without being gay, no needs to be a screaming queen, the world will be better for it.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

The only gay guys I know (actually, one of them recently said he was bi or something) definitely don?t put it on. One of them has been like that since Year 7; he just has an effeminate voice. But some of my friends insist that he?s putting it on. Maybe it?s just because feminine characteristics in men tend to be more noticeable, so they just seem pronounced.

So I think some people do put it on (e.g. Louie Spence, or Craig Revel Horwood?s constant usage of ?darling?), but some don?t and are just naturally like that. You can tell.

 

[lovest harding]

There's a lot of assumptions being made. Please make sure you recognize an assumption as an assumption. You can't read people's minds therefore you don't know anything about their motivations. (this is meant to everyone in the thread, not just the OP)
Make assumptions if you want, but learn to know when it's an assumption and not fact.

Anyway. Everyone acts differently around different people. You wouldn't talk to your mom about how you banged some hottie and you wouldn't tell offensive jokes to your boss (unless you were friends as well). Who's to say what personality is anyone's true personality? Especially with that guy. Maybe he is really camp but feels like he has to hide it around most people? Maybe neither of those situations mentioned define what he feels is his true personality. People can go pretty far away from themselves when in a group.

Also:

Or perhaps they just enjoy acting that way and really don't give a shit about whether or not it bothers you. Really don't see why it has to be anything more then that.

 

[jamesworkshop]

Hey Gang,

One thing that's been annoying the hell out of me lately is heterosexuality being synonymous with public drunkenness and prison sentences for assault and battery charges.