Can a 'Life philosophy' be wrong?

[Cucumber]

Im in a baad mood right now, and I feel like everyone is listening to my pleads with the wrong ears. So I am going to ask a diffrent set of ears:

People suggest that you should make the most out of life, and people suggest that I am NOT making the most out of my life. But is it not me that defines how I should live MY life? People tell me that since I'm not outside and 'enjoying' life the way they picture enjoyment. They believe that (for example) sitting in front of a computer is 'wasting' life.

THEY does not equal ME, therefore;
THEIR way of life does not equal MY way of life.

And thus, me seperating from the majority makes me surpressed. Just because I look at life in another way as the ohter people do, does that make my way of life infirior? I feel that way right now.

I believe that people should live their lives the way they want. Not that anyone else should decide your actions and interests. A individual stays an individual by keeping himself individual. But people talk to me like if I was a monster. Unable to appreciate the 'goods' in life.

People tell me that I am wasting my life in front of my monitor. That I should go outside more and start to socialize with ohters and see the sights of Mother Nature. So what they are saying is that my intrests are infirior to theirs?
But then I tried what they said. I gave that stuff a chance, and I did not find it attractive. Furthermore, I cannot find a single person that agrees with me. Am i going crazy?

People hates and fear diffrences. And now I am diffrent, and thus, I am hated. I am starting to worry that people cannot understand anything else than the common way of life. I am slowly starting to lose faith in humanity. And thus, I am starting to cage myself in, not speaking to anyone else.

I now feel that my situtation and mentality is taking a turn for the worse. Thats why I need to clarify some stuff. This was my rant on humanity, and it leaves me with a lot of questions. Some of my many questions are:

Is my interpetation of living wrong? If yes, how is it wrong?
Is my way of living wrong? Is it wrong of me to sit in front of a computer more than society finds appropiate? If I am wrong, then please explain me why! I've always learned that the individual decides how he wants to live, and not be controlled by ohters.
Is it okay that ohter people shuns a diffrent way of life? Is this a act of ignorance or not?

 

[Seydaman]

your situation sounds very similar to mine, people are telling me im wasting my life playing games, and tell me to go outside and socialize and play sports, i tryed every sport didn't like them. so i went back to games something i liked, and now everyone tells me im wasting my life,
questions
1)no its not wrong
2)no
3)no its not okay its bad and is destroying society

 

[Cucumber]

your situation sounds very similar to mine, people are telling me im wasting my life playing games, and tell me to go outside and socialize and play sports, i tryed every sport didn't like them. so i went back to games something i liked, and now everyone tells me im wasting my life,
questions
1)no its not wrong
2)no
3)no its not okay its bad and is destroying society

Suddenly, I do not feel alone anymore.

The only thing remaining is to slap the ohter 6 billion people to the right mindset.

But then again, for them to accept our mindset, we must accept theirs, which is what we aren't doing.

This sure turned out to be quite the paradox...

 

[nekolux]

As most of your post is irrelevant to my opinion, i shall answer your title.

Short answer : No. Never. No. NOOOOOOOOOO.

Long answer :
No, because when people start judging base on an arbitrary standard set by our cultural and society then it's just plain ignorance and stupidity. Anyone should be able to live their life base on their own principles, their own mind set. And no one should have to answer to anyone, as long as their life does not negatively affect other people's life. My favorite quote from clint eastwood : " Everyone leaves everyone else alone " ( when talking about america )

Im getting carpel tunnel from sniping so that's all i will say but if you wanna get some serious wall-of-text i'll post some more later.
But it's that simple really. As long as you're not imposing on anyone, as long as you're not affecting anyone negatively. You should be allowed to do whatever you want.

 

[Seydaman]

your situation sounds very similar to mine, people are telling me im wasting my life playing games, and tell me to go outside and socialize and play sports, i tryed every sport didn't like them. so i went back to games something i liked, and now everyone tells me im wasting my life,
questions
1)no its not wrong
2)no
3)no its not okay its bad and is destroying society

Suddenly, I do not feel alone anymore.

The only thing remaining is to slap the ohter 6 billion people to the right mindset.

But then again, for them to accept our mindset, we must accept theirs, which is what we aren't doing.

This sure turned out to be quite the paradox...

irony, but i get their mindset, i get that people can like sports and the sun and sleep. but i don't (okay maybe sleep) like that stuff

 

[chaosorchid]

Cucumber, I feel your pain my friend and I understand and I agree with you.

 

[Cucumber]

...as long as you're not affecting anyone negatively. You should be allowed to do whatever you want.

This hangs a question. Do we affect people negativly be living this way? Do we affect ourselves negativly?

I dont think we are, what do you think?

 

[imperialwar]

First some background:

I have had a fairly similar conversation to my mother about her quality of life.
She is manic depressive, bipolar. All she ever talks about is her illness, or outside of that probelms she is having in life. Wether it be her recent trips to the doctor or decisions she made to fix her life, which she never takes actions on as it normally breaks her cycle of consistency and causes her to have a manic episode.
I challenged her with psycholigical question: is this going to be your singular focus in life ? Is this the only thing going on in your life you can talk about ? are you even capable of holding a normal conversation without needing to go into your illness ?
The answer was of course that she felt she could talk about other things. I have had a dozen or so conversations with her since, all of which have devolved into her illness...


So i ask you same thing. Is thing you are doing going to be your singular focus in life ?
Obviously on some sort of level you fell that it is wrong, otherwise you wouldn't have put time into writing here. While i am not saying what you are doing is wrong in anyway it is apparent that your life bugs you in some way.
Now wether this uneasiness comes from within you is derived from outside stimuli i can't be certain. It is a decision you have to make for yourself. Life is all about decisions.
Do you feel if you applied change to your life you would just fall back into the way of life you have now ? Would you be happy if this occured ? Do you really care enough of what people think to even bother listening to anyone but your own instincts ?

You know what works for you in life, at least you should(depending on age). Are you in debt, is your health deteriating, are you hurting yourself / others doing what you are doing ? if no, then why change ?

 

[CoverYourHead]

My life philosophy is do what you love, if you don't love your life as much as you believe possible, then something should change, you only get the one after all (unless you believe something different).

So, if video games and spending time on your computer make you happy, go ahead, have fun. If not, stop, go do something else. Don't let anyone else tell you you're living your life wrong, unless of course you're damaging someone else's life.

Also, I feel the pain of your ways, I drown it out with the cries of dead and dying zombies, aliens, criminals, etc. Good stuff.

 

[Cucumber]

... it is apparent that your life bugs you in some way.
Now wether this uneasiness comes from within you is derived from outside stimuli i can't be certain...

True. It does hurt, but I dont know why im in pain. Sometimes, I feel that I do not deserve to be in pain, that I should be happy that my life isn't worse than it is. But it hurts anyways.

Many thoughts course through my mind recently, but it all kinda boils down to this:
"I just feel like locking myself in a empty room, all alone."
So, I kinda guess that i am not a people person?

 

[Sgt. Pepper]

In the short, if ALL you do is play video games, then yes, your life is bad.

However, if all you do is one thing, your life is almost always lacking. This is true, for example, if all you do is go on hikes, or all you do is go to parties, etc. Only doing one thing is somewhat unhealthy, if not foolish. You say you've tried it all, but I can guarantee you haven't. Have you gone sky diving? Played in a band? Read all the books in a series in one sitting? Life is the ultimate sandbox game, don't spend it grinding one mob.

 

[imperialwar]

I would hesitate to say you aren't a people person. If were in a room filled with people like yourself you would probably find you all would end up socialising and doing this so called normal stuff. It is a situation of surrounding yourself with the right people. How ever this is coming from a people person, so take it for what it is. Locking yourself off from the world is not the answer in my book. I did that for 21 years, and when i finally let the world in I had a Psychotic episode which wasnt much fun.

Again some background, just so you know who is offering some advice, so you can merit it in your own way. I am avery open guy about my life these days.

Like i mentioned in my last reply my mum is Bipolar and has been since i was 12 ( 19 years now ). I never really had much of a family and devoloped an emotional detatchment to the world around me, and from about age 15 i would classify myself as clinically Depressed ( never diagnosed at that point ). So when i met my wife and someone finally cared enough about me for me to care back, to put it mildly, my brain broke Emotions i had never known flooded my poor brain with chemicals it couldn't handle all at once.

So i would hesitate to say you aren't a people person, if you weren't this input about your life wouldn't effect you.

Again remember in no way am I a shrink. I am just offering a bit of comparitive material from my experiences.

I would mention that what this person said to you bothers you somewhat to your GP, if you have a good repore with him / her. If he / she feels they arent qualified to talk to you about it they may refer you to a shrink. Don't be ofended if they do this. It helps to talk to someone, and don't worry they arent going to arbitarily lock you up and throw away the key.

 

[Cucumber]

In the short, if ALL you do is play video games, then yes, your life is bad.

However, if all you do is one thing, your life is almost always lacking. This is true, for example, if all you do is go on hikes, or all you do is go to parties, etc. Only doing one thing is somewhat unhealthy, if not foolish. You say you've tried it all, but I can guarantee you haven't. Have you gone sky diving? Played in a band? Read all the books in a series in one sitting? Life is the ultimate sandbox game, don't spend it grinding one mob.

I take my hat off for that ending analogy. Cracked me up. But even though I agree or not, 'Life is the ultimate sandbox game, don't spend it grinding one mob.' is your way of looking at life. Do I have to follow that? But dont worry, I'm not taking it as the repeated lecture. Im trying to take it as advice.

I dont think that I said that I tried everything. I think I am saying that I've tried everything that I have been offered?

I've also been looking for alternatives many places. Sometimes, I've latched onto some things that I gradually slip from again.
I guess that I dont know where to look next?
(And i actually did the 'Read all the books in a series in one sitting?')

Anyone knows where i should keep looking for alternatives, if they exist?

 

[joystickjunki3]

I gotta say, there wasn't anything of note that I disagreed w/ in that post. Live your life as you see fit unless it interferes w/ others' lives.

 

[Sgt. Pepper]

In the short, if ALL you do is play video games, then yes, your life is bad.

However, if all you do is one thing, your life is almost always lacking. This is true, for example, if all you do is go on hikes, or all you do is go to parties, etc. Only doing one thing is somewhat unhealthy, if not foolish. You say you've tried it all, but I can guarantee you haven't. Have you gone sky diving? Played in a band? Read all the books in a series in one sitting? Life is the ultimate sandbox game, don't spend it grinding one mob.

I take my hat off for that ending analogy. Cracked me up. But even though I agree or not, 'Life is the ultimate sandbox game, don't spend it grinding one mob.' is your way of looking at life. Do I have to follow that? But dont worry, I'm not taking it as the repeated lecture. Im trying to take it as advice.

I dont think that I said that I tried everything. I think I am saying that I've tried everything that I have been offered?

I've also been looking for alternatives many places. Sometimes, I've latched onto some things that I gradually slip from again.
I guess that I dont know where to look next?
(And i actually did the 'Read all the books in a series in one sitting?')

Anyone knows where i should keep looking for alternatives, if they exist?

I really couldn't tell you where to look if I'm not you, since I don't know your likes, dislikes, what you've tried, etc. However, I can tell you that trying everything offered to you will only get you so far. For example, in a restaurant, you have to order your meal. If you're waiting for the waiter to swing by with your favorite steak/hamburger/tofu without you asking for it, you'll be awful hungry. (Note: Sorry about the analogies, it's how I best express my ideals). Sometimes, to sound about as cliched as you can get, you have to go out there and take life by the horns, and try something you may not want to. If you stalwartly believe you're getting all you can out of life, more power to you. Somehow, however, I find it hard to believe that anyone is getting everything life has to offer.

Basically, to sum up that big old block o' text, life is short. Try things.

 

[smithy1234]

You find enjoyment in going on the computer and doing things on it. That's perfectly healthy and fine, sometimes I'll just use the computer for a whole day and I'm just fine. I use the computer in my spare time and at night, that's fine too. If you're using the computer for weeks and weeks straight then no, that's not fine. You can't keep doing the same thing, if you do then you'll regret it later on when you are unable to do exciting things because of maybe a job or family. You don't need to do the stereotypical things that are attached to the attitude "enjoying life" such as taking a walk or looking at trees or whatever the hell nature purists do.

Find something you're interested in, if you like writing try writing a short story or a novel. If you enjoy television, make a movie for fun. Just do something random and exciting like sky diving, rock climbing, base jumping, going to a party or two. Anything. I can guarantee you, if you start to do something new and exciting you'll feel much better. You don't have to give up computer either, you just split up your time.

Also if you do something other than staying on the computer all day, you won't feel guilty about being on the computer later because you can tell yourself "Hey, I did something. I get to relax now."

 

[Easykill]

This reminded me of something, but I doubt it's the same.

There are people out there, people who I want nothing to do with, people that always make me grateful that I wasn't born into their family. I don't hate them, not at all. They just drain my energy. We are not compatible, being around them removes all colour from the world due to some quality I don't even really understand. I've been very lucky, there's no one in my immediate social area that fits the bill. But, from the look of it they're almost 30% of the world. If I had ever lived in an area where the only people available for socialization were they, I see myself acting exactly how you are. I don't know if it's relevant, but if it is, and you've been stuck with people you just can't sync with your entire life, I feel so sorry for you.

For the actual question; it's something you figure out for yourself, everything is relative. Nothing is right or wrong universally, but you shouldn't just assume you'll understand everything about yourself right off the bat, right? They shouldn't judge you, but if they believe you're something other than what you've been telling yourself you are, it at least rationalizes it, right? It might be because they don't understand you, but rather than trying to assimilate you, there trying to help you find yourself.