I say whatevs. If it's makes you happy and the other person is cool with it then go for it. Just don't be stupid about it (don't use protection etc.)
Casual sex
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It's not that I'm not open to casual sex it's just that the opportunity has never presented itself to me. Which is kind of sad really. But then again maybe it's for the best, after I've heard those interactions can get quite awkward and there's the potential to spread disease.
But yeah, if people enjoy it I see no reason they should not be able to enjoy themselves. After all you only live once.
But yeah, if people enjoy it I see no reason they should not be able to enjoy themselves. After all you only live once.
Prudishness is a sign of a weak mind. I say bad sex, coupled with redundant conservative "moral" values, is ultimately responsible for a massive amount of the evil in the world. So clearly I am pro casual sex. Moreover, I am anti-marriage. It's an obsolete sacrament now, we should move on, rather than attempt to hold the people you apparently love hostage via a legal document. If you choose to be monogamous, that's your choice, you don't need a state sanctioned contract to do so. To me, that's the least romantic thing in the world.
I've only ever been friends with benefits with one guy and he was an ex and we weren't really friends. So, yes and no.
That's the only time I've had sex with someone outside of a relationship but I have no bad opinion of casual sex(provided it's safe). Most of my friends are at it (sometimes with each other) and as long as both parties are single, why the fuck not? I prefer relationships but that's a personal preference as opposed to an opinion.
That's the only time I've had sex with someone outside of a relationship but I have no bad opinion of casual sex(provided it's safe). Most of my friends are at it (sometimes with each other) and as long as both parties are single, why the fuck not? I prefer relationships but that's a personal preference as opposed to an opinion.
I'm Catholic, so, no, I'm not a big fan. I probably wouldn't date someone who approaches sex so casually since it'd conflict with my personality and values.
Been there and done that, so to speak.RaisonD said:
One of my friends and I had several things in common and when he broke up with her boyfriend we kind of decided we'd sleep together.
Worked well for both of us, we dated shortly after that.
I have no feelings one way or the other on the subject though, if people think that it's right for them then by all means.
So long as both parties are aware of the situation...it's all good in my opinion. My experiences have been good. I will say that I have to have some kind of emotional investment in the relationship, I've never been one for one night stands, it's always been a bit awkward, so ya friends are good, acquaintances sure, but total strangers have never worked for me.
That's the important part, causing no dramaRaisonD said:
My feelings are mixed, but not for moral reasons. Making love in a committed relationship is by far the best. Awesome experiences, wonderful moments, life changing events. Sex is... well, just sex. From someone with a stupidly high sex drive I get the itch that needs to be scratched and friends with benefits is really good for that, however it comes with all kinds of complications and muddy terrain that can ruin friendships and stop you actually meeting someone for those committed relationships.
In my experience, friends with benefits doesn't last long before one of you starts to get emotionally involved. Haven't come across an exception to that. Also, if the sex is good and the commitment and hassle is non-existent then why look for a relationship which requires work and effort? Well for all the reasons I started off this comment with, but when good sex with no strings is in front of you it's easy to forget that.
There's also the STD thing and the social stigma. I'm male and the number of partners I've had has seen me accused of being a male whore at times (and I don't think it's THAT many partners personally) or being bad at relationships because I'm not married. I was even asked "So what's wrong with you?" by a woman I went on a date with who was the same age as me and single herself! The world can be a judgemental place... And the STDs. It's not just HIV and the nasties you need to worry about but SO many diseases can be transmitted via sex, even when using a condom, and your chances of catching something increase the more partners you have. STDs, the gift that keeps on giving.
There's also the benefit of sex in a long term relationship from getting to know your partner's body (assuming you want to know) and the improvement in sex that comes from that intimacy and learning. You can still have that with friends with benefits but I find it rarer compared to sex in a relationship.
So yeah, undecided. Has been good at times and bad at times.
In my experience, friends with benefits doesn't last long before one of you starts to get emotionally involved. Haven't come across an exception to that. Also, if the sex is good and the commitment and hassle is non-existent then why look for a relationship which requires work and effort? Well for all the reasons I started off this comment with, but when good sex with no strings is in front of you it's easy to forget that.
There's also the STD thing and the social stigma. I'm male and the number of partners I've had has seen me accused of being a male whore at times (and I don't think it's THAT many partners personally) or being bad at relationships because I'm not married. I was even asked "So what's wrong with you?" by a woman I went on a date with who was the same age as me and single herself! The world can be a judgemental place... And the STDs. It's not just HIV and the nasties you need to worry about but SO many diseases can be transmitted via sex, even when using a condom, and your chances of catching something increase the more partners you have. STDs, the gift that keeps on giving.
There's also the benefit of sex in a long term relationship from getting to know your partner's body (assuming you want to know) and the improvement in sex that comes from that intimacy and learning. You can still have that with friends with benefits but I find it rarer compared to sex in a relationship.
So yeah, undecided. Has been good at times and bad at times.
I know a Swiss girl called Lucy, who's a fan of sex buddy relationships, and was once in a make out session with two other girls. Mmhmm.tobi the good boy said:
OT: The high and mighty "I don't even want to be associated with people like that. They're pathetic and weak!" types can fuck right off. Get over yourselves, because guess what? Sexual habits don't make the person, and you probably know that. But you're most likely some sexually deprived sod dealing with it badly. I can respect virgins, you should respect people who know what they like. Not you, guy I quoted. I was referencing *those* people.
I'm open-minded. The only thing though is that my family is strongly Catholic and my brother's a priest, so we gotta make sure a child doesn't bounce out or they'll try to brow-beat me into a non-casual relationship.
Why do you refer to yourself as a 'Female'? It's called 'Woman', or 'Girl' when applied to humans. You are human I take it? *nyan*RaisonD said:
I don't see a problem with casual sex. Sex has two purposes; Reproduction and pleasure. There is absolutely no reason that sex for pleasure should be frowned upon.
Also, out of curiosity; when you ask "Would you consider going steady with someone like that", do you mean with someone who sleep around? As in with people other than myself? If so; Yes, but only if this is a mutual arrangement and I can trust the other partner to use proper protection... and won't say who they slept with. That should be a written rule in these kinds of relationships.
It makes sense, as long as both people involved now it is completely casual. Sex is fun, and if both people are just there for the enjoyment. The only issue is women (and some men) are temperamental in terms of emotions, so it can get difficult fast. Also casual sex+ a separate relationship can never work.
On the topic of sleeping around. I think it again makes sense as long as your careful. Prevention of STDs and pregnancy. Also as long as you don't cock block your friends but that's just a rule of life.
On the topic of sleeping around. I think it again makes sense as long as your careful. Prevention of STDs and pregnancy. Also as long as you don't cock block your friends but that's just a rule of life.
Pretty much what these guys are saying.ssgt splatter said:
In addition, I think it's a moral weakness to think that casual sex is a moral weakness. Judging an incredibly rational relationship someone decides to have based on an irrational fear that you have is just a sign of mental degradation.
It's called being ninja'd. Welcome to the forumssgt splatter said:
.OT: I'm kind of against causal sex. Don't get me wrong, I have no problem with anyone who does otherwise, I just think you should save something like that for marriage.