Changing your life.

[irrelevantnugget]

Best friend turning on me when I was 10, abusing everything he knew about me to make my life as sore as possible.
Am 21 now, still having trust issues. At least I'm not clinically depressed anymore (or at least, I think. Doesn't matter anymore). Sorting stuff out, can't complain about the progress I'm making.

 

[KariyaJin]

When my Dad died, gave me a new outlook on life.

 

[jigilojoe]

Seeing death at the age of 11, then I got all of that depression through my early life and can always see the brighter side now I'm 15, though I feel I'm more mature than most of my friends.

 

[DemonicVixen]

Having someone to love me.

Years and years i have felt like giving up on life. Several times i was tempting on suicide... but one day i found one thing which keeps me alive and stops me getting so wound up when things go wrong at home. I only hope they stay with me and encourage me through the bad times.

The death of my best friend. I don't think I was really ever quite the same afterwards.

OMG, i can never understand that kind of feeling, but i have lost my uncle through cancer and a reasonably close friend through sudden death. It has made me realise life is worth living while you have the chance, grasp the oppertunities and try and follow your dreams. I know one day if i try hard enough i can open my own Cafe somewhere, a dream i have had for years. I know that my mother is slowly dying through liver damage and i know one day she will not be here for me. I have only dreamt of this and through that dream i know i will be heartbroken and torn even with the things she has done to me in my life.
Loss is a feeling i dread to have to feel but know one day i have to and i will not like it one bit.

 

[-Orgasmatron-]

My best mate moving to Columbia, then to the USA. Although credit to him for moving here in the first so we could actually end up being best friends. See, he was originally from Columbiam then he moved here for afew years, that's when I met him, then he moved back to Columbia and now resides in the USA, but will most likely be moving back to Columbia around August.

There is a hope he could come back to the UK to live in August, but chances are slim.

 

[chronobreak]

Having kids certainly changed my life the most. I used to go out, have fun, do whatever I wanted... now I'm just home all the time while my friends are out partying and actually enjoying the rest of their time on this rock.

I'm not saying it doesn't have its enjoyable moments, but hey, we all have a very limited amount of time to be alive, and it's hard having to know that I'm never really going to be able to live for myself ever again.

 

[Taerdin]

They do. Thats already common knowledge.

I wish! Maybe its common knowledge with your little bubble, but not around me. People around me say the most misguided ignorant sounding statements that it physically pains me.

 

[Loki127]

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[Samuel Cook]

I would have to say the 4 months I attended my first college was a real eye-opener. I learned that being different is a good thing, and that trying to fit in wasn't worth the aggro. I learned a lot about how the class system and stereotypes still had a huge effect on people, (going from a state school to a private college) and that I was one of the dying few who didn't fit into a category. Yep, that place really changed me, some say for the worse, but I say for the better.

 

[aruseusx]

Been betrayed by someone I trusted for the second time made me realise what kind of human being I was at the time, a shallow punching bag of those who felt themselves 'superior' to me. I decided to change my personality, leave my friend circle. The first new friend I had was a racist to indigenous australians who introduced me to metal. I had listened to metal before (Iron Man by sabbath & Ace of Spades by Motorhead) and wanted more of it but I never went to music stores. After that I quickly went down the metal road listening to the big four (Anthrax sucks besides their early stuff), the important establishing bands (Mayhem, Death, Maiden, blah blah),etc. My popularity start to rise, my confidence increased, my extra weight started coming off and other things.

So yeah betrayal helped me.

 

[Unstoppable Wall]

Well for me it was when I was at the wee age of I dunno I think about 8? Grandfather kicked it and I became a different individual, I swear it's been a constant since then, lets see 15 - 8 = 7 and Oh god I'ma try an' count how many are gone now...ummm I think around 10, yes that's right, so that's a ratio of 1.42 deaths a year since I was 8 =D. That's enough to knock you out of being a little kid and into a state of realization that life ain't always fair and that if ya don't shape up quick, the world'll eatcha alive.

But honestly, it's made me quite cynical and rather, oh how do I put this? "Mean"? Yes that works I guess, not so much that I pick fights or anything as much as I have a bitter psychological attack on most people, I'm overly sarcastic and yet somehow I still manage to keep a well rounded variety of friends, most of which I'd do anything for.

Enough of the gloomy stuff. My Ex-Girlfriend changed me a bit too, pulled me out of a phase that would've likely gotten me arrested or killed at some point, and made me a happier person and not quite as prone to snap on someone, I'm a little bit more caring of people after that as well, overall a positive change.

And yes I realize I'm not normal, why do you ask? Normal's boring.

Peace,War,Love,Hate,Chaos and Greed
-Unstoppable Wall

 

[rampantcreature]

The rather brutal murder (maybe technically manslaughter) of one on closest friends in high school really fucked me up, in very subtle ways. September 11th prbably affected me as well, but I live in NYC so that's excusable (and my dad works for the FDNY).

But any time I travel, the new perspective is nice.

 

[Motti]

my ex-girlfriend changed me a lot, I hadn't actually realised how depressed I was until we got together and I was actually happy for once, and I think the same sort of thing happened with my new girlfriend.
I also get a new perspective on things everytime I go out bush. I always come back, see people complaining (it's normally typical angsty bullshit too) and I ask myself 'I know where I am, where my next meal's coming from and where I'm going to sleep tonight. What the hell have I got to complain about?'

 

[President Moocow]

I dont know what caused me to change and mature faster then all the retards im around at school.

The only things i can narrow it down to was the constant bullying i had early on in life, My failure to understand Basically 99% of peoples reasons of liking things or supporting things, and depression i get alot(though they may just be from me still being young)

I honestly feel like a black sheep from the rest of my school and family

I used to be like any other 13/14 year old boy, but in between that time, i made a change on my outlook on life and i don't know how, I used to be happy with everything, but now im not, and right now i wish I had never made the change.

Mature faster? Different? I'd say the only way you're different is your contemptuous attitude towards everyone, probably because you were bullied. So here's a comic I find is very applicable to you (as well as everyone who believes they are truly special, which would be the entire fucking human race): http://xkcd.com/610/

Fun fact: not only does your particular attitude of "I'm better than all those retards" happen to TONS of emotionally damaged social rejects (many of where are probably here) but the sense of "I'm the one who's special, mature and going through problems that nobody else can relate to" is psychological phenomenon seen in pretty much all teens. It's called growing up. Once you're truly insightful, then you're truly mature.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

A few things:

The realisation that I am not special, and neither are you.
Several mental conditons, for which I take medication now, but it was hell before I was diagnosed
The first time I got high

 

[Fish and Chips]

When I started at an all-girls secondary school. From hanging round guys entirely, I had to make a 180-degree flip, and that rearranged certain aspects of my personality.
And playing MMO'S taught me the Internet can be filled with wonderful people, who aren't all out to hunt you down and kill you. That sure broadened my world.

*COUGH* But over the years, I've learnt not to take myself so seriously. And adopted a 'WAHAY, LIFE IS FUN!!' sort of attitude. Best lesson ever~
:3

 

[NeutralMunchHotel]

Listening to This American Life. Call me corny but it's really made me see the quirkier side of life. Oh, and add The Moth podcast to that.

 

[Lord Thodin]

They do. Thats already common knowledge.

I wish! Maybe its common knowledge with your little bubble, but not around me. People around me say the most misguided ignorant sounding statements that it physically pains me.

Thats sucks man. Sorry