Childbirth, the mens role
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The father's role .... hmmm ... well my mum broke my dad's fingers when she was in labor, so I'm sure that a giant crunchy stress-ball is always something a woman needs during painful times.
Cervical dilation isn't an exact science. For some women it takes up to 12 hours. Others much much shorter. It's silly to get upset over something that isn't in the doctor's control but rather the woman's body.
Some women like their man to be present for support during the birth. Giving birth is one of the most traumatic processes a human could ever go through and sometimes she needs support to be told that the baby is doing okay and that she is doing great.
If it were reversed, I am pretty certain a man would be clinging to his mommy telling her to kill him. XD
In Western culture, a man's role is to be there as the father figure. Whatever that entails is up to the couple. In Asian culture, not as much from what I've heard. A man just impregnates the woman then leaves after a couple years. Don't quote me on it, it's just what I've heard from a friend who is married to a Chinese woman.
Some women like their man to be present for support during the birth. Giving birth is one of the most traumatic processes a human could ever go through and sometimes she needs support to be told that the baby is doing okay and that she is doing great.
If it were reversed, I am pretty certain a man would be clinging to his mommy telling her to kill him. XD
In Western culture, a man's role is to be there as the father figure. Whatever that entails is up to the couple. In Asian culture, not as much from what I've heard. A man just impregnates the woman then leaves after a couple years. Don't quote me on it, it's just what I've heard from a friend who is married to a Chinese woman.
Men have an amazing bounce back rate. Hence a lot of women having more than one child. Damn penises have a mind of their ownSrkkl said:
Ah but now that the sprog is arriving, he will never sleep again.El Poncho said:That sucks for him working all night, but the bonus of being there is that she can't mention you not being there.
Also I'm sure if he holds her hand he will stay awake
OT: I'm not sure i would allow my partner to be there for his kids being born when the time comes in the distant future, I have heard not only that it can be distressing for them but also im too embarrased to have him there watching me sweat, bleed and scream (unless he really really wanted to, which i doubt unless he also wants to loose use of his hands).
Some people should really consider watching Knocked Up for pointers on this thread. It really does enlighten you.
I'd say the man offered mental and emotional support but I know I'd want to be there at my child's birth. I'd love to see its face as we extract it from the test tube, its going to be joyous.
If his wife finds it important that he's there, then I'd say it's pretty damn important. And for christs sake, she's in labor and he's moaning about a whole night at work. Isn't he excited at all, he's about to have a baby and he's more concerned about sleep -_-
The man has to stay beside the bed, experiencing part of the pain of childbirth by having every bone in his hand crushed to powder. Simple as.
Seriously though, if the mother's going through this much trouble, surely it's not that much to ask for the man just to stand there and be comforting.
Seriously though, if the mother's going through this much trouble, surely it's not that much to ask for the man just to stand there and be comforting.
My oldest brother (and also the oldest sibling in my family) has a little girl who's mother left both him and her 2 days after she was born. He is constantly being asked things like "And are you related to the baby?" When he is at the doctors with her. Men are stepped all over in terms of parenting. People are idiots. Men have to put in a shit load of work too, and I know my father has done much more for me than my mother has.
Its vital! Who else is going to be the target of the womans fury and cursing whilst she pushed out that huge baby?cuddly_tomato said:
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Breaking fingers and bones in his hand during contractions, "YOU'RE NEVER TOUCHING ME AGAIN" "I'LL CHOP IT OFF WHEN I GET OUT OF HERE"... you know, miracle of birth stuff...
True this.Jark212 said:
My wife called me while I was at work, I came home, got her in the car, and drove to the hospital. We were fully prepared. The hospital was completely full up, so we had to wait around two hours until we finally got a room. And another hour before we saw the first midwife. My wife was in labor for about 8 hours. By the time six hours had passed she was already exhausted and mentally elsewhere. Our kid was turned the right way, everything was in order, but the contractions were so severe she had more or less given up coherent communication and thought processes. And she was thrashing. It was in hour seven that the midwives asked that I restrain her legs when the contractions hit. It was at that point my wife pissed on me. And not in the fun way either. When that contraction passed I went to clean myself up, and when I returned one of the midwives told me to go have a cup of coffee. (A nice way of shooing me out of the room.) About 30 minutes later, they let me back in again. We had a daughter. Complete with a head of red hair.
I did not manage to avoid looking into the dark abyss that used to be the most feminine parts of my wife. Blood, shit, and unidentifiable bits drenched the vicinity. It was quite disturbing and has still not erased itself from my mind. I consoled myself by not thinking about it, holding my daughter and speaking sweetly to my wife, while the midwives set about cleaning and stitching. And that was child birth.
Start as you mean to go on. If you miss childbirth you might miss things in the childs life. Be there and shut up.
That said, we can't do shite really. We just sit there thinking 'get it over with'. When i was born my dad left during the night and ate whole tub of ice-cream in celebration. Our mind is always on food.
That said, we can't do shite really. We just sit there thinking 'get it over with'. When i was born my dad left during the night and ate whole tub of ice-cream in celebration. Our mind is always on food.
Have you ever played a Medic in any MMO?cuddly_tomato said:
You know, the one that sits there doing very little, but keeping things going, receiving all the abuse, even when he knows that he's gonna be getting all the blame later, and even though he's bored out of his mind, he's sitting there, watching, just preparing for that one moment where he can be of some help to being of some use, at which point all praise will pass to the Tank that's screaming for "MORE HEALZ!" as she battles against the worst pain ever experienced.
Yeah, sorta like that.
Casting Continual Emotional Release in 5...4...3...2...
If I ever get someone pregnant, during the birth I'll be asleep by the coffee machine
In all seriousness, I think a man should do whatever the hell anyone in that room says. If you're told to hold her hand for support, hold her hand for support. If you're told to get clear, get clear. That's what I say...
In all seriousness, I think a man should do whatever the hell anyone in that room says. If you're told to hold her hand for support, hold her hand for support. If you're told to get clear, get clear. That's what I say...
My wife and I had a scheduled cesarean section. It was much easier this way. Except for fact my wife was ill and vomiting from the anesthetic. I got to go around the curtain and watch as the doctor pulled my son out of about a 10 inch cut in my wifes lower abdomen. About at the waistline. My son was 10lbs 8oz. and 22 inches long. A pretty big baby. It was and still is the best moment in my life. My son is now 4 months old and is being totally awesome. My role was pretty much just emotional support but when your having a baby you want to be there and you want to see everything believe me. I had the same feelings and misconceptions that I didn't want to be there and just wanted to wait outside but it changes believe me.