TakerFoxx said:
You misunderstand me. I know children cannot give consent, and nor would I ever argue that pedophiles should be allowed to have relationships with children. Simply having an attraction to someone does not mean you're going to automatically seek out a physical relationship with them. Sure, there are a lot of pedophiles that have deluded themselves in that way, but there are also many that know and agree that touching children is wrong despite how their attractions have been hardwired. And those are the ones I am standing up for.
Then we have a mutual misunderstanding, to at least some degree. From the post of yours I responded to, it came across as you using an overly narrow definition of rape. I was responding to that interpretation. Sorry for that.
On you're end, you seem to be assuming that I hold all those with pedophilic urges, regardless of actions, with equal contempt. That's why I said slight, since you would be right to the extent that I do hold pedophilic desires themselves to be sick and wrong regardless of the given pedophiles actions. But, I do accept that a given pedophile that doesn't act on their desires deserves sympathy, even credit for resisting their evil nature. Pedophiles can be good people. But I still hold their pedophilia to be wrong, for the reasons I've given before and for the ones I'll wind up giving in the following responses.
TakerFoxx said:
And if I may quote a big scaly dragon on top of a mountain: What is better, to be born good, or to overcome your evil nature through effort?
It's a push based on outcomes; someone who is innately good and someone who isn't (or is but has one rather evil aspect) will still act in the same way. We could argue which is more noble, in which case, yes resisting something bad is more noble than to never need to resist. That doesn't make the evil aspect any less evil
TakerFoxx said:
Honestly, pedophiles really got the short end of the stick when it comes to sexuality. Like homosexuals, they're hardwired with an attraction that many people call them sick freaks just for having and call for them to be fixed/cured, despite no cure actually existing. But unlike homosexuals, they can never pursue a healthy, loving relationship with the object of their attraction and get demonized by everyone the moment they're revealed. No matter what, they're screwed.
I'd say pedophiles, those who never act, did get a really bad deal. Here are these good, or at least not awful people, trapped with a sexual nature that can not be acted upon without causing harm and suffering. For that, the non-acting ones have my sympathy. That's also why (aside from risk reduction and issues of re offense for the active ones) I am strongly pushing for more research, more experiments as outlined in, i think my third post. I would not ever wwant to out them; they are doing good, and should not risk being punished whilst they truly are resisting their evil natures, as the good/evil dragon put it. They deserve to have a chance at fulfillment, and if we can rid them of these desires, they may be able to have it. If nothing else, they won't be forced to struggle against themselves anymore.
Gorrath said:
I do appreciate your sense and understanding of nuance here, I think we might just be arguing semantics. Your last line I think is what is contentious, as it says that what they desire is child rape, which would have to be defined as a real-life culmination of their fantasies. I take umbrage with that because one can have a fantasy and have no desire for said fantasy to become reality.
It's the difference between what you've said, "...but at their core, their sexual desire is to rape a child." vs what I would say, "but at their core, their sexual desire is to engage in a fantasy about raping a child." It is not fair to accuse them of wanting to rape a child if they have no actual desire to do this. Your last line falls into the same contentious territory for me when you say, "but none of that changes the fact that their sexuality is wired in such a way as to desire child rape." If they don't actually want to do this in reality, then it is not proper to say this about them. Desiring a purely fictional and fantasy encounter does not equate to actually wanting said encounter to happen, which is what your statement implies. It is a matter of semantics, but I think it's an important one.
In a sense, i think we are arguing interpretation; right now, I'm focusing on the pedophiles sexual desire, exclusive of there desire to do good or ill, regardless of their empathy or lack thereof, their upbringing. You beleive these are essential aspects, and while as far as helping the pedophile goes, and not condemning them for the part they can't help goes, I agree, I do not believe these have any bearing on the rightness, acceptability, or interpretation of their desire. Yes, one can have have no desire to act on a fantasy, and that is all well and good. However, one cannot be fantasizing about something unless some part of the fantasy holds appeal. In the case of the Pedophile, the appeal is the sex with children part. The rest of them, every part of their self aside from the pedophile part, may reject that, but the pedophile part, the part that feels aroused by children, does not, and cannot, or else it wouldn't exist in the first place.
I see why you think semantics are important here, and so do I. I'll keep discussing this if you want to, but I do get a suspicion that the differences in the way we see the question itself (you're view incorporating all the aspects of the pedophile in question as intrinsic to the matter of their sexuality vs. my emphasis on the object of the arousal, with other factors being used to judge the morality of the person, but not affecting the core orientation) may render it a bit fruitless. Still, do feel free to continue. I could be wrong, after all.
AccursedTheory said:
Here's a question for you.
Does the desire to want to have sex with a consenting age adult who does not consent to having sex with you mean you want/desire to rape her?
I'll be honest; I held off your question for last because it gave me the most pause. It is a rather good point, and certainly valid given my language thus far.
To answer, it would depend on if the desired's disinterest is what draws the interest on the pursuer, and in what way. I'll subdivide.
Firstly, to speak broadly, if the desired were to fail to cause arousal if they were willing, but is attractive since they aren't, that would be a red flag. However, at this stage, I wouldn't conclude that they desire to rape just yet. That would require answering the matter of motivation.
If the motivation is to dominate, to control and subdue the desire's will, regardless of their enjoyment or suffering, or worse, entirely due to the suffering, then yes, that would be a desire to rape.
I know that answer's very incomplete, but I'm short on time, so I'll jump to my concluded point, and will provide clarification of the above if you request.
Even if you are attracted to someone that doesn't want you, even if you want to have sex with them, it is possible to feel those things without wanting to rape them. You aren't attracted to the aspect of the rejection, you're drawn to whatever it is you were drawn to. With a pedophile, what attracts them is the child's, well, childishness, which, by definition, is an aspect that cannot be separated from rape.