Relish in Chaos said:
Pray tell.
My friend had something that may be similar, although I don't entirely know because I'm not that close to him anymore. But a couple of years ago, he told me and a couple of others that he was bisexual, which subsequently spread round the school. But then he later said that he was lying and one of my friends was the one who started the rumour. Around that time, a bunch of other people were alleged to have had "bi-curious" experiences, but I think only a few of those were "proven" to be true.
Then, a couple of months ago, he basically just admitted that he was bisexual. And then there was another guy who was presumed straight, but he'd gone out/had sexual activities with a guy, and then after that, he cheated on his girlfriend with a lesbian (don't ask me).
alrighty. Well a bit of background: I'm quite a feminine guy, people probably wouldn't know it from my posts on here, because its more in the way I present myself, the company I keep, my mannerisms, and some of my interests/tastes.
Back in highschool though, I was MUCH more feminine than I am now. I wasn't bullied, as such, because I always stood up for myself, and my school experience was mostly okay, but I did get a lot of derogatory comments from people (mostly guys) always telling me I was gay. To someone in my position with the extremely girly personality that I had, as well as not being very good at talking to guys but extremely comfortable talking to girls (I felt that I could be myself, I think), and the sneers of gay insults from some people, you really start to question yourself. My dumb teenage mind somehow drew the conclusion that I actually must be gay, because there was no other explanation to me. Even while continually being exclusively attracted to females, and fully aware of this fact, somehow I myself started to believe I was gay, and I even felt that if I came out I would be more accepted (which, in high school definitely isn't the case but again, dumb teenage mind.) So, I did come out. To my parents and also my friends.
But a few years later on I'm a young adult, losing some of the femininity, making more male friends, and being more logical while also being much more understanding of my own emotions. I knew by that point I was definitely not gay, it had been going on for too long, I'd never even been with a guy, and it was time to stop being so ridiculous. So in a rather embarrassing fashion I had to come out of the gay closet.
Life has been much better for me since, happy to say, I've completely embraced my feminine side and remained confident with that, and I'm just myself now, no longer lying to myself and other people. I'm a much more confident person overall, and had already had many great experiences (platonic) with gay and lesbian people during my "gay phase" which made me extremely sympathetic and understanding to the LGBT community after I was done with that. (and still have many LGBT friends today, including my "best friend") This was made even stronger after I found out 2 years ago that my father had Gender Dysphoria since a very young age, and had finally decided to take the leap and become a woman (which has now happened). Though this might be a controversial comment to say, I definitely think its part of the reason I've never fit into the male gender role, not because of genetics (there's no basis for that), but simply because of who brought me up. It strengthened
our bond specifically and also made me understand some things (a lot of things "click" and form together in your mind after finding out something like that)
These days people can meet me and form no conclusions, but spend an hour with me and you'll still be asking me if I'm gay (still happens 90% of the time I meet someone new). I just don't mind anymore and don't take it to heart.
Usually in a mostly humorous way, I refer to myself as a male lesbian, and (more worryingly) my best friend (who IS a lesbian) actually considers me a lesbian. lol
