Coping With Failures

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MultiElford

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Shockolate said:
I know the feeling. Being unable to live up to my own standards is a cornerstone of my depression.

What makes me feel better? Old videos of Whose Line Is It Anyway?
Pure gold in my opinion.
That really brightened my day! :D
Loool

Jumplion said:
I've probably been in that situation for the past couple years, and going through it now as I consistently call myself a dumbfuck after wrecking my car recently (literally about 2 hours ago, nobody got hurt, my hood got bent, that's really about it).

With school, I beat myself up over getting a 90 in a course or test, and god forbid I get an 89. I expect only the best from myself, or at the very least the best that I can do, and when I don't achieve that expectation of myself or I don't do nearly as good as I know I could/should have it infuriates me. I will definitely drag myself in a circle of self-doubt, constantly worrying over every little thing that I'm doing wrong instead of thinking of the things that I can do right in the situation. And this whole situation of getting worried and hard on myself makes me worried and hard on myself, as if I know I shouldn't be doing this shit in the first place but I'm doing it anyway, which in turn pisses me off even more.

I'm working on it, but I end up dragging myself back to the doubt circle. Good thing I'm stubborn or I would have given up a long time ago...
I am sorry about your car... =/
When it comes to the grades, though, I guess we both need to stop being so harsh on ourselves, even if it sounds dumb.

I think it isn't just our perception of ourselves, at least I know it for myself...
The older I get, the more people look down on me, I believe. I guess it is because I tell them that my hobby is playing video games, which automatically means I am stupid.
The smart people nowadays are just the ones that randomly state random facts; at least my classmates that are considered smart around me are just like that - spamming information.

I know I should just ignore idiotic statements like "Video Games are only for stupid people lolol" but I just can't. It is very depressing, especially when I think that I do know more about certain topics than my classmates. They think I am a no-life (whatever that means nowadays) and that I am anti-social, even though I just try to be polite...

Oh I forgot, if you aren't a Gangsta and do not just call a girl that you met yesterday at a party while you were drunk your girlfriend, you are considered anti-social.

So much prejudice in today's society, its crazy. They aren't bad people at all, they just don't understand how sad I am when I am just being categorized as ignorant and closed-minded.

What I was trying to say was that getting bad grades only makes them belief in their stupid theory, and I don't like that...
... I would prefer being better than them... Even if its a stupid source for motivation
 

MultiElford

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DVS BSTrD said:
I play my video-games the same way. That was one of the reasons I stopped playing LA Noire: I got tired of replaying every fucking interview and trying to remember the individual facial cues. But I did relish my replay of Mass Effect and Mass Effect 2, coasting along and sidestepping previous pit-falls.
Funny, I would play through the worst game only to get the achievements.
 

Jumplion

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MultiElford said:
Shockolate said:
I know the feeling. Being unable to live up to my own standards is a cornerstone of my depression.

What makes me feel better? Old videos of Whose Line Is It Anyway?
Pure gold in my opinion.
That really brightened my day! :D
Loool

Jumplion said:
I've probably been in that situation for the past couple years, and going through it now as I consistently call myself a dumbfuck after wrecking my car recently (literally about 2 hours ago, nobody got hurt, my hood got bent, that's really about it).

With school, I beat myself up over getting a 90 in a course or test, and god forbid I get an 89. I expect only the best from myself, or at the very least the best that I can do, and when I don't achieve that expectation of myself or I don't do nearly as good as I know I could/should have it infuriates me. I will definitely drag myself in a circle of self-doubt, constantly worrying over every little thing that I'm doing wrong instead of thinking of the things that I can do right in the situation. And this whole situation of getting worried and hard on myself makes me worried and hard on myself, as if I know I shouldn't be doing this shit in the first place but I'm doing it anyway, which in turn pisses me off even more.

I'm working on it, but I end up dragging myself back to the doubt circle. Good thing I'm stubborn or I would have given up a long time ago...
I am sorry about your car... =/
When it comes to the grades, though, I guess we both need to stop being so harsh on ourselves, even if it sounds dumb.

I think it isn't just our perception of ourselves, at least I know it for myself...
The older I get, the more people look down on me, I believe. I guess it is because I tell them that my hobby is playing video games, which automatically means I am stupid apparently.
The smart people nowadays are just the ones that randomly state random facts apparently, at least my classmates that are considered smart around me.

I know I should just ignore idiotic statements like "Video Games are only for stupid people lolol" but I just can't. It is very depressing, especially when I think that I do know more about certain topics than my classmates. They think I am a no-life (whatever that means nowadays) and that I am anti-social, even though I just try to be polite...

Oh I forgot, if you aren't a Gangsta and do not just call a girl that you met yesterday at a party while you were drunk your girlfriend, you are considered anti-social.

So much prejudice in today's society, its crazy. They aren't bad people at all, they just don't understand how sad I am when I am just being categorized as ignorant and closed-minded.
My car should be fine, I'm just thinking what some of my friends would say, oddly enough. Whenever I drive them they always joke that they're going to die every other turn (I get my driving habits from my dad who's Israeli, man you don't want to learn to drive in Tel Aviv!), and while I'd like to think I'm a good driver, looking back I was getting a bit reckless in my driving and not as alert, so I guess some good came out of it.

See, it's weird, because, at least from what I can tell with my school, I don't really have those kinds of problems (though I've never dealt with relationships in highschool, it's all drama and pointless really. Plus I'm surrounded by a surprising amount of nerds in my classes, so it's fine to play games, though maybe a bit weird to look at them critically). People tell me I'm smart all the time, intelligent, creative, all that good junk, but I'm always humble and in the back of my head I say "they're just saying that to be nice," and other things to invalidate what they say (just now, I noticed I said "good junk", which is telling in retrospect). This might be because I'm probably younger than you (though your profile is only a year away from me), but most of my destruction is self-descrution. I can be pretty damn paranoid if given the chance, thinking that people are talking behind my back. If you couldn't tell, I'm extremely analytical pretty much to a fault. (and even right there, I find fault with myself for being analytical. Man, this is real meta now.)

One way I'd like to think about it is that I'm always trying to think 3 steps ahead with what I'll be saying like in chess. The problem is, I suck at chess (and that's the truth, not me beating myself up!), and more often than not people react completely differently than what I think they will.

I dunno, life's a complicated *****. Then again, nothing worth it is easy, eh?
 

Hitokiri_Gensai

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honestly, i deal with it the same way i deal with most issues. I go to the gun range and shoot.

Yeah its a little... weird i guess but it gives me something to concentrate on and something to do. Its noisy, and distracting. When im just shooting for fun i tend to use handguns, but when im trying to cheer myself up or distract myself ill take my sniper rifle down with me. Shooting at distances up to 600 yards gives me plenty to think about and plenty to concentrate on. It just keeps me busy.
 

Vault101

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in regards to education..I kind of screwed up, and it hit me reallyhard for a while...especially in highschool because I didn thave anything going for me...was never "good" at anything and I resigned myself to the fact i was a dumbass...after that It felt like nothign i did mattered...so I just floated by one minimum..wich did NOT help me in the long run

it did turn out fine in the end, I have a good job and a nice lifestyle (which I only got through luck and privlige)...though it has made me reluctant to actually try at anything (and i do feel a bit like a failure..I havt "suceeded' at anything) and I dont know what Ill do in the future