Could use some encouraging words

[MasterOfWorlds]

I had a similar situation happen to me not terribly long ago. I gave up on relationships for a while and was generally pretty down on myself. Then I met my current gf, who's so much better than the other girl that it's not even funny. I'm much happier now, and while I'm still friends with the other girl, my feelings towards her are just like I would feel towards any of my other female friends.

You'll find someone who you care for. Just try to be open minded about it. I met my gf when I had decided to put a hold on the whole relationship thing for a while. She changed my mind about it. Still with her almost 9 months in and still happy. Just try to keep a positive attitude. Things will work out for you.

 

[Jekken6]

They scare easily, but they'll be back, and in greater numbers.

Brilliant

 

[Daedalus1942]

So I just found out that the girl I've been in love with my entire life does not return my feelings. Now I feel worse than I have ever before and could use some encouraging words
(thus the title of this post).

So got any?

I just found out the girl I care about more than anyone in the world is a transsexual (i've known her for two years) and I just spent this morning stopping her from killing herself.
You want to complain about your "woe is me" crap?
Try listening to your friend go numb and become incoherent as you frantically try to get medical details out of her.
Argggh!
I still don't know if she's alive...

-Tabs -

 

[numbersix1979]

So I just found out that the girl I've been in love with my entire life does not return my feelings. Now I feel worse than I have ever before and could use some encouraging words
(thus the title of this post).

So got any?

Trust me friendo, because I know how you feel. Nothing's going to ever feel the same, everything is ruined, life isn't fair. But believe me, there's going to be other women. I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but there are. If you know where to look and how to behave, you'll never be without company. Just give it some time, sit back and swear off the dames for awhile until someone new sweeps you off your feet.

Get back up on your feet, champ

 

[bakakun]

I have a few words of advice: don't have nobody to turn to other than a bunch of anonymous forum lurkers on an e-zine to comfort yourself in tough times. You'll get a lot of people projecting their own world views on you but little actual emotional comfort.

 

[Ordinaryundone]

So I just found out that the girl I've been in love with my entire life does not return my feelings. Now I feel worse than I have ever before and could use some encouraging words
(thus the title of this post).

So got any?

I'm going to give you the same words of wisdom that was given me when I was in your situation, not too long ago.

"Bitches ain't shit but ho's and tricks"

In all seriousness, I know what you are going through. I've been in love with a girl for around 3-4 years now, broke up with my old girlfriend to be with her about a year ago. Thought things would be cool, but a few months later she told me she really wasn't interested in me anymore, despite leading me on for over 2 years. She's been giving me the progressively colder shoulder every day.

At first, I was crushed, much like you are probably feeling right now. I tried to deny it, fight it. It was quite a sad scene, truthfully, I basically just let her walk all over me trying to get her back. When that didn't work, I tried being understanding. "Letting her have her space" and "understand what she was going through". That just made me more miserable; I felt like it was my fault all this had happened.

So you know what I did? I got angry. I realized, "You know what? Screw her!" I gave her attention, my love, everything I could give and she tossed it like it was yesterdays fish. Maybe making myself the victim isn't the right thing to do, but I'll be damned if I spoil my limited time on this Earth because of her.

So give it a try! Think about her, and just remember everything you didn't like about her. Might take a few minutes, but think hard. You'll be surprised how many things you can come up with. A little while of that, and suddenly she isn't nearly as great as you thought she was. It helps you move on.

 

[Bernzz]

They scare easily, but they'll be back, and in greater numbers.

I...

I love you. This absolutely made my day.

OT: It happens, OP. Maybe if you'd taken a little less time than "Your whole life." to express your feelings, it mighta worked out. There'll be more, and you'll find someone.

 

[Astoria]

Try not to let it get to you. I've been in a similar situation though I wasn't actually in love with the guy, more like infatuated with him. I didn't think I'd be over to get over it as easily as I did. I found another guy, one way more amazing and I made me completly forget about how I used to feel. It may happen when you least expect it like it did with me.