I work three days and look after my daughter for two (well four). I do most of the cleaning and cooking. I am studying as well for the other two days, but that's just forward thinking, as my wife already earns 10G more than I and she's five years younger - so she could almost be double by the time she becomes my current age. I feel that I would like to contribute more when I get the chance. Or maybe reduce my hours for the same pay, so I could pick her up from school. I really hate leaving her in day care for as long as we do.
Could you be a Househusband/Housewife?
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It's funny you mention having no clue what you want to do with your life. That's the reason I got the idea for this thread. A long story short, me and a co-worker were talking about how I was unsure of my major. He suggested I be a househusband. Then we went on this huge idea about becoming a househusband and making it like an actual job.Caramel Frappe said:
But I don't think mentioning being clueless at what you want to do with your life is ruining the party. It's something all college students need to think about. It kinda scares me to be honest. I don't know if I want to be a teacher. But that's what I'm going for right now. Now I have the idea of being record producer or record engineer. Luckily for me I have another year before I need to choose a major. Best of luck to you Frappe.
Not sure why the role is looked down upon in society, sure it's not exciting and doesn't require high levels of education to do but money aside one makes life significantly easier, especially if children are involved. Like when both spouses work both come home tired and things like cleaning the house, dirty dishes and laundry gets put off, take out becomes a much more common source of food and of course the children gets less attention from both of their parents due to lack of time and energy.
So yeah I wouldn't mind the role at all, I just need to learn how to cook.
So yeah I wouldn't mind the role at all, I just need to learn how to cook.
*shrug*Kevlar Eater said:
I dunno what to say.
I disagree, I guess.
My relationship has remained equal throughout multiple changes of domestic role, so I just don't see it as an issue.
As long as you're pulling your weight.
But it seems a lot of people couldn't possibly see themselves as the stay-at-home partner.
Would I be a househusband or want a housewife by default I would say no that whole traditional setup doesn't really do much for me. Now as matter of circumstance I have no problem with that you do what you have to do but as something that I would personally want not really my cup of tea. I mean social reasons I am aware of stigmas from all places but this is just from a personal level.
I am living in bizarro world from where I am at most people have both partners working not really out of choice but that is the only feasible way to make a living some folks. When that comes them getting bashed for not "working" hard enough, and empty accusations of living beyond their means and other stuff. And don't get me started on the shame guys get for not "manning up" and gals for being not being "motherly" if kids are involved. You just can't win with some folks.lolSmilomaniac said:
ooohhh.......>_<
On one hand, I'd like to be able to stay at home all day and I like being helpful and all that...
But on the other hand, I suck HORRIBLY at house chores. The house would probably become a disaster zone if I was the only one in charge of maintaining it....XD
Then again, once I've gotten my own place and need to deal with it all myself, maybe I'll get better.
If I do end up getting way better at making sure ot keep things clean/tidy, then I wouldn't mind. Assuming I'm good enough at it, I'd have plenty of time to work on my hobbies (playing games and making RPGmaker games) to keep myself occupied.
On one hand, I'd like to be able to stay at home all day and I like being helpful and all that...
But on the other hand, I suck HORRIBLY at house chores. The house would probably become a disaster zone if I was the only one in charge of maintaining it....XD
Then again, once I've gotten my own place and need to deal with it all myself, maybe I'll get better.
If I do end up getting way better at making sure ot keep things clean/tidy, then I wouldn't mind. Assuming I'm good enough at it, I'd have plenty of time to work on my hobbies (playing games and making RPGmaker games) to keep myself occupied.
I have doubts. I can be pretty lazy about things. Especially cleaning and chores. I think I'd have to get a job just so I could hire a damn maid.
But also, I wouldn't wanna be this vulnerable in my marriage on the off chance he does something stupid and cheats on me. I will not get stuck, thank you.
But also, I wouldn't wanna be this vulnerable in my marriage on the off chance he does something stupid and cheats on me. I will not get stuck, thank you.
I doubt I would be OK with it. If I just put in 4+ years into college, I'd actually want it to pay off with a job. It also clashes with my personality of needing something to do, or else I tend to have trouble functioning at 100%. Not to mention, it is generally a good financial decision to have a two income household but live as if you have one, so while we may not live better because we both have a job, then at least we'll be saving money in case anything bad happens. It may also help us pay off student loans faster.
So yeah, there are plenty of reasons why I wouldn't want to be a househusband. Traditional gender roles may not be one of them, but I certainly have a lot of other reasons for not wanting to do it.
So yeah, there are plenty of reasons why I wouldn't want to be a househusband. Traditional gender roles may not be one of them, but I certainly have a lot of other reasons for not wanting to do it.
Yes. I don't care what anyone thinks because I'm a guy, those people aren't worth my time. No family can function if the house is a disaster. Keeping everything clean and keeping food cooked is just as important, if not more important than going to a standard job.
I'm sure I wouldn't like it at first, I mean, who honestly likes cleaning at first? But with some good music and the fact I"d rather stay at home to do work than go out means eventually I'll find my own groove to doing it, and get cleaning, repairs, etc. done much faster.
It doesn't HAVE to just be cleaning. Homes fall apart sometimes. Things will need fixed. Contrary to some peoples thoughts that I know of, taking care of a house is not some prissy, dainty, wife work. It can be long, sometimes tedious, and require a lot of work to keep a house in good repair and shape.
I'm sure I wouldn't like it at first, I mean, who honestly likes cleaning at first? But with some good music and the fact I"d rather stay at home to do work than go out means eventually I'll find my own groove to doing it, and get cleaning, repairs, etc. done much faster.
It doesn't HAVE to just be cleaning. Homes fall apart sometimes. Things will need fixed. Contrary to some peoples thoughts that I know of, taking care of a house is not some prissy, dainty, wife work. It can be long, sometimes tedious, and require a lot of work to keep a house in good repair and shape.
Nope! I really love working and pursuing a career. The idea of not having my own money earned by my own means just doesn't appeal to me. Sure, having a job is super stressful sometimes (like this week) but I would get bored just being inside a house the majority of the day. I respect people who do it but it's not the lifestyle for me.
Nope!
Mostly for the same reasons others here have already mentioned. I hate having to depend on anther person to car-pool to work let alone someone else to pay the bills! Also I'd develop some weird guilt complex over my partner paying off the stuff I'm 100% responsible for like my phone or student loans (especially as I'm planning on going back to school).
I've witnessed this type of situation (wife stay at home to look after kid because child-care costs more than her wage) gone very very bad. Of course this situation went bad because of the people and personalities involved but the idea of putting myself on either side of that is mildly terrifying.
Mostly for the same reasons others here have already mentioned. I hate having to depend on anther person to car-pool to work let alone someone else to pay the bills! Also I'd develop some weird guilt complex over my partner paying off the stuff I'm 100% responsible for like my phone or student loans (especially as I'm planning on going back to school).
I've witnessed this type of situation (wife stay at home to look after kid because child-care costs more than her wage) gone very very bad. Of course this situation went bad because of the people and personalities involved but the idea of putting myself on either side of that is mildly terrifying.
Yes, that sounds great. I love staying home! Looking after children 0 - 2 years is a pain though.
No Children? Then no, probably not. I want to work - I want to contribute to society, and my future job enables me to do that. If my wife will be out working, why can't I? She won't be home either, and if there are no kids, I'm sure the house can manage to stay standing until I get back from work. It's not like the floor requires constant attention. Plus, if we're both out of the house, hey, the house remains clean!
If there are children, and she earns more than me, then sure, I could stay home. I am someone who believes that one parent should remain at home to help the children. I don't care which one it is - the mother or the father, but as long as it is possible, I think one parent SHOULD remain behind. I don't believe in shoving a kid into child-care to be raised by strangers.
Of course, I understand that many families have to have two working parents due to financial stress, and I don't blame the parents for putting their kid in child-care if they both have to work. But that's only if they both HAVE to work.
If there are children, and she earns more than me, then sure, I could stay home. I am someone who believes that one parent should remain at home to help the children. I don't care which one it is - the mother or the father, but as long as it is possible, I think one parent SHOULD remain behind. I don't believe in shoving a kid into child-care to be raised by strangers.
Of course, I understand that many families have to have two working parents due to financial stress, and I don't blame the parents for putting their kid in child-care if they both have to work. But that's only if they both HAVE to work.
No, I wouldn't be able to do it. I love my job and enjoy working in general. It brings me fulfillment, and nothing makes me feel better about myself than being recognized/praised at work. Without it, I would probably be pretty depressed and feel like I was worthless. Which would make me a shitty husband and likely ruin my marriage.
The mere thought of being financially dependent on one person, especially in this day and age makes me feel highly uncomfortable. I do not want my entire well being to be reliant on the loyalty, virility, and viability of one male/female spouse.
It's bad enough that in the US of A being a stay at home mom, yet alone a stay at home wife is unappreciated what with getting lower pay (or no job at all) and all that trash.
Granted I would see myself as a person who works at home. Providing I can't find myself a job at a studio somewhere.
However that does not mean that I'm going to do all the housework. It's going to be an equal thing between both me and my hypothetical spouse. In rotation to keep things interesting.
It's bad enough that in the US of A being a stay at home mom, yet alone a stay at home wife is unappreciated what with getting lower pay (or no job at all) and all that trash.
Granted I would see myself as a person who works at home. Providing I can't find myself a job at a studio somewhere.
However that does not mean that I'm going to do all the housework. It's going to be an equal thing between both me and my hypothetical spouse. In rotation to keep things interesting.
Yep.
I've cleaned my house before on my own and I liking having the option of staying home doing nothing except play games drinkwine and ask the occasional "how was your day?".
I've cleaned my house before on my own and I liking having the option of staying home doing nothing except play games drinkwine and ask the occasional "how was your day?".
Same. Has nothing to do with gender roles, or even a reluctance to do cleaning or housework. I'd just go stir crazy if I didn't have a job to go to.RatherDull said: