Could you be attracted to a bisexual?

[Gameguy20100]

No im asexual so I dont get attracted to anyone male or female I dont have a problem with them but I wouldnt be attracted to them

 

[Agayek]

To put it bluntly, I don't see why my partner being bisexual matters. I mean, I could see there being big relationship issues if she was homosexual or whatever else that ultimately boils down to "I'm not attracted to you", but bisexuality isn't like that.

I'm not the type to get pissy about who my partner fucked in the past. I just don't give a shit. As long as they're not cheating on me with someone and are still attracted to me, I don't see why their sexual orientation really matters.

 

[Zanderinfal]

Easily. Doesn't matter to me, if I get along with them and we make each other happy then that's all that matters ^_^

 

[romxxii]

I suppose the question is pretty self-explanatory but I guess I can expand a bit.

Would you get in a relationship with someone you knew to be bisexual? Or if you were in a relationship with someone and they told you they were bisexual how would you react?

So, could you be romantically attracted to someone who's bisexual? Do you find it to be an attractive trait, or an unattractive one, or maybe neutral?

I'm curious because I'm a bisexual guy and I was wondering what other people might think of that so I thought I would see what everybody here thought.

I've dated two bisexual girls before. On the one hand, it's very unnerving to see a girl objectify another girl. On the other hand, I found the stories of her 'adventures' very titillating.

There's also that part of you that's praying she invite one of her girlfriends to a three-way with you.

 

[pearcinator]

I don't mind a bit of girl-on-girl...if they were both bisexual I might join them (fingers crossed!)

 

[trollnystan]

Straight female and I'd have no problems with it. After all, it's not his sexuality I'm attracted to, but HIM. As some others have mentioned, it'd be fun to gawk at men with him too x3

 

[FalloutJack]

What do you mean COULD I be? Uhhh...last I checked, she found guys and gals hot, so...yeah.

 

[BathorysGraveland2]

Sure, why wouldn't I be? Besides, the idea of a threesome (or more?) with two (or several) women is something that appeals rather immensely to me, so I'd be all for it.

 

[Lieju]

I'm lesbian, and I wouldn't care.

I wouldn't care at all if the person I was dating was bisexual.

I have a friend who is gay and he told me that he wouldn't want to date a bisexual because, since their dating pool is larger, they would be more likely to cheat. Or something. Anyway, we had an argument about that and I think I convinced him of the absurdity of such a belief by the end.

That is indeed one of the stupidest things I've heard. It's like saying you want to date people who are only into blonds (or whatever your hair colour is) - same reasoning applies, after all - larger pool and all.

Except that the society generally doesn't look down on people who are into blonds or tell them they will 'grow out of it'.

I know gays who dislike bisexuals because they don't see why they'd want to choose to be in a homosexual relationship if they are also attracted to the opposite sex. Obviously those people have issues with internalized homophobia and confidence, to believe that their bisexual partner would not be serious about the relationship and just run away at the first sign of a prospect of a heterosexual relationship.

But, still, societal pressures and whatnot.

I'm quite tired of being told to 'grow up and get a boyfriend', or 'why would you choose to be gay?'

 

[cthulhuspawn82]

I think males are more likely to respond positively on this because of the "two girls are hot" mentality. I don't believe girls think that way (i.e. "two guys would be hot") they are more of a monogamous bunch.

The only way I could imagine it making someone uncomfortable is if it makes you feel as if you alone cant fully satisfy your partner. Once again, that's not a problem for guys. Guys think thier girlfriend being with another girl is hot. A girl probably wouldn't think her boyfriend with another guy was hot, she would probably be angry at him for cheating on her.

 

[bananafishtoday]

I wouldn't care at all if the person I was dating was bisexual.

I have a friend who is gay and he told me that he wouldn't want to date a bisexual because, since their dating pool is larger, they would be more likely to cheat. Or something. Anyway, we had an argument about that and I think I convinced him of the absurdity of such a belief by the end.

It's representative of an attitude that isn't uncommon within some parts of the gay community. A mix of accepting mainstream stereotypes that bisexuals tend to be promiscuous/unfaithful/duplicitous plus a belief that many/all bisexuals are either a) straights appropriating gay culture or just experimenting sexually, or b) gays halfway out the closet. ("Gay, straight, or lying.") Pluuus a degree of resentment that some bisexuals receive some benefits of straight privilege and/or can more easily pass as straight generalized to this attitude toward all (the former is true in some cases, but there are plenty of "queerer" bi folks, esp PoC, who receive little to no privilege, while plenty of "normative" gay folks receive a lot.)

Dan Savage is prolly the epitome of this, going from "Well I said I was bi before I came out as gay, therefore all 'bi' people are actually gay" to "Gay people, don't date bi people, they'll inevitably leave you for an opposite-sex partner when they want to settle down so that they can pass as straight for the rest of their lives."

OT: I'm bi, so if anything, it'd be a perk.

Edit:

I think males are more likely to respond positively on this because of the "two girls are hot" mentality. I don't believe girls think that way (i.e. "two guys would be hot") they are more of a monogamous bunch.

The only way I could imagine it making someone uncomfortable is if it makes you feel as if you alone cant fully satisfy your partner. Once again, that's not a problem for guys. Guys think thier girlfriend being with another girl is hot. A girl probably wouldn't think her boyfriend with another guy was hot, she would probably be angry at him for cheating on her.

You'd be surprised.

 

[Sandjube]

I imagine that even if I wasn't bi/pan, I wouldn't care. Who would, really? I really don't see how it would be an issue at all.

 

[Aramis Night]

The first person who confirmed themselves to be into their own gender turned out to be my first GF. Before she admitted to being into women, i didn't even know that gay people actually existed. We had been together for a few months and i was walking her home after school. She was telling me about how her best friend had told her something that was mean and wrong. Her best friend was a girl i had known a couple years before i met my gf. I don't remember what she told me her best friend said, but my response was "screw her". My GF replied "I already did, She wasn't that great".

At first i didn't quite catch what she said, I thought i misheard her. So a few seconds passed and i was confused by what i might have heard. So i stopped and asked her what she said. She repeated it "I already did, She wasn't that great" and i froze. Time just stopped for me while my brain went into overdrive deciphering what she said and all its implications, one at a time. First, gay people actually exist. It wasn't just a casual insult anymore. 2nd, my own GF is gay. 3rd, Her best friend who i had known for a couple years, is also gay. My entire understanding of reality just shattered.

Suddenly i had to question everything. Why is she with me if she likes women? Is she still sleeping with her best friend when i'm not around? What about her other friends? Is that cheating since its other women vs. a man? How many other people do i know that are gay? Do i have a right to ask about any of this? Do i have a right to be upset by any of the answers to these questions? I just didn't know how to react.

Since then i've had more experience with bi women than straight ones. Course that could be because genuine straight women are incredibly rare, at least where i live. I had to come to the conclusion that i can't hold them finding women attractive against them. It would be hypocritical. As long as they remain loyal and monogamous to me, its not a problem.

Unfortunately some women try to use it as an excuse to fool around. Every time they bring up how they are attracted to both men and women and should be allowed to have one of each because they are bi, I bring up how i'm attracted to both brunettes and redheads and should go get one of each... just before i dump her.

 

[DoPo]

I wouldn't care at all if the person I was dating was bisexual.

I have a friend who is gay and he told me that he wouldn't want to date a bisexual because, since their dating pool is larger, they would be more likely to cheat. Or something. Anyway, we had an argument about that and I think I convinced him of the absurdity of such a belief by the end.

That is indeed one of the stupidest things I've heard. It's like saying you want to date people who are only into blonds (or whatever your hair colour is) - same reasoning applies, after all - larger pool and all.

Except that the society generally doesn't look down on people who are into blonds or tell them they will 'grow out of it'.

I understand what you mean and I'm sorry it might have sounded dismissive or offensive. My comment only concerned the size of dating pools, however. Surely if that was a valid metric for willingness to cheat, then if you took two similar people - men or a women, of whatever sexual orientation, the one who is into blonds is less likely to cheat than the other because their choice is more restricted. Or into tall people or whatever. I don't believe that to be the case - I don't think the "dating pool" determines how faithful somebody is.

 

[JayElleBee]

Funnily enough, even though I myself am bisexual, I'd prefer my ladies to be gay and my gents to be straight. Not really sure why, I just prefer it that way. That said, if I was attracted to someone who was bisexual I wouldn't be put off at all.

 

[launchpadmcqwak]

uhh...yeah?, why wouldn't it be?. i'm all for asking logical questions and getting honest answers about this kind of thing (political correctness be damned) but why wouldn't you be attracted to a Bi?

 

[Abomination]

I fail to see why someone would have any legitimate issue with this that wasn't either homophobia or possessing an incredibly jealous streak.

I know some people have an issue when their significant other talks to people of the opposite gender; how would they handle a significant other who was Bi talking to not only people of the opposite gender but also of the same gender knowing full well they could be sexually attracted to ANY PERSON?

Captcha: crime of passion

Looks like it answered the question for me.

Edit:

Funnily enough, even though I myself am bisexual, I'd prefer my ladies to be gay and my gents to be straight. Not really sure why, I just prefer it that way. That said, if I was attracted to someone who was bisexual I wouldn't be put off at all.

Hrm, apologies here. I guess it's impossible for a bisexual to be a homophobe and I can understand how someone in that situation would just have personal preference.