Could you be attracted to a bisexual?

[Dirge Eterna]

I'm looking for other bisexuals in particular. Being an androgynous transgirl my chances are better there. Also the odds seems to be in favor of them being more flexibile in bed. With the girls considering getting strap-on and the guys not being too shy about there butts. More fun all around. ^^

Regarding them getting attracted to others. Am I interested in this third person? Sweet, threesome! Otherwise, I don't mind sharing as long as my partner acts responsibly.

Far to many guys are skittish about anal stimulation on them. I am straight and not attracted to men at all but I love when girls play with my ass. Its about pleasure and I am having fun with a girl, yet so many guys deem it as gay and are scared about it. My wife is Bi and she loves to use a strap-on with the women she plays with and the guys if they let her lol. We are swingers so it doesn't bother us to share.

 

[Dirge Eterna]

I am a straight male and my wife is very Bi. Not in the putting on a show way but in that she has been with way more women than men in her life sexually. It doesn't bother me in the slightest and I have given her permission before to go out with and have sex with women when she feels a craving to be with a woman. It helps that we are also Swingers so sex is just fun for us and not a huge emotional thing like it is for some people. We both have sex with other people and sometimes we watch or participate and sometimes we don't. As long as we are both honest and completely open about what we do and like than everything goes great. We have been in the swinger lifestyle for over 4 years and we enjoy it and believe that it has helped us to be even closer than before. It's definitely not for everyone but we know a lot of people who have very close relationships usually better than our non-swinger friends. So the key really is openness about what you and your partner want.

 

[Dandark]

It wouldn't really affect me if my partner was bisexual, how could it affect me? I guess if I was the jealous and possessive type then I would have to be suspicious of both genders?

I don't see how it could matter to anyone who isn't homophobic.

 

[Darken12]

So the key really is openness about what you and your partner want.

This is true of every relationship. Some do it through swinger sex, others through more standard means, but the goal should be the open and full communication you'd have with a trusted friend.

 

[Calibanbutcher]

Sure, I don't see why not.
(It would have to be a female bisexual, but that's because I myself am heterosexual.)

 

[Adeptus Aspartem]

Wait.. so you're asking me, a man, if i'd have a problem with a girl, who likes to do some kinky girl-on-girl action and thus majorly increases the chances to include said sexiness into our bedroom compared to a straight girl?

Jeah, i'd be upset and throw her out!

 

[Legion]

Lesbian here and I don't really like it, I've tried dating girls who were in to guys too but I always had the feeling that one day she might start gawking at boys or say 'Isn't he fit? Phwoar!'. Possibly whilst drinking diet coke in an elevator with her coworkers. But that's all a 'problem' with me rather than with bisexuals, I'd just rather avoid the awkwardness that I would create in such situations and stick with girls-who-like-girls.

Hopefully you don't all hate me now.

I'd ignore anybody who has a problem with that. It's your life, and if you don't want to date bisexuals, that's your choice. It's not like you are are saying you don't like them, or wouldn't want to be friends with them.

Also, were you referring to this advert?


It made me laugh remembering it.

So the key really is openness about what you and your partner want.

This is true of every relationship. Some do it through swinger sex, others through more standard means, but the goal should be the open and full communication you'd have with a trusted friend.

Indeed. Think about how many less divorces/break ups in the world there'd be if people were capable of just talking to their partner properly.

 

[Thaluikhain]

I don't see the issue.

Could be a plus, not in an "inevitably leads to a threesome way", but if they have a wider range of experiences, intimate knowledge of both sexes bits, etc.

 

[The White Hunter]

Well It'd be pretty hypocritical for a bisexual male to b e put off by their partner being bisexual so.. no? Don't really care...

 

[Dirge Eterna]

So the key really is openness about what you and your partner want.

This is true of every relationship. Some do it through swinger sex, others through more standard means, but the goal should be the open and full communication you'd have with a trusted friend.

Yes totally. I learned my lesson with my ex-wife that if you can't open up for fear of ridicule or rejection about what you want and like sexually or otherwise then nothing you do will ever improve the relationship. Now with my wife we are totally open about how we feel and what we want and desire. Its pretty freeing when you and your partner have the same taste in women and you can openly admit she is beautiful or he is hot. I am not attracted to guys but I can admit when a guy looks good.

 

[The White Hunter]

I'm quite tired of being told to 'grow up and get a boyfriend', or 'why would you choose to be gay?'

It worries me that there are still people like that. Thankfully I haven't met any myself.

Instead I come across people who say "Bisexuals are greedy". What concerns me is that I don't think all of the people saying it were joking.

I can vouch that they do genuinely believe that bisexual means you want one of each at the same time all the time. It's qutie an unpleasant notion that made my time at school uncomfortable and lead to more than one violent encounter.

It's a mentality that needs educating out of people to be honest, it's harmful both to society and individuals subjected to that kind of bullying because of something they just are.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

My first serious girlfriend is bisexual. Hell, she and I are still good friends to the point that I've been invited to her wedding. It doesn't matter what the orientation of my partner is really so long as they're with me.

Hate to break it to ya OP, but you don't choose who you're attracted to.

This.

 

[Kroxile]

I am and I can.

It doesn't matter to me if she's bisexual or not as long as she doesn't cheat all is well. I actually think I could take her cheating on me with another woman better than with another man though.. but thats just me.

 

[trollnystan]

The question that the OP put to us was if we would date a bisexual, NOT if we'd be ok with said bisexual cheating on us with a member of their own gender (if we're straight) or opposite (if we're gay).

My intention was not to make suggestions about cheating. Just saying that, on balance, if you ask men how they'd find it if their girlfriend was bisexual, they'd probably entertain this thought more positively than if you ask women about boyfriends.

Ah, I getcha now. I can't speak for ALL women of course, but if my boyfriend told me he was bisexual I'd be fine with it. If he told me he was bisexual and wanted to date men AND me, I'd be not so fine with it, just as I'd not be fine with him dating other women AND me.

I'm pretty sure I'm a monogamous creature, not that I have any experience in relationships, lol. But I know a few women who have been or are in open relationships and were/are totally happy with that.

 

[MysticSlayer]

Hey man, having a bisexual partner has its benefits...

Joking aside, I would have absolutely no problem with it. Why would I? Sure, it opens up another potential avenue for her cheating on me, but if I'm constantly worried that she could be cheating on me with another man or woman, then we aren't going to have a very healthy relationship. I guess, for some people, it could cause some self-esteem issues, as you know you're only satisfying one side of their sexual desires, but in any relationship you likely aren't the only person they're attracted to, regardless of sexual orientation. A heterosexual partner will likely be attracted to other people of your gender. Opening it up to more options should not make things any worse.

 

[aaronobst]

A bisexual of the opposite sex? that's a given

 

[Headdrivehardscrew]

Attracted? Absolutely.

In a relationship or married? Hell no.

 

[EstrogenicMuscle]

In a relationship or married? Hell no.

Why? Do you think there is any more change that they would cheat?

There isn't. Heterosexuals and homosexuals are equally as likely to cheat as bisexuals.

Being bisexual does not mean having relaxed morals.

 

[masticina]

What.. does it change the person inside? No!

You might yeah have to deal with that the person you like.. goes both ways. Eh so be it.

 

[Bigsmith]

My Girlfriend is Bi as am I.

If I was to, hypothetically speaking, go out with a guy. I also wouldn't care if he was Bi.