Could you be attracted to a bisexual?

[thewatergamer]

Honestly
(coming from a religious straight white male)
I wouldn't care at all
As long as you aren't going to cheat on me I don't care
if I like you I don't see why it would matter

Its like someone saying "I only date brunettes"
Im just like what difference does it make?

 

[wulf3n]

It's interesting that a lot of people add the condition "as long as they don't cheat".

Is there a common perception that people who are bi are more likely to cheat on their partner?

 

[Lunar Templar]

why should there be a problem? if she likes me then I see no reason not to. all it would really mean is we both like boobs instead of just me

 

[IceForce]

Is there a common perception that people who are bi are more likely to cheat on their partner?

Apparently so, going by some of the replies in this thread...

I would not. Yanno, dat huge dating pool bisexuals have. Depending on the integrity of the person in question, cheating on their end would be as inevitable as death.

 

[Kargathia]

I suppose the question is pretty self-explanatory but I guess I can expand a bit.

Would you get in a relationship with someone you knew to be bisexual? Or if you were in a relationship with someone and they told you they were bisexual how would you react?

So, could you be romantically attracted to someone who's bisexual? Do you find it to be an attractive trait, or an unattractive one, or maybe neutral?

I'm curious because I'm a bisexual guy and I was wondering what other people might think of that so I thought I would see what everybody here thought.

Hi, you must be new here. Everybody here is aggressively liberal towards that stuff.

OT:my girlfriend is bisexual and it doesn't bother me in the slightest. In fact it's nice, being able to share our gawks...

Yea, the responses are going to be somewhat one-sided on this one.

Honestly it seems like something that's of passing interest for the filing cabinet of useless facts, but beyond that hardly applicable to monogamous relationships. Unless, of course, you get cracking on that threesome.

 

[HalfTangible]

Oh I love these kinds of questions. Lemme pretend I'm not celibate and near-asexual...

I once believed that, in order to count as bisexual, you had to date one of each gender at the same time. At which point I would have said 'no'.

Since then, my opinion has changed to "meh, as long as you arent banging someone behind my back".

 

[J Tyran]

No problem for me at all, I would have a relationship with someone who was bisexual. I cant say it would attract me to the person anymore than usual, its just it is what it is.

 

[almightysheep]

My ex was bisexual, and it didn't phase me at all. Actually I thought of it as a positive trait, seeing as they can love either gender equally.

 

[GonzoGamer]

Hetero White Male here but I dated a bisexual girl in college. Sure it was fun but she wasn't someone who I would've considered for the long term...and I mean like marriage. I would just be afraid of her gradually evolving into a complete lesbian. End up like the dork from Friends.

Just so I can finish sounding like a complete pig I'd like to quote Andrew Dice Clay: "there's no such thing as bi-sexual, you either suck dick, or you do not suck dick."

It's just from a male perspective but I always thought it was a pretty profound statement; if you're bisexual, then you do enough gay things to be considered gay by heterosexual standards. I could never suck a dick and I'm sure my wife doesn't long to muff dive, and I think we're both okay with that.

 

[Dalisclock]

It really wouldn't matter to me regardless. Wether or not I have a relationship with someone is based on a lot of things and the other person liking both genders or not doesn't even make the list of things I care about in that regard.

 

[Zen Bard]

I'm a straight man, so I'm attracted to women. And it's an added bonus if they're attracted to me.

I dated a bi-sexual gal in high school way back when. She was a cool artsy chick and we just enjoyed each other's company.

When she told me she was bi-, my response was "See? One more thing we have in common."

She loved that and we went out for a while. But eventually, we decided we were better off being friends.

She's now married (to a man) and has a couple of kids.

I guess my answer is "I'm attracted to whoever attracts me."

Whether or not the relationship works depends on other things...

 

[XMark]

Heh, I dated a bisexual once. Wasn't much different really. The only thing is that I'm quite susceptible to false jealousy, and knowing that she was bisexual basically made EVERYONE that she knows a potential suspect in my stupid jealous brain.

 

[DudeistBelieve]

I did. She was real **** and cheated on me.

It's always refreshing when you realize minorities really are just people. They can be absolute terrible individuals too.

 

[afroebob]

To be completely totally 100% honest, I would totally prefer it.

It's interesting that a lot of people add the condition "as long as they don't cheat".

Is there a common perception that people who are bi are more likely to cheat on their partner?

I think its the idea that considering there is more people for a bisexual person to be attracted to the more likely they are to run off on someone they aren't in a committed relationship with. I can understand the idea, more sexual temptation and what not, but I wouldn't say whether or not there is any truth to it unless I can see some facts. However, in a committed relationship I really don't see sexuality coming into whether or not your going to cheat because in a committed relationship I don't think it is about the temptation from having more people your attracted to around, its just whether or not your a good person. If you are you wont cheat, if you aren't you probably will.

 

[Mersadeon]

I suppose there are those that say "well, you have twice the competition!" but really, that is bull. I wouldn't have a problem. Well, maybe I am biased, being bisexual and all, but even before, when I was straight, I wouldn't have had a problem with it.

Edit: Maybe I should explain why I think the "twice the competition" part is bull. It's because, quite honestly, no matter if you like guys or girls or both, you see enough of them every day. It's not like you really increase the temptation. It doesn't really matter if half the people you see every day are somehow "tempting" or every person, if they can resist against one, they can resist against both.

Another Edit: Okay, what I just wrote is hard to understand and I think my brain might have shorted out. What I wanted to say, in short is: If he/she's gonna cheat, then they will find someone to do it with, doesn't matter what gender they are attracted to.

 

[Use_Imagination_here]

I'm quite tired of being told to 'grow up and get a boyfriend', or 'why would you choose to be gay?'

Just thinking about a friend of mine, he has the most fantastic answer to 'Why would you choose to be gay?'. After years of trying to explain the usual 'It isn't a choice. Why are you so against people being happy?' he now simply answers 'It's like a hard mode for life. The enemies are more difficult, but you get loads more exp for it.'. He says it completely deadpan, the first time I heard it I sprayed an entire mouthful of lager out of my nose.

My friend's bi and whenever someone questions him about his sexuality in any way whatsoever he just says "Oh you people and your quaint little categories." Well he says it in finnish.

He tells me he's quoting Torchwood but I wouldn't know.

 

[EclipseoftheDarkSun]

Straight male here. Not bothered, would hope for monogamous relationship though. I think it's pointless to worry about who they slept with. Though I would be intrigued and perhaps a little turned on depending on who they'd slept with.

Generally speaking, I don't see it as any of my business, which is the same reason I support the right of a woman to choose between bearing a child or having an abortion. If I was the father, I'd obviously advocate for keeping the child, were serious health reasons not at stake, but ultimately it'd be her decision.

 

[OManoghue]

I've never dated a bi girl, but I've been with a few. It's the exact same thing as a straight girl, they just got why I liked soft nice smelling girls so much.

 

[DugMachine]

No. My girlfriend is bi and it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

 

[Xarathox]

Yes, yes I could. And have.

As long as they don't use it as a crutch to go out and hook up with others without at the very least telling me, then I have no problem with it. Not really fond of those who use it as an excuse to be carelessly promiscuous.

In other words; a relationship built on trust, communication and compromise is key, no matter the persons sexual orientation.