Could you cheat?

[pulse2]

I'm writing a novel at the moment about a husband lead astray by a mysterious woman who doesn't reveal too much about herself and in good reason too, anywho, part of what makes him cheat is the fact that he is having troubles in his 10 year marriage, they have kids, but he can't find it in himself to tell her its all over, part of the comfort idea I suppose and while he knows its wrong, the only real reason he stays in his current relationship is because of a promise he made to look after her when her father passed away and because of his kids.

Anywho, enough about my novel, lets say you are already married, you thought they were the one, then along comes the most perfect person you have ever met and they are madly in love with you, do you think you would have it in you to potentially cheat in certain circumstances? Or would you divorce and start again? Or would you reject the offer and try to work at your marriage?

I like to think we'd all have the potential to cheat whether we like it or not in certain circumstances, but there are many who would beg to differ.

So yeah, lets discuss. Oh, btw, I seem to be referring to marriage, but this includes regular girlfriend boyfriend relationships as well.

 

[Agayek]

It really depends on the particulars of the situation. If I was in a relationship and then met "the one", I would likely end up pursuing the new girl at the expense of my existing relationship. I don't lie, even when doing so would spare myself or others great pain. I'd simply tell my current girlfriend that I found someone I liked better and proceed.

That said, my word is my bond. If I had promised something, I would see it out, regardless of the cost. As such, if I was married and/or had kids, it's extremely unlikely I would break the arrangement to pursue someone new. Duty trumps happiness, it's just the way I am.

 

[Knife]

I don't see myself ever getting married to and having children with someone who isn't "the one" to begin with. I'd much rather be single for the rest of my life than "compromising" (call me a romantic if you'd like, either that or perfectionist). But lets assume for whatever reason I did "compromise" and married someone who I don't love and don't particularly like either, proceed to have kids with that person and then "the one" comes along. What would I do? Carry on with my miserable life, the kids need both functioning parents and they come first. Thats the obligation you take upon yourself by becoming a parent. But say the kids are old enough that they don't need you anymore (around 18+), then I'd probably try and get a divorce. The thought of cheating alone makes me mad, if I'd go through with it I wouldn't be able to look at myself in the mirror (and I need that for shaving...).

 

[Hungry Donner]

My wife and I have a son, will be celebrating out 8th anniversary in a month, and we've certainly had our rough patches. However I could never cheat on her even if I met someone "perfect." I couldn't see myself considering divorce although this doesn't mean I feel divorce in general should be stigmatized, it's just something I wouldn't want to go through myself (and even in our roughest patches I still loved my wife tremendously).

 

[Hiphophippo]

My wife and I have a son, will be celebrating out 8th anniversary in a month, and we've certainly had our rough patches. However I could never cheat on her even if I met someone "perfect." I couldn't see myself considering divorce although this doesn't mean I feel divorce in general should be stigmatized, it's just something I wouldn't want to go through myself (and even in our roughest patches I still loved my wife tremendously).

Internet high five, bro. I've been together with my wife for almost 8 years as well though we've only been married for 2. We have a daughter. My wife and I have gone through some difficult times and I'd be lying if I said I hadn't considered it, though in the end the idea disgusts me. The effect it would have on my family and daughter should I get caught keep me in check.

That coupled with the fact that I love my wife and I don't want to hurt her. Pretty powerful tools against cheating. But then, I'm a good man. Not everyone is.

 

[manythings]

I dunno. I'm not married, just in a relationship. In all honesty, I could see myself cheating but I think that might just be fear of personal weakness to be lead astray.

After ten years of marriage and a situation where I'm not really a husband but rather a guy who lives with a woman? I think the rush of that secret, sordid relationship could consume me.

 

[thylasos]

It's against my personal moral code, as is being the other party in this particular situation.

If I came across this sort of person whilst in a relationship, I dare say I'd simply make every effort to isolate myself from them, if they didn't take a polite refusal well.

 

[PatSilverFox]

I think I would be more likely to cheat if my marriage were good than if my marriage was breaking apart.

Odd :/

 

[Sarynroth]

I definately wouldn't cheat especially if I had kids. I've seen too many childhoods ruined by parents becoming divorced and I wouldn't want to inflict that on my children as it is my duty to raise them in the best way possible, which this certainly wouldn't be. Also I highly doubt that I would ever be married to anyone who wasn't the one.

 

[JediMB]

I wouldn't cheat. If a relationship isn't working, it needs to be either fixed or ended.

 

[Biodeamon]

I wouldn't cheat. If i really felt that i was in love with another woman i'd drop one and go with the other. but my intrests are kind of particular so there's a very slim chance of that happening

 

[moretwocents]

There are two things I really can't stand in this world: racism and adultery. While I won't go off on a tangent about racism, I will simply share my views on adultery.

In my book, adultery should be a crime punishable with jail time. That's how much I hate it. I couldn't LIVE with myself if I were an adulterer, so I would never commit it.

If this new woman was really the one, I would probably divorce or break up with my significant other before I would cheat on her. It's just an awful, awful thing to do.

 

[BlindMessiah94]

Cheating is just an immature way for people to not deal with their relationship issues. Is it morally wrong? Maybe. Is it childish and stupid? Absolutely.

Would I ever do it? Probably not. I would like to think that if I was in a relationship with someone and I felt more attracted to someone else, that I would at least have the decency to end my relationship first before proceeding with another. I also think it's bad to start off a relationship with someone else by cheating.

I've never cheated by the way. I've also never had a girlfriend, so there you go. Take what I say with a grain of salt I suppose.

 

[Not-here-anymore]

I could never cheat.

Though I could probably stop a relationship and start again elsewhere with someone else. Hell, I pretty much already did, if accidentally (long story)

 

[Sexual Harassment Panda]

I guilt easily, I'm not impulsive, and I'm extremely self-aware and analytical in the moment.

It might be silly to give an absolute answer, but I'm relativly certain I would never cheat. I live my day-to-day life in a manner that allows my head to be a nice space to occupy. I wouldn't trade that for sex.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

I despise cheating with a flaming passion. And the people who argue it's perfectly normal because, after all, we're just animals? Idiots. We are not just animals. Accept it.

 

[Littlee300]

I could never. I am cynical as hell but my actions are nice.
Edit: If I hated whoever I was cheating on I would break up first
If I didn't than I wouldn't be able to do

 

[Nimcha]

I have cheated once, so I suppose I could. I'm not proud of it but at least it made us both realise we didn't have a good relationship. Weak excuse, I know. It would've been better if I had confronted those issues head on.

Then again, we're still friends to this day so I suppose it wasn't all bad.