Could You Date A Transexual?

[BloatedGuppy]

What you've described there is pretty much what the paragon of a poor transition looks like. The jaw and face are taken care of by a combination of Hormones and Facial Feminization Surgery, body hair is usually taken off by laser treatment or electrolysis, and the shoulders are taken care of surgically or hormonally(depending on the age during transition). Hand size is genetic, so if you've got big hands, you're unfortunately kinda stuck with them (I got lucky in this department though). Now I'm going to set the record straight: the average Transwoman is nowhere near what you've described. Maybe 20, 30 years ago it wold be true, but not today.

A lot depends on when you transition and how much money you put into that transition. Girls who transition in their early or late teens and can afford facial feminization (or who have naturally feminine features to begin with) can make completely convincing women. Girls who transition in their 30's or 40's once they've developed a complete set of masculine secondary sexual characteristics are going to make stocky, masculine looking women. And due to a persistent bigotry towards transsexuals (it's still very much "acceptable" to openly discriminate against them, even in the LBG community) a lot of people will put that transition off for a great many years. I don't even know why I'm telling you this, though, I feel like I'm getting into a bible quoting competition with the Pope.

It'd be nice if we just a pill that you could scarf down that would let you seamlessly transition to your gender of choice, but we don't, so c'est la vie. While we're at it, it's a shame that I am not Iron Man, and that I don't have a billion dollars.

 

[BrainWalker]

And in this thread, we learn why life is difficult for transgender people.

Personally, I have to say that it would be a bit weird, and it would be an issue we would have to deal with, but if there's genuine attraction and affection there, it doesn't need to be a stumbling block. Relationships consist of people, and people are different, and there are always going to be issues that need resolution. Love is a pretty powerful tool for that.

I think it's a bit weird how adamant people are to not allow other people to define their own identity when gender is involved. Gender identity isn't as rigid as people at large seem to want it to be, and even biological sex is not binary. Just look at all the various intersex conditions that exist.

 

[Souplex]

Women are crazy, so if there were someone who fit my other dating criteria with a man's mind, and a woman's parts, I think I'd be all over that.

 

[ShadowKatt]

Assuming I wasn't with anyone already, I would. I would in a heartbeat. I really couldn't care less if they were trans or not.

 

[Jezzascmezza]

I don't know- I don't think I would.
Hate to sound like a prude, but I'd just kind of feel a little uncomfortable I think.

 

[Johnny Novgorod]

No. I'm boring and predictable that way.

 

[sethisjimmy]

Yep. I don't give a fuck.

Bailey Jay. 'Nuff said.

 

[josh4president]

No, because I'm fairly certain my wife would not approve.

 

[Something Amyss]

Don't be a douche about it, though, and mess all over yourself and each other to try to 'justify' it.

Marry me. <3

True but it's not something I'd enjoy sexually. Still, that said would like to have a child one day[footnote]Some distant mystical future[/footnote].

Why wouldn't you enjoy it, out of curiosity?

I think doctors are irresponsible for even offering such a service, demand or not.

Yeah, how horrible of doctors to offer to treat an actual medical phenomena because your prejudices don't accept it.

Personally, I find it irresponsible of teachers to tell kids the Earth is (roughly) round, when I believe it is a flat square held aloft by four alicorns.

This has actually been on my mind of late as someone I know is planning the operation and I find him very attractive as a man, even more so when he "ladies" it up, and have been considering trying for some dates or whatever.

I bet "he" will really enjoy that statement.

Try it. I bet it scores you some serious points. :|

Girls who transition in their 30's or 40's once they've developed a complete set of masculine secondary sexual characteristics are going to make stocky, masculine looking women.

Aaaaand you could describe a lot of "real" women that way.

And in this thread, we learn why life is difficult for transgender people.

All in all, I'd say dating is pretty low on the list. In most states you can be denied jobs, loans, and a lot of your rights. People still look the other way when a transsexual is attacked or raped. Half of transsexuals will attempt suicide, and half will be dead by thirty (through their own hands or others).

 

[an annoyed writer]

even if i could be initially fooled into being in a relationship

....I'm not even completely sure what to say here.

medically speaking, YOU ARE A MALE

Please don't besmirch medicine to try and defend your feelings on the matter. Medically speaking, a MTF transsexual is not male. I'm not saying you have to want to date or even like transsexuals, but don't hide behind "medicine" to cover YOUR issues with it. That's akin to saying "scientifically speaking, the negro is an inferior species" to explain why you'd never date a black person.

You can't just slap "science!" on your phobias, sorry.

Agreed about what Amaranth said about science. The lack of knowledge about the subject here is depressing. Most medical practitioners offer the service because it is kinda proven that the chromosomes don't make the man or woman, it's the hormone wash during fetal development. The brain forms a sexual blueprint then, and if that blueprint is different than the body, then people like us happen. Our brain chemistry is generally a match to the target sex, rather than to our origin.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

Aaaaand you could describe a lot of "real" women that way.

True enough, but I doubt they're delighted with their figures either. All transsexuals may not aspire to be beautiful women, but I rather expect they all aspire to be convincing women. If nothing else it makes their lives a hell of a lot easier.

 

[Twitchy Wyche]

I can't really think of any reason why I wouldn't have done so anytime before I found the love of my life. He even told me he would have been very willing to be with a Transexual; that he doesn't care what someone's body is like. Although he's very, very Bisexual, so I'm sure that contributed to it.

 

[Hectix777]

It'd be hard to deal with at first, but I always try to live by the philosophy of seeing people not to be judged but to be loved. Who you were has no sway on me in the sense of who you are now. If you were a man that became a woman, congratulations it must have been tough. If it was kept under wraps from me for awhile if we were dating that would being up more of a trust issue than a question on my sexuality. So yeah, I've got no problem with it, I've even had a crush on someone that had changed (the change occurred before I had a crush, she was a woman at that point). Everyone is beautiful to me, so I have nothing preventing that sort of relationship.

 

[BrainWalker]

And in this thread, we learn why life is difficult for transgender people.

All in all, I'd say dating is pretty low on the list. In most states you can be denied jobs, loans, and a lot of your rights. People still look the other way when a transsexual is attacked or raped. Half of transsexuals will attempt suicide, and half will be dead by thirty (through their own hands or others).

Well I wasn't speaking of dating specifically, although humans are social by nature and I wouldn't diminish the psychological stress of having such difficulty finding meaningful romantic partnerships. I was talking more about perception. "I don't care who you think you are, I know better," and taken to its extreme, "How dare you deceive me!?" is at the heart of this thread, and all the issues you raised.

 

[Mad Artillery]

I wouldn't see it as a problem so yes. She would be a she now and certainly a strong women to be brave enough to go through with it.

 

[an annoyed writer]

Yep. I don't give a fuck.

Bailey Jay. 'Nuff said.

I recognize that name. generally attractive Pornstar, if I remember correctly. She's generally a pretty good example of what us younger transwomen look like, or are aiming to look like.

 

[Zen Toombs]

Could You Date A Transexual?
Not cross dressing, because that's fun no matter who you are, but an physically/medically changed person.

But rather a full 'the person went under the knife and had a bridge built or a hole dug' (I'm sure there's a better way at putting it, but I'm not that smart) type of person?
-This question brought to you by me reading the current "Questionable Content" story arc.-

Woo, another QC reader!

On Topic: It depends. For one, regardless of any other factors I would need to find them at least somewhat physically attractive. Because of my personal tastes, I'm far more likely to be attracted to a transguy as opposed to a transgirl, but I am not inherently opposed. Both of these things would also apply to transgendered peoples.

 

[shrekfan246]

Yep. I don't give a fuck.

Bailey Jay. 'Nuff said.

Shet, I got ninja'd? On this topic of all things?

But yeah.

Spoiler: When they look like this

I don't see what the problem is.

 

[D Moness]

-This question brought to you by me reading the current "Questionable Content" story arc.

Interesting arc to say the least. Just hope he doesn't screw it up.

As for your question. If we are attracted to each other then yes.
Without attraction there is not really any use for dating, being friends sure but dating nope.