Could You Date A Transexual?
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I don't really think I could. I wouldn't be able to get past the mentality of her being originally a male. I feel bad that I can't get past the physical, but I am about as straight as you can get really.
Don't get me wrong, I do support the transgender community. If you feel you aren't in "the right body" (so to speak), then there should be anything stopping you from changing...Well money could be an issue (surgery isn't free after all), but that is beside the point.
I guess it is just a mental barrier and maybe I could get past it someday, but right now, I don't think I could.
Don't get me wrong, I do support the transgender community. If you feel you aren't in "the right body" (so to speak), then there should be anything stopping you from changing...Well money could be an issue (surgery isn't free after all), but that is beside the point.
I guess it is just a mental barrier and maybe I could get past it someday, but right now, I don't think I could.
Yes, I would. That kinda thing doesn't bother me.
There's not much more I can say about it.
I don't see the problem.
There's not much more I can say about it.
I don't see the problem.
So you know, more the point of transgendered is "mind and parts don't match".[footnote]That is, a man in the body of a girl or a woman in the body of a boy[/footnote] Transexual means that "mind and body now match, but both are different from birth sex".[footnote]A person born with a penis had a girls brain and now has a girls body, for example[/footnote] To say that a person "has a man's mind and a woman's parts" would more accurately refer to a transgendered male.Souplex said:
[HEADING=3]Side note about terminology:[/HEADING]
1) transgendered VS transsexual - difference between mind and parts VS surgery to make the mind and parts match
2) trans[X] guy/male VS trans[X] girl/female - in all cases, you are supposed to use the individuals preferred gender. A male mind in a girls body is a transgendered guy, a person born a guy who had surgery to become a girl is a transexual girl.
3) trans[X] vs non-trans[X] - this is more a side note about a side note, but it is a bit mean/insensitive to call people who aren't trans "normal".[footnote]For clarification, that is because it implies that a trans person is not normal[/footnote] The terminology for a male born with a mans parts is "cis male"/"cis guy" and for a girl with girl parts is "cis girl" or "cis female".
3.5) I dunno what "cis" refers to specifically.
I'd like to think I'm open minded, but I wouldn't know unless I was in that scenario.
There are a few problems however.
1, If I was aware of their transition, I'm not confident I would see past that. Again, I'd like to think I'm open minded, but I have had no experience engaging with a transsexual (that I'm aware of) and can't say how I would react to that knowledge.
2, I'd prefer to know in advance... this is pretty much a catch 22 for the individual I'm courting. If they don't tell me right away this could create a problem in the future if we are still together. But if they did tell me we would be back to the first problem. One could say I could be kept in complete ignorance of the fact, but there are a few scenarios where the truth can slip. Dealing with their family and planning a family as examples. This would create a double whammy effect (betrayal of trust and coming to terms with that bomb of a revelation) and I'd seriously question the viability of a relationship in that situation.
Finally, I have a slight issue with surgical modification. It's mostly irrational, but I can't shake it... I have a strong preference for naturals. This isn't just against transgendered individuals, but everyone. Heck, it doesn't even have to be surgical, I find a lot of cosmetic "improvements" towards women off putting. Hair dye (within reason), Nail Varnish and fake nails (I just think it looks tacky), Eye Liner (its face painting), Shaved pits and pubic regions... It's weird that we are living in a world where attraction to a completely natural form is considered fetishistic.
I'm NOT totally intolerant to these things, but to the extend and frequency that most girls I know use them, I have issues. It betrays more self confidence issues then it hides superficial flaws.
In short I have a strong preference for Au Naturales.
There are a few problems however.
1, If I was aware of their transition, I'm not confident I would see past that. Again, I'd like to think I'm open minded, but I have had no experience engaging with a transsexual (that I'm aware of) and can't say how I would react to that knowledge.
2, I'd prefer to know in advance... this is pretty much a catch 22 for the individual I'm courting. If they don't tell me right away this could create a problem in the future if we are still together. But if they did tell me we would be back to the first problem. One could say I could be kept in complete ignorance of the fact, but there are a few scenarios where the truth can slip. Dealing with their family and planning a family as examples. This would create a double whammy effect (betrayal of trust and coming to terms with that bomb of a revelation) and I'd seriously question the viability of a relationship in that situation.
Finally, I have a slight issue with surgical modification. It's mostly irrational, but I can't shake it... I have a strong preference for naturals. This isn't just against transgendered individuals, but everyone. Heck, it doesn't even have to be surgical, I find a lot of cosmetic "improvements" towards women off putting. Hair dye (within reason), Nail Varnish and fake nails (I just think it looks tacky), Eye Liner (its face painting), Shaved pits and pubic regions... It's weird that we are living in a world where attraction to a completely natural form is considered fetishistic.
I'm NOT totally intolerant to these things, but to the extend and frequency that most girls I know use them, I have issues. It betrays more self confidence issues then it hides superficial flaws.
In short I have a strong preference for Au Naturales.
Could I date a transsexual? Yeah.
Though most likely I may not end up dating at all at this rate.
I would add more content to this post but I am too busy marveling at all the bizarre rules people are putting up in relation to transsexuals. The whole "would like to know beforehand" thing bothers me because quite literally they are whatever they identify as anyway. Seems unnecessarily discriminatory.
Another troublesome thing is how people compare the act of dating another human along the same lines of some sort of fictional pornography.
Though most likely I may not end up dating at all at this rate.
I would add more content to this post but I am too busy marveling at all the bizarre rules people are putting up in relation to transsexuals. The whole "would like to know beforehand" thing bothers me because quite literally they are whatever they identify as anyway. Seems unnecessarily discriminatory.
Another troublesome thing is how people compare the act of dating another human along the same lines of some sort of fictional pornography.
You know, it doesn't mean because I enjoy Futanari Hentai comics, I will enjoy this in real life.
Seriously now, nope, I will never do something like that. Reason? Because I know deep inside me......want his penis deep inside me......
Seriously now, nope, I will never do something like that. Reason? Because I know deep inside me......want his penis deep inside me......
As long as I am attracted to them, I don't see a problem. Men are easier to get along with; but I worry that the crazy amount of hormones required to make the switch would fuck with her newly acquired female brain. Then I'd be back to square one regarding whether or not I want to put up with this person.
Its funny you should mention Questionable Content because it really shows the lack of severity the question actually poses. Martin and Clare are just going on a date for a wedding. He is bringing his friend along as a formality and for company and it doesn't need to be anything more then that. Not wanting to be in a relationship or have sex with someone who is one thing, but if you are just plain embarrassed to be seen with them then you aren't being very good friend. It makes me wonder how many people's answers would change if they considered the question like that, a "friends" date if you will.Tanis said:
Hmm, well it would take longer to form a relationship and I'd have to be really really sure I was into her before I... Would let myself get into her. Also the surgery would have to be really good because overly masculine women are not at all appealing to me.
Absolutely! I am Pansexual, and MtF... I would have ZERO problem dating a trans girl (MAYBE a trans guy, but i am more into female types).
I won't get into the misinformed statements, as I am not the argumentative type anymore.
let me add one note... Gender Dysphoria is no longer considered a mental illness (because it's NOT), it's a physical deformity.
I won't get into the misinformed statements, as I am not the argumentative type anymore.
let me add one note... Gender Dysphoria is no longer considered a mental illness (because it's NOT), it's a physical deformity.
Of course its not bad. By the way she acted she has never had the chance to wear a formal dress before, so this is basically a belated prom night for her. Even though I saw Claire being the date coming I still got all giddy when reading this comic.D Moness said:
I'd be perfectly fine with FtM, MtF, genderqueer or any variation thereof, in the hypothetical case I'd ever want a relationship in the first place. I would be more concerned, however, with how easily I could offend them by saying the wrong thing (I'm a bit of a moron in that regard).
