Could You Date A Transexual?

[Little Gray]

Except unless you've had sex with a lot of transsexuals, you didn't state an opinion.

You didn't say "I think it would feel extremely weird and different and don't think it would really be the same' (psst: this would have been an opinion)

You said "It feels extremely weird and different and it's really not the same.' (psst: this would be a fact if you've had sex with a lot of transsexuals)

You tried to say a statement of fact, you were called out on it, and now you're just having your hissy fit.

I said "It feels extremely weird and different and it's really not the same." because thats how it feels to me.

Since we were talking about a 100% subjective subject I didnt think I needed to add in the extremely obvious point that this was how I feel. Especially since I was talking about my own personal experiences which should have made it even more extremely obvious.

 

[MgalekgoloHunter]

I was developing a crush on a pre-op MtF friend a while back before I learned she was a lesbian, so I'd say the fact that I'm straight doesn't seem to get in the way of being attracted to a girl who just happens to be in a male (-ish, she was pretty androgynous) body.

 

[MgalekgoloHunter]

*double posted for some reason*

 

[vallorn]

Yes. Being fully Bisexual as I am and in a relationship with another guy where we both sometimes crossdress I have no doubt at all in my head that I can find transexuals appealing physically and from meeting with some in the past I know that I enjoy their company emotionally and mentally.

So yeah, there's no barriers in my head to being in a relationship with a transexual of any stripe, M2F or F2M (Although I will admit a slight extra attraction to pre op M2F)

 

[ImSkeletor]

Thinking about it makes me want to projectile vomit. So no.

 

[xmbts]

It's been a while since I've seen this much bile all in one thread, congrats.

And I would.

 

[Fisher321]

Yea definitely not. If you ask me there is something messed up in their head as to why they decided to change sex. If God wanted them to be a female he would've done it.

 

[xmbts]

Yea definitely not. If you ask me there is something messed up in their head as to why they decided to change sex. If God wanted them to be a female he would've done it.

You know, surprisingly people can succumb to all sorts of depression when perfect strangers insist that they are mentally sick based on absolutely nothing.

 

[The Lugz]

Speaking of nut jobs, here's this.

Thanks for calling all trans folk delusional crazies with "issues." I mean, really, painting an entire group of people as fit only to wear a straight jacket is in itself insane. You don't know us. You know nothing of our experiences. So why not lay off with your judgmental bs. I could write pages worth of what exactly wrong with your ridiculous attacks, but I wouldn't waste the effort on you.

And before anyone says anything. I'm not going after anyone for not being attracted to people who are trans. That's fine. But this kind of irrational hatred is what's the problem.

you are sifting through a forum topic that is asking a question that is quite likely to annoy you
if other people's perspective hurts you i suggest avoiding it
i'm not trying to tell you how to live your life i was answering a question on a forum about a "hypothetical situation"
it isn't hate or a 'ridiculous attack' for me to post my opinion in answer to a question on a forum
you're taking my comment as a personal insult, and not as a direct answer to the question that it was
intended to answer ie 'out of context'
and you're paraphrasing to justify an argument, that simply isn't what i said.

my answer is no, for me it is valid you cant change my mind and calling it bullshit that
only invites argument on a topic that clearly bothers you and is poor netiquette at best

that would be the equivalent of me posting on a forum on a trans group website telling you
'you don't understand straight people, leave us alone omgz!!11'
i cant imagine a single good outcome to that.

but contrary to your opinion, in the real, non hypothetical world i'm actually quite tolerant
of people and what they want to do as-long as they don't shove it in my face or attempt to manipulate me with it
so i'm happy to point out errors in your logic rather than start some nonsense flame war

 

[The Lugz]

I'm not taking your comments as a personal insult. I'm taking it as the spewing of ignorant nonsense masked as merely stating your personal opinion of whether you would date a trans person.

well, i'm sorry you see it that way in my opinion that is paranoia but we've already established that you are not a fan of my opinions if it makes you feel any better i have taged my original post with spoilers to help prevent other people from being offended

you are quite right, i do not understand trans people. i am not one and haven't done research into it
instead of attacking people who don't know better you could make a topic covering what your life values are
and encourage some understanding and mutual respect
the question is posted on a regular off-topic board so you really can't complain when the uninitiated post here

 

[AgDr_ODST]

I could never date a transsexual...even if he looked entirely entirely female from head to toe down to the reproductive organs.

 

[Abomination]

Nope. While I'd consider them female, I simply have no attraction to the male appearance.

So in one case, the problem is the genetics rather than appearance, and in the other it's the appearence regardless of genetics?
Why is that?

I don't want to get into an argument here, because I don't really know what I'm talking about (I've never met a transsexual that I know of, nor have I dated), I just don't understand your logic.

A trans is someone who is either a male attempting to become a female or a female attempting to become a male. As a heterosexual I take umbridge to the inclusion of male features in a potential sexual partner.

Pretty much both present an issue... though if I was forced to choose one or the other I would go for a F->M. But it would be under duress.

 

[randomrob]

I could and would date anyone I was attracted to if they agreed to do so. The mind is more important than the body.

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

I've dated a transgender... pretty certain I could date a transsexual, too.

Unless you mean could I as in could I actually get one. I'm pretty unremarkable myself. I'm about 99% certain my willingness to enter the relationship is an infinitely small part of actually having the relationship. *sigh*

 

[Tsun Tzu]

I'm not sure I'd be able to do it.

Frankly, sex is already a bit on the "This is a disgusting concept, but whatever, let's do it" side of things for me as is. Throw in genitalia that's been manipulated by surgeons and imperfect gender swapping and, well, it's probably just too much for me.

Not that I have a problem with folks who decide to go that route. It's their lives and all. I just, personally, wouldn't want to engage in a relationship, beyond friendship, with a transsexual.


By the same token, I'm weirdly curious about complete gender shifts, ala Anime/Sci-Fi. It'd be kind of cool to be a chick for a week.

 

[x EvilErmine x]

Nope, couldn't do it. I want to have children with the person I settle down with. Couldn't[footnote]I know theres always adoption but that's not what i mean by wanting children[/footnote] do that if that person was once a dude.