Dating Issue

[Puppeteer Putin]

Considering that you've only known her for four days, I would have to say to wait on it. Get to know her a little more before you make a decision like that, she might find it odd/creepy if you ask her out so soon.

Bullshit. She might find it odd/creepy if she's 12 years old. If you meet a girl on the street or in a pub/coffe shop, you ask her out after a few minutes of conversation.

Don't wait. You're interested in her romanticaly, the sooner you let her know about it, the less likely you are to hear something like "I don't want to ruin our friendship" or other crap.
Also a party is a good option, but only if she knows someone there. Otherwise it can go really awkward, trust me on that.

Agreed. Things can go SERIOUSLY pear shaped at a party but then can also go insanely well. There's no median at parties, it's one of the other.

And for the love of your chosen Messiah STOP ASKING FOR DATING ADVISE ON FORUMS! Crying out LOUD. It's not gaming or "off-topic" discussion, it's a reason for idiots to get their post count up with comments like "go for it" or "don't be silly". Freaks sake, how many are you responses is the OP of the thread ACTUALLY going to read? It's all generic rubbish you could ask from ANY of your friends. There's no "dating guru", there's no "One way to rule them all", trust your instincts and go for it.

Right. Needed to get that out of my system.

 

[thedelightfulme]

Its not so much an issue as much as a question but well see im trying to ask out this girl who ive known for like 4days she doesnt go to my school and we've been talking and everyone and know and thats been around this girl with says she definetly likes me and im going to this party on Saturday. Well im wondering should i ask her out then and there or wait a week or couple days?

I had a similiar thing with a girl i knew.
She said no.
So i still hung out, was cool, thought hey, i'll try again.
Asked her again. She said no.
Meh, i'll live.

This went on for 4 years.

In that time, i was on first name terms with her mum and stepdad.
her brother considers me a bestfriend.

Long story short, im now engaged to her.

If she says no, dont runaway, just be a friend, and hang out, and when you feel ready, ask again.
Simple.
Its what i did. lol

 

[NotAPie]

Tell us how it goes buddy!
Just ask her at the party like in the middle of a conversation I guess :3

 

[The Infamous Scamola]

Why would you want to wait if you already know she likes you?

 

[Evil the White]

Its not so much an issue as much as a question but well see im trying to ask out this girl who ive known for like 4days she doesnt go to my school and we've been talking and everyone and know and thats been around this girl with says she definetly likes me and im going to this party on Saturday. Well im wondering should i ask her out then and there or wait a week or couple days?

I had a similiar thing with a girl i knew.
She said no.
So i still hung out, was cool, thought hey, i'll try again.
Asked her again. She said no.
Meh, i'll live.

This went on for 4 years.

In that time, i was on first name terms with her mum and stepdad.
her brother considers me a bestfriend.

Long story short, im now engaged to her.

If she says no, dont runaway, just be a friend, and hang out, and when you feel ready, ask again.
Simple.
Its what i did. lol

Heh. Last time I tried that her boyfriend that she suddenly pulled out of a hole took an instant dislike to me. Probably because she liked me more than him and I was nicer to her

But he broke his leg and she kinda got addicted to him and cant bear to be without him. Even after splitting and reforming several times, plus her cheating. And he keeps whining about how he can't really commit because of trust.

 

[tk1989]

Dude, dont ask her out per se, maybe ask her if she wants to do something? I dunno, movie? Coffee? Meh. You havent known her very long, and because she doesnt go to ur school you wont know if you will see her enough etc.

Maybe im overcomplicating it.. You are only 14 lol. I would say see what happens at this 'party'; maybe some drunken shenanigans will take place? haha

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Do it, if only to bask in the horrifying gloom of rejection afterward.

 

[Baby Tea]

You are only 14

This is what I'm thinking.
Who cares? You've known her for 4 days. I know when you're 14 it may seem like forever because you've talked about the important stuff (Music, movies, and how much 'skool teh sux'), but in reality it's not. It isn't going to be some psychological blow if she says no, you barely know her. So ask her.

If she says yes, there you go.
If she says 'no', then shrug it off and have fun at the party with your friends.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

And he keeps whining about how he can't really commit because of trust.

Protip: anybody that whines about being unable to kill themselves is just whoring for attention and sympathy.

If I want to kill myself badly enough to actually do it, then dammit, I'll make a Rube Goldberg machine that makes a wreath of my innards and stretches them over a crowded freeway.

Trust me on this: if you really want to die, you'll find a way to make it happen.

 

[Sheinen]

Asking a girl out can be the most nerve shatteringly painful experience whether she agrees or not.

The trick is to just do it - despite popular belief our ladylike counterparts aren't that obsessed with commitment and it's rarely a good plan to lay stake to her, so to speak.

A common mistake I made as a kid was asking a girl if she'd go out with me and never intend to actually take her out anywhere - it was like 'we're going out' was a statement rather than a fact. Actually try asking her somewhere, to a movie or coffee/hot chocolate and let it fall into place!

 

[Sheinen]

You are only 14

This is what I'm thinking.
Who cares? You've known her for 4 days. I know when you're 14 it may seem like forever because you've talked about the important stuff (Music, movies, and how much 'skool teh sux'), but in reality it's not. It isn't going to be some psychological blow if she says no, you barely know her. So ask her.

If she says yes, there you go.
If she says 'no', then shrug it off and have fun at the party with your friends.

These are the events that shape a mans life, you have to take things too seriously to get a good perspective on them later. Stop cock blocking the kid and give him a hand!

 

[Baby Tea]

These are the events that shape a mans life, you have to take things too seriously to get a good perspective on them later. Stop cock blocking the kid and give him a hand!

Relationships at 14 don't shape a man's life. If they do, that's a pretty sad life. Every relationship I had before I was 18 (Even a few afterward) was pointless and silly.
Looking back, I wonder why I cared so much about something so stupid.

There is plenty of time for girls, contrary to popular media.
Save the worry and concern for things that actually matter. And I'll give you a hint: It's not middle-school crushes.

 

[Nmil-ek]

Just ask her, its not creepy after 4 days if your not after anything serious just a "hey want to go for a xx later?" or "Hi I know its sudden but i think you look good want to go out at somepoint?". Your 14 its probably hormones anyway go with it worse that happens is she says no or no thanks you get up dust off and move on with more experiance.

 

[dwightsteel]

Considering that you've only known her for four days, I would have to say to wait on it. Get to know her a little more before you make a decision like that, she might find it odd/creepy if you ask her out so soon.

Lordy, the boy isn't trying to boink her yet, and he certainly isn't asking her to marry him. Most guys go about proposing the date idea in the first encounter.

Ask her to go to the party with you. If she "definitely" likes you, then just ask her out. You only need to be nervous when first kiss time comes around.

You've got a point. I figured my advice probably wouldn't stand, seeing as how I can't speak from experience or anything.

It seems like everybody complicates the whole love/dating issue. I used to do the same thing. A date is nothing more then one person getting to know another in a setting that you choose. Going on the date is easy. It's the whole being on the date and fighting off your nervousness and killing those inevitable awkward silences that makes it difficult.

 

[Sheinen]

So you can honestly say that without the lessons you learned through early experimentation with relationships you would still have the exact same, rational and reasonable reactions to them now?

Not doing this stuff can seriously mess people up when they get in to later life, I have a 24 year old friend who's never been kissed, not because he's rank, but because he never developed the bottle to learn how to talk to girls.