Dealing with sadness
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When I'm sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead.
True story.
Joking aside, the best thing to do when your sad, is to do something that makes you happy, or at least something that takes your mind off of things.
Whatever happens, happens.
True story.
Joking aside, the best thing to do when your sad, is to do something that makes you happy, or at least something that takes your mind off of things.
Whatever happens, happens.
Stop dwelling on it... No matter how hard or sad the problem. No matter how long it takes, just accept it and move on with your life. Time can heal almost any wound*...
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Depends on what the pain/sadness is. Usually doing something that makes you happy works. Especially if it's a short-term/single disappointment. If it's a relationship-related thing like a breakup, in my experience it seems like it's kinda like getting a cold: No real cure. You just muddle through the unpleasant bits and eventually you feel better. Doing things you enjoy is fine, and it does tend to help. Although I suppose there is something to be said for making sure you're not using the things you enjoy to distract you as opposed to using them to help you move along. Distracting will likely only mean facing the sadness at a worse time, like when you can't use those positive things when you need them. Using them to help means you've thought it over and somewhat worked through it but you could use what makes you happy to help...."keep you afloat" so to speak so you can work through the issue completely and come out the other side a bit older and wiser.
Mostly this.Jonluw said:
When I am sad, it's generally because of something major. I'm not really the kind of person who gets upset at the small things. So if something hits me hard enough to make me sad, I just want to be sad about it for a while (unless the option comes up to fix it). I throw some sad music on, and I cry for a week, or a month, or whatever.
I just go on with my life. That sounds a bit harsh, but that's the easiest way to deal with being down. You go and hang out with friends, do somethin' you love, anythin' where you aren't thinkin' about how sad you are and suddenly, just like that, you aren't sad.
Though, it can backfire if you completely try to be numb through things. Everything will build up and you will have a severe emotional break down (At least, I do) so it's best to talk about it sometimes if you get too overwhelmed.
Though, it can backfire if you completely try to be numb through things. Everything will build up and you will have a severe emotional break down (At least, I do) so it's best to talk about it sometimes if you get too overwhelmed.
Try to get some exercises. It is always a good way to get some of the sadness out of your mind. Do something you really enjoy, I find this to be the best tip. Whenever I feel the familiar depressing thoughts invade my mind with all it´s pain, sorrow and sadness I always try to walk in the woods and listen to Kitaro.
I know how hard it is to listen to tips during the sad time, but don´t do what I tend to do when I get too sick of the sadness and compress it to something small which you hide in your soul/heart. It will someday come back and destroy you even more.
I know how hard it is to listen to tips during the sad time, but don´t do what I tend to do when I get too sick of the sadness and compress it to something small which you hide in your soul/heart. It will someday come back and destroy you even more.
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Well everybody works differently and you'll have to find your own thing, I say this because I just went through something myself, more specifically my grandmother's death, but I found it interesting that everybody reacted differently, though most were crying they were all crying for different reasons, some because they would never see her again, some because of failed promises and in a particular case, just regret that she never told her that she loved her.
I myself am not sad at all, mostly because my reaction to the news was to have a flashback of everything we ever did together, and after that I just felt happy that I got to know her and that we shared so many experiences, as I said everybody reacts differently and you're going to have to find you're own thing, most people were trying to cope with it by being as helpful as possible, some just got as drunk as possible and some just spent the whole day crying, just do whatever feels natural to you, maybe you need to get drunk, maybe you need to help, maybe you just need to be alone, maybe you need to play or maybe you just need to be sad for a while.
I myself am not sad at all, mostly because my reaction to the news was to have a flashback of everything we ever did together, and after that I just felt happy that I got to know her and that we shared so many experiences, as I said everybody reacts differently and you're going to have to find you're own thing, most people were trying to cope with it by being as helpful as possible, some just got as drunk as possible and some just spent the whole day crying, just do whatever feels natural to you, maybe you need to get drunk, maybe you need to help, maybe you just need to be alone, maybe you need to play or maybe you just need to be sad for a while.
David Wong wrote this really great article about being sad/hurt that helped me through some really hard times in my life. The most important thing is that life changes. It can always get WAY better or it can always get WAY worse. Instead of focusing on the shitty spot you're in right now, you may as well just trudge through it and hope your next turn takes you someplace great.
http://www.cracked.com/article_15658_the-ten-minute-suicide-guide.html
You never said you were thinking of suicide, but the above link is helpful regardless.
http://www.cracked.com/article_15658_the-ten-minute-suicide-guide.html
You never said you were thinking of suicide, but the above link is helpful regardless.
It is kind of hard for me to say to be honest people have thanked me for this advice and dismissed it as useless and i admit it does sound kind of cold and not knowing you I find the latter to be more likely.
Simply put it does not fucking matter i am not going to give you the "mountains and valleys" bullshit some time life does have it ups and downs but sometimes all it has are downs it may not get better but you can always learn to deal with it and yes I do mean always I know happy people who make next to nothing, I was happy once even though I had next to nothing it is hard to say how I did this but in time I can to the realization that nothing was set in stone and that even if it was it did not matter, let what is imperfect in your life remain imperfect even enjoy it's imperfection it likely started to fade into a state of disrepair because you held something in a higher regard and even if that failed it still does not matter because at least you learned something even if it is how to fail.
Simply put it does not fucking matter i am not going to give you the "mountains and valleys" bullshit some time life does have it ups and downs but sometimes all it has are downs it may not get better but you can always learn to deal with it and yes I do mean always I know happy people who make next to nothing, I was happy once even though I had next to nothing it is hard to say how I did this but in time I can to the realization that nothing was set in stone and that even if it was it did not matter, let what is imperfect in your life remain imperfect even enjoy it's imperfection it likely started to fade into a state of disrepair because you held something in a higher regard and even if that failed it still does not matter because at least you learned something even if it is how to fail.
There is a silver lining to every cloud even if you think things couldn't be any worse, they could. In my life when I was sad I looked for the best out of the situation. An example is when my dog (that I loved and she was considered family) past away I was very sad but I looked back on all the good times with her and I wasn't so sad. She was in a lot of pain and couldn't even walk so at least now she doesn't have to suffer any more. All I'm trying to say is that there is a way to look at the glass as half full and not half empty.
