Dealing with self-loathing

[Chubb Secure]

Everyone, and I mean everyone, feels insecure about themselves at some point in their lives. I used to be in your situation, having a great life and still hating myself. As I got older, I just said "Fuck what anyone else thinks, I love myself, and that's all that matters". Once I had this revelation, I realized that people don't think little of me, it was all in my head. All the self-hating was for nothing, and I realized I was a good person.

Life's too short too worry about this stuff. As long as YOU are happy with yourself, other people will feel the same.

stop being a pu**y and get over it we all have problems and feel like everything is wrong but we all deal with it alone and in silence now push it back down inside u and go have a drink

Well...that is the worst advice I've ever heard. Congratulations.

i can think of worse like maybe suicide it would solve all your problems, now thats bad advice...take notes people from a proffesional

 

[dmase]

I hate myself sometimes because of things i've done in the past. Just stupid things that other people will have forgotten or don't care about. Of course the strange thing is its people that i no longer talk to, not even because of the thing i've done or said. My real friends that i talk to recently if i say or do something stupid they don't care and i know that. So i just yell at myself in the head get over it, no one was hurt and if they where it wasn't enough that you should be thinking about it a year or more later.

Anyways you don't need a psychiatrist you need a bottle of jack. Go home and take 45 mL orally repeatedly 10-15 time over a 3 hour time frame. After you get used to the euphoria and talking to new people while drunk you'll be able to do it sober. People go to psychiatrists for things that amount to introvertedness, what you need is a good friend to get you into meeting new people, solve problems by yourself or with good friends.

 

[Chubb Secure]

I hate myself sometimes because of things i've done in the past. Just stupid things that other people will have forgotten or don't care about. Of course the strange thing is its people that i no longer talk to, not even because of the thing i've done or said. My real friends that i talk to recently if i say or do something stupid they don't care and i know that. So i just yell at myself in the head get over it, no one was hurt and if they where it wasn't enough that you should be thinking about it a year or more later.

Anyways you don't need a psychiatrist you need a bottle of jack. Go home and take 45 mL orally repeatedly 10-15 time over a 3 hour time frame. After you get used to the euphoria and talking to new people while drunk you'll be able to do it sober. People go to psychiatrists for things that amount to introvertedness, what you need is a good friend to get you into meeting new people, solve problems by yourself or with good friends.

yah you sound a bit like me i always have a heavy conscience and i cat stop thinking about things that happend 5-10 years ago

its really annoying

 

[Phlakes]

Get up, go into the bathroom, look at yourself in the mirror, and tell yourself that life is too short not to enjoy it.

EDIT: Then go to a bar/party with friends as soon as you get the chance.

EDIT 2: And pick someone up if you're single.

 

[RaphaelsRedemption]

Until you can deal with self issues with the help of a professional, I would suggest doing something to take your mind off yourself. Someone earlier suggested volunteer work. This is awesome. Doing some thing rewarding, for no other reason than because it's worthwhile, especially if its physical, is helpful.

Sometimes all you need is to focus on something other than you. And then, when you do think about you again, you can remind yourself of the worthwhile stuff you've done.

 

[Not-here-anymore]

I used to hate myself so much that I'd punch myself hard in the face every morning. I'm missing a bit of a tooth because of that.

However, the best way to deal with it is when you hear those doubting voices, just look yourself in the mirror, and say "No, fuck you, I can do this".

Basically, this (not the punching yourself in the face bit though...)

Find something you're good at, do that, remember how you felt whilst doing it, and carry over that feeling into the rest of your life. Although overdoing it can lead to a brief period of arrogance - try to avoid that.
Also, a slight change so that you're doing something to better yourself in some way helps a lot - do more exercise, eat a little more healthily, drink less, do some altruistic stuff - a slight feeling of improvement can quickly lead to a "I'm not useless/boring" feeling.

As always during these threads, I'm astounded by the number of escapists who have all experienced the exact same problems... And how open you all are about it. I'm still not sharing the messed-up-ness that is my mind though.

 

[UnusualStranger]

I have always examined people over this sort of thing. Reminds me of how messed up I am.

Yeah, I'm filled with self loathing. Quite a bit of it actually. I'm quite certain I might be doing a lot of people a lot of favors by ending up dead. I mean, what the hell is the point?

Yeah, I try to keep that particular mind of myself under wraps. I think it is a little too dangerous to ask anyone for help on that.

Though I do have advice to give to others. While it doesn't work for me, I am absolutely terrible at figuring out where I stand.

So, go out, and try to meet up with people. Friends who you can simply sit around and BS with. Make the discussion ridiculous. Make it on what your plans would be if the Zombie Apocalypse broke out right there, or argue whether peanut butter is more peanuts or buttery. Have a conversation that is entertaining.

If your friends are gone, do something that gets you with others, Go to a bowling ally, see if you can find a fun group of people, then ask if you can join them. Make sure you don't try to free ride, pay for yourself. Introduce yourself, and give it a shot. People are interesting like that.

If you don't have anything like that, I suggest you take up something that is worthwhile personally. Clean your room up completely. Take a long shower, do a few pushups and situps every now and then. Do dishes by hand at your own pace, while listening to some music.

And if all else fails, find some people on here. Most of us are decent human beings, and are willing to help out. Send a message, and ask about chatting about things. I'm willing to bet quite a few of us can be good help.

 

[hurfdurp]

People need to find a purpose in order to feel useful and good about themselves. You should invest more time in things you know you are good at, and that should alleviate some of the doubts you have about yourself.