Dealing with stress

[SweetShark]

Honestly...I don't know. I don't follow a "strategy" to make go away your depression. You can't in my opinion.
I don't know how bad is your situation, but for sure don't expect magically your depression will disappear in one day.
I think time is the best healer. A painful time for sure, but I want to believe you reach at last to a point you say yourself "enough!". But even saying that, people react differently from others.
Like many people

 

[Little Woodsman]

I indulge in waaaaayy too much escapism... not just the Escapist magazine but all of the fantasy worlds that I love, MLP, Pokemon, Urusei Yatsura, Oh! My Goddess!, any world that is not our world is where my mind goes when I'm depressed.
It can become a problem when the escapism interferes with real-world responsibilities.

 

[DrStrangelove]

I tend to get stuck in a rut of depression. The way I tend to get myself out of it is by spending time with friends or hopping into Minecraft. The act of breaking blocks helps me to get out of my head.

I tend to make myself more depressed when I am stuck in my head, so just surrounding yourself with things that can distract you from yourself can help get you out of the pit of depression.

 

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

I usually don't do anything, and I normally don't talk about it.

Which then leads to exploding when no one is around months later and then just either going on as many jogs as I can, mad running is a very bad idea, or throw on a game Like God of War and kill all the things.

Depression?

Well, I don't talk about it and I just wallow in it until my brain has decided that enough is enough. Ya know, clearly the best thing to do ever. >.>

 

[Barbas]

I tend to get stuck in a rut of depression. The way I tend to get myself out of it is by spending time with friends or hopping into Minecraft. The act of breaking blocks helps me to get out of my head.

I tend to make myself more depressed when I am stuck in my head, so just surrounding yourself with things that can distract you from yourself can help get you out of the pit of depression.

That game is a cracker for relieving stress and furthering creativity. In all your hours of play, what was the most inspiring thing you have ever built?

I usually don't do anything, and I normally don't talk about it.

Which then leads to exploding when no one is around months later and then just either going on as many jogs as I can, mad running is a very bad idea, or throw on a game Like God of War and kill all the things.

Depression?

Well, I don't talk about it and I just wallow in it until my brain has decided that enough is enough. Ya know, clearly the best thing to do ever. >.>

Here's hoping it never results in anything like the carnage depicted in your avatar picture. O.O

 

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

I usually don't do anything, and I normally don't talk about it.

Which then leads to exploding when no one is around months later and then just either going on as many jogs as I can, mad running is a very bad idea, or throw on a game Like God of War and kill all the things.

Depression?

Well, I don't talk about it and I just wallow in it until my brain has decided that enough is enough. Ya know, clearly the best thing to do ever. >.>

Here's hoping it never results in anything like the carnage depicted in your avatar picture. O.O

Maaaaaaaaaybeeeeeee... >.>

<..>

*cough*

But no, it's nothing that dramatic. It's really more like I throw my hands up in the air with a mighty 'fuck this' and do something to make myself feel better, like play God of War. Granted, BL2 could be that game, but my mysterious online buddy seems to have disappeared and I have no one to shoot things with.

 

[Tzzimy]

CHOCOLATE. LOTS OF CHOCOLATE.
And some relaxing classical guitar music (preferably heavy/death metal covers).
And then going out to play some basketball.

 

[Euryalus]

Lately though it's been getting harder to do. What do you do when you feel like your life is sliding out of view and you can't seem to see a way to change it?

Presumably that was rhetorica, but Imma answer what I do anyway.

Recently, a lot of shit went that I couldn't control, and I spent most of my time stressing over it and praying/ wishing/ just hoping things would just go away, or get better... somehow.

Sometimes I tried doing something obviously futile about.

What I do more now is try to take the hit. Somethings are going to hurt either way and you can't change or control it, but you can control your reactions to it. There's no sense in worrying about or flailing around irrationally trying to change things you can't.

There's a sort of peace in it.

I stop caring about my appearance or how clean my surroundings are.

I do that normally... uhh... I mean... uhh... we share this trait. Yes... depression... >.>

But seriously sorry to hear all that

I do tend to be less organised with my room and neglect shaving, but its usually not that bad.

 

[Euryalus]

-Paragon of health post-

-Enabler-

I shit you not I've gotten that advice from family before.

Something about needing to learn to cope with things yourself and not bothering other people needlessly. It goes without saying we're all paragons of Stoic behavior in the face of stress!

Honestly...I don't know. I don't follow a "strategy" to make go away your depression. You can't in my opinion.
I don't know how bad is your situation, but for sure don't expect magically your depression will disappear in one day.
I think time is the best healer. A painful time for sure, but I want to believe you reach at last to a point you say yourself "enough!". But even saying that, people react differently from others.
Like many people

The thing I usually don't like about saying things like this, is that people assume attempting to develop a healthier pattern of thinking or doing things to relieve stress is the same as trying to make things magically disappear.

In a sense you can't make chronic depression or anxiety or anger just go away, but you can do certain things to help yourself. Time by itself does nothing, trust me

 

[BQE]

Before I was put on my medications, I used to take out my rifle, put a round in the chamber, and stick the barrel in my mouth. I would just imagine how easily a few pounds of pressure would finally draw the curtain on my little life.

I'm not trying to start a suicide thread, but for me, it really did put my mind at more ease to have the option there as grim as that description is.

I never actually got close to pulling the trigger, it never made sense to me. I reasoned that I had work yet uncomplete and a purpose to yet to discover.

I'm different now, the meds have really...changed me, and how I think and see things.

Fun times.

 

[SweetShark]

The thing I usually don't like about saying things like this, is that people assume attempting to develop a healthier pattern of thinking or doing things to relieve stress is the same as trying to make things magically disappear.

In a sense you can't make chronic depression or anxiety or anger just go away, but you can do certain things to help yourself. Time by itself does nothing, trust me

As I said, I don't do something specific to relief my depression more quickly. I just do things as I did before and with the time I overcoming the depression.
Now I must address I never had a VERY big depression in my life, so of course my advise isn't solid.
I just let it "flow" as it is. I don't do something special to overcome it. After a while, I am ok.
If you have a way to make yourself less depressing, good for you. But again, this need time no matter what are you doing.
Even if for a moment forget your personal problems, you will remember them again and you will become depress again.
Now...even I said it need time overcome it, is different from person to person.
Maybe it will take a week, or a month or a year, or even years to overcome it. That why i said that in the beginning of my first post. I just don't know.

 

[Drummodino]

I think time is the best healer.

As much as it sucks, I have to agree with this. Obviously you can take steps to speed up the process but there's no quick fix, easy solution to stress or depression. When I get depressed nothing seems to make me smile or get happy. I start thinking really negative thoughts and I'll isolate myself from everyone I know. I'll usually lose myself in a combination of music and novels. They help me because they are a distraction from whatever is the cause of my problems.

Over time I find the issues tend to fade a little. They don't go away, but they're easier to handle and I can be a more positive and happy person.

Whenever I'm stressed it's usually because I have a buttload of work to do. The easiest way to deal with that is just to do some of it really. Pushing through the lethargy and getting that essay done or studying for 3 hours can lift such a weight off of your shoulders and you really feel like you've achieved something.

 

[TehCookie]

Does anyone else find it ironic when someone complains about hitting rock bottom on the internet? I always imagined it as being homeless and jobless in winter dumpster diving for food. If I feel like my life sucks I like to look at what I have and be thankful it's not worse.

Though when I'm depressed I withdraw to my room and avoid all contact with people. If it's not bad I'll play games, read books, and surf the web like normal but other times I'll sleep all day. I don't each much when I'm depressed because that involves leaving my room, but I usually keep a stash of food and water to avoid that. Taking the time off to relax makes it go away in a few days, but if I have to leave my room for something like school or work it can take a while to get over it.

Stressed is much harder to deal with and I like to pretend it doesn't exist until I snap, which has been getting progressively worse and worse. Usually when I snap it's not getting angry, but being so absorbed in worry or stress I completely cut myself off from the outside world. Which can be as simple as mixing up glass cleaner and disinfectant when cleaning or the most recent episode of having a panic attack on the expressway and crashing.

In case you can't tell I'm introverted to the extreme.

 

[username sucks]

I try to contain myself by writing a bit of poetry, working on a story I have or listening to music by itself. I rarely share my poetry and never share my stories, but they still have a calming effect on me. When I do any of the above listed things, it feels like I'm someone else for a bit, and that is a great feeling sometimes.

I used the words "contain myself" because stress tends to get me angry. No, not just angry, enraged. At everything. I break things, shout gibberish at the top of my lungs, and make hell for anyone who happens to be around me.

The last time I snapped like that I ended up putting a noose around my neck after I got my senses back. That was 3 months ago. I have changed the whole way I look at life since then so that I hardly get stressed in the first place, because I sure as hell don't want to die but I was just a few seconds from hanging myself before I realized that.

It scared the hell out of me. I've decided that my life is more valuable than whatever I have to gain by simultaneously working myself to death and dealing with my messed up family.

 

[Euryalus]

Does anyone else find it ironic when someone complains about hitting rock bottom on the internet? I always imagined it as being homeless and jobless in winter dumpster diving for food. If I feel like my life sucks I like to look at what I have and be thankful it's not worse.

So I hit silt bottom then. *shrugs*

I can always think of it being worse. I am aware of what I have to grateful of. Don't get me wrong.

It's just a turn of phrase. No need for eye rolling seeing as how I didn't even say what happened.

 

[FPLOON]

One word: Hentai

I know what you're thinking... and yes, I do have certain hentai series I just watch for their story... (Thanks for asking...)

On a bit more of a serious note, I do lots and lots of writing with nothing but a pencil (that may or may not have an eraser on it) and random sheets of paper that I keep in a magazine holder... It's an interesting look within my own psyche once I'm begin to re-read them back to myself when it's mostly boredom (and not stress) I'm dealing with...

Other than that, I still continue to do the same thing I usually do on a daily-ish basis... (My poker face is solid... *begins singing* Solid as a rock!)

 

[DrStrangelove]

I tend to get stuck in a rut of depression. The way I tend to get myself out of it is by spending time with friends or hopping into Minecraft. The act of breaking blocks helps me to get out of my head.

I tend to make myself more depressed when I am stuck in my head, so just surrounding yourself with things that can distract you from yourself can help get you out of the pit of depression.

That game is a cracker for relieving stress and furthering creativity. In all your hours of play, what was the most inspiring thing you have ever built?

Honestly the things I am most proud of are my tunnels. I've dug some seriously long tunnels and rarely, if ever, make it to the surface.

 

[Barbas]

I tend to get stuck in a rut of depression. The way I tend to get myself out of it is by spending time with friends or hopping into Minecraft. The act of breaking blocks helps me to get out of my head.

I tend to make myself more depressed when I am stuck in my head, so just surrounding yourself with things that can distract you from yourself can help get you out of the pit of depression.

That game is a cracker for relieving stress and furthering creativity. In all your hours of play, what was the most inspiring thing you have ever built?

Honestly the things I am most proud of are my tunnels. I've dug some seriously long tunnels and rarely, if ever, make it to the surface.

Mmm...It always seems to end in tears and lava. Then it has to blocked off and I have to tell people "We don't go there any more".

 

[DrStrangelove]

I tend to get stuck in a rut of depression. The way I tend to get myself out of it is by spending time with friends or hopping into Minecraft. The act of breaking blocks helps me to get out of my head.

I tend to make myself more depressed when I am stuck in my head, so just surrounding yourself with things that can distract you from yourself can help get you out of the pit of depression.

That game is a cracker for relieving stress and furthering creativity. In all your hours of play, what was the most inspiring thing you have ever built?

Honestly the things I am most proud of are my tunnels. I've dug some seriously long tunnels and rarely, if ever, make it to the surface.

Mmm...It always seems to end in tears and lava. Then it has to blocked off and I have to tell people "We don't go there any more".

I tend to dig at 12 blocks from the bottom so that lets me dig at the level of most of the lava. I've also started to carry around a bucket of water to make that lava turn into a pretty obsidian floor for the tunnel.

 

[TehCookie]

Does anyone else find it ironic when someone complains about hitting rock bottom on the internet? I always imagined it as being homeless and jobless in winter dumpster diving for food. If I feel like my life sucks I like to look at what I have and be thankful it's not worse.

So I hit silt bottom then. *shrugs*

I can always think of it being worse. I am aware of what I have to grateful of. Don't get me wrong.

It's just a turn of phrase. No need for eye rolling seeing as how I didn't even say what happened.

My brother uses that phrase all the time and is an ungrateful shit, I don't hear it used lightly often (it's always serious and huge drama deal). I don't know what happened but I do know you have internet access which means you have something to be thankful for. If you keep looking at the bad it makes you feel worse so look at the good.